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My partner and I are driving through Alberta to see family and want to end up taking the US route to Vancouver where we will fly back to Australia. We want to rent an RV but I have heard mixed things about IndieCampers and wanted to know if anyone had suggestions?

It is just the two of us and we will just be parking in campsites / wherever, so we don't necessarily need a huge one.

I recently spoke to a police officer about childhood abuse. He asked me for names and contact details of people who may know relevant information or could corroborate parts of what I experienced and match my story.

I gave the name of an old friend who was very close to me at the time. She did not witness the abuse directly, but she knew a lot of the details I had shared in detail, and she knew how badly I spiralled when this person’s name came up in the media for a different crime years ago.

The part I feel conflicted about is that we have not spoken in years. She randomly ghosted me and blocked me on pretty much everything, even though there was no argument or major falling out that I know of. Because of that, it feels clear that she does not want anything to do with me, and I do not want to disrespect that boundary and have her think that this is some twisted way of getting back in contact, it's pretty much the opposite of that.

I have not tried to contact her recently and I do not plan to. I only gave the officer her Instagram handle and an email / potential contact details because she was one of the people closest to me at the time and mat genuinely remember relevant details to help as it's a historical SA case.

I’m worried about whether this was morally okay. I don’t want to drag her back into my life or make her feel pressured to say anything, but I also felt like I was supposed to be honest when the officer asked who might know anything, and she was the person at the time who best knew what was going on.

Was it wrong to give her name/contact info in this situation, even though she clearly does not want contact with me? Or is it okay because I’m not contacting her myself and it would be up to her whether she responds?

tldr: I gave police the details of an old friend who knew relevant details about my childhood abuse and how it affected me later. We have not spoken in years, and she has me blocked, so I feel conflicted morally. I’m not trying to contact her myself or force her involvement, but I’m worried I disrespected her boundary by naming her as someone police could potentially contact.