u/theory_of_steph

Need a single ticket please. I’m trying to avoid the insane resale up charge

Update - well I just sent someone some money and ended up getting scammed so now I’m out $100 and no tickets still 😭😭😭

They were pretty crafty with it trust me I’m no boomer . So yea don’t trust this process at all anymore

Sorry this is long. I do part B home health in NYC, and work with a variety of geriatric clients. One of my patients is a 73 y/o lady I’ve been seeing for 5 weeks. She’s being treated for mobility issues, gait, weakness, balance impairments, poor activity tolerance, chronic LBP, and has a dx of grade 2 spondylolisthesis. Ive structured her intervention to be holistic and address her deficits as an entire person. Treatment has been fine so far. She’s making consistent progress. Overall reduction in pain, she’s pleasant and appears to enjoy therapy. No complaints, all good.

So I come in to see her today and she has something urgent to show me. It’s her iPad propped on table. I’ve given her two separate HEPS during our time together. She has every exercise I’ve ever assigned plugged into some AI chart which is on the iPad. Her diagnosis spondylolisthesis is listed at the top .

The AI platform ranked all of my interventions from appropriate- moderately dangerous- contraindicated .

Well like 75% of what I’ve given her is now listed as moderately dangerous to contraindicated. She’s demanding I give her new exercises because these are inappropriate and going to hurt her , according to AI. I’m floored lol.

So I ask, have you been making consistent progress so far ? She says yes
Have any of these interventions actually hurt you , or made you feel worse ? she says no .
Do you trust my clinical judgment and ability to assess your needs? , she says yes .

So I’m like why would you show me this and demand I correct/ change my approach ? AI can’t even lay a real finger on you , let alone provide an accurate evaluation. I’m confused as to why you would blindly believe this , and then present it to me as if it’s the law.

Examples of the contraindicated interventions, with
the rationale provided by AI.
•Supine marching - unnatural degree of hip flexion
•Double knee to chest with yoga ball unnatural degree of hip flexion
•Posterior pelvic tilt in supine - promotes pelvic instability
•Trunk flexion Forward yoga ball roll , creates instability and dangerous because of moving ball/ segment
•Seated hamstring stretch - creates sheer force at unstable segment

I politely asked if she would like to continue her therapy with AI instead of me ? Because I can leave 🤷🏽‍♀️. She said no, I then explained my rationale behind the “contraindicated” interventions and she agreed to continue with them as they have been overall beneficial to her.

But what does this interaction say about society’s overall decline in critical thinking? Someone who otherwise seems rational , is willing to ignore their own personal experience and blindly believe an AI slop tool? We’re cooked
You have a skilled professional right in front of you but present them with this crap like it holds any significance. Anyway she’s getting discharged next week , hope AI serves her well 😩

Sorry this is long. Me ‘33 F’ and BF ‘34 M’ have been together for 5 years . 4 of which have been long distance , I live in NYC he was in Orlando, Fl. We have also been acquaintances for about 10 years . He’s my best friend, we have a great overall relationship

A lingering issue in our relationship for me has been that I make significantly more money than him like maybe 50k more a year , he also has a son who lives with him full time (he’s a great dad , and his son is an awesome kid). For the entirety of our relationship he has faced financial instability , lives with his parents , and has essentially been broke. For context He’s a school teacher , I’m a licensed physical therapist

I have lived on my own since I was 18 and have fully supported myself through college , grad school and adult life. I’m financially stable, book and street savvy. The money issue has always bothered me , but I’ve let it slide because he doesn’t ask me for money at all , I don’t fund him in anyway. We were in a distance relationship so I wasn’t really exposed to his lack of funds daily . We would usually split dates , but he’s taken me out a fair share as well . We get each other gifts although mine tend to be more expensive (it’s really the thought that counts) .

Over the years I’ve had several conversations with him on budgeting , saving , investing , building his financial profile , getting a better job etc .

Btw I also grew up poor , In homeless shelters and without my basic needs being met so I have a lot of trauma around money , bills and financial instability. I’ve worked hard to create stability for myself. His family is upper middle class

Ok so the point , after all these years at a distance we decided it was finally time to move in proximity to each other . Since I have housing, the obvious option was for him to move in with me in NYC , we planned for his son to come up with us 2-3 months into the move once we secured a bigger apartment . We planned to basically start apartment hunting immediately. We have been planning this move for over a year and I’ve constantly stressed how important it is for him to have a healthy savings like at least 5k before he moves here , if we are going to be able to survive financially and find housing . He’s reassured me repeatedly, for a full year that he had a good amount in savings and it was growing .

Ok so he finally moves up here in June and I find out he has maybe $100 to his name, and has no solid plan to make a significant amount of money aside from getting another job as a teacher, and a part time retail job for the summer. He’s started working the retail position and has been paid about twice since. Both checks spent completely in like 3 days. Oh yea his credit also sucks for some reason. Just finding this out as well

So Reddit it’s been 3 months and I’ve been fully supporting this man. Feeding him , buying most of the groceries , he hasn’t contributed to rent or bills, I actually had to pay his phone bill . He has purchased maybe $100 worth of groceries twice since he’s been here which we consumed in 3 days . I’ve even had to go as far as giving him some daily pocket money so he can exist. He also smokes my weed, uses my expensive shampoo and body wash. He refuses to ask his parents or anyone else for money right now ,creating the illusion he’s a big Independent boy

He’s apologetic to me and has just been moping around like a sad fuck up , but I’m confused as to how he possibly thought this would work out ! I’m livid , I’m not your mom bro , I can’t believe he thought putting me in this situation would be ok . Supporting him is putting a financial strain on me , his son can’t move in with us anytime soon because there’s no savings for a bigger place , and his future money making prospects/ income are mediocre.

I love him but I’m so torn, this sets the stage for the rest of our lives together . Do I really want a man who can’t fundamentally plan for the future , take charge , hustle or lead? Plus he has a child that I would need to care for also ?! I don’t have any kids of my own and that’s by intention !
I would be going from living my peaceful independent life to supporting him and his child. How does that even make any sense ?!?
I have definitely expressed my concerns, and he just tells me he has a plan and things will improve, but how ?! I need answers from him that I’m not getting, and I’m starting to think he just really isn’t that smart.

I feel trapped, like I can’t break up with him now, he left his life and job in Orlando to come be with me, we have been through so much together, and at the end of the day he is my friend, I don’t want to hurt him . But this really feels so unfair to me ! I don’t know how to move forward . Reddit please give me some advice , thanks !

TLDR: boyfriend and I have a great overall relationship but he’s broke, not lazy or unable to work , just an underpaid teacher . We recently moved in together and his lack of financial security is making me reconsider our relationship