AITAH for bullying a classmate in school?
Hi, so im 17F and the dude I bullied is also 17M. At first, I would like to acknowledge. I'm not sure if this is bullying. You can judge yourself after I tell the story
. I was bullied in my previous school, and I had no firends. i was really isolated, but I really made it my goal to not give up to keep trying to change and improve because I knew i was a weirdo and that's why people didn't like me so i had to change, well then i went to high school, and i was mostly liked but if there was any issue i would want to lean from that to be better.
i was involved in multiple dramas in our class, i am really impulsive nd i have anger issues, so yeah, tho after asking a few people around me what i could've done better for these situations to happen, I got so feedback critisising me so I'm aware that yeah there must be a reason why im getting easily into conflict and it is defidenetively something i need to work on
There is this dude that's really an asshole most of the people in my clas laugh at him and just talk behind his bak how weird he is, well i mostly avoided doing that, once at the board game i had with friends, he forcefully tagged along, and what i mean by forcefully, he was asking enough times that the time girl at our table eventually said sure. While we were playing, he started to change our rules and say he won, he won, where everyone was getting annoyed but complained anyway, I said "no fuck you, this isn't your game, you are playing by our rules" he got kicked out of the game because i waslo insisted to stand our ground and not willing to bend the rules just for that asshole. there were few ore instinces like this and he went to the teacher saying im bullying him and setting people agaist him, which well is mostly untrue most people didnt like him i just wanted to say it to his face because when i was bullied in my other school nobody would say what i do is wrong to my face and i didnt know what to change about my self, so i prefer to say to him ven in a mean way what he is doing is wrong rather than comply and talk badly about him. Now the teacher said im the bad guy, and I can't even critisize hi as he insults me for being fat. I know I did wrong, and I know im doing bad right now because I'm talking about him behind his back. After all, he truly pisses me off. One more thing, during the math lessons I always try to correct others' mistakes on the board, I know it might seem a little annoying, but most of the people don't mind it and even appreciate it. I don't correct like big mistakes they do, I just say "hey, you did that calculation wrong" cause if the math teacher sees it, she'll just insult you for being a dumbass. Anyway, whenever I tried to say "dude, you are making the same mistake again," he'd flip out or ignore me. I know I could stop, but he was doing the same exercise for 20 minutes, and I wanted to do the next, so I wanted to speed it up. He just gets insulted because his ego is too high
. I don't know its hard for me to let go... Most of the class said I'm right, but still im the only one that has problems with that dude cause i only truly spoke agaist him. Oh, and also, he is treated like a child because he has autism, which pisses me off more because I know people who have autism, and they do not act like spoiled rich brats. I have ADHD, so it's just unfair that people with autism are treated like special smart kids while im only treated like a problem
. Sorry for such a rant. I genuinely want to listen to advice or critisizm cause i dont want to be the bad guy in this situation
edit:
I read through the comment, and I have to admit I am the asshole. I feel really bad cause i got bullied and now I kinda became one, and well, it's hard because I never wanted to be this way. It doesn't matter if the dude is mean or if he insults others, I shouldn't speak in such a way about him if I know im more liked and it can turn others agaist him. But to be honest, it just pissed me off that everyone was encouraging him to act a certain way and everyone would laugh behind his back; it's just cruel, and I thought that telling him to his face was a better way, but I am also a bad person to him. It's my fault. It's my fault he felt the need to go to the teacher and ask for help; he probably felt really shitty and didn't understand why I'm insulting him like this. I'm at least glad even tho it's hard to deal with my anger issues, I truly apologized to him, and I am trying to change. And even happier I am that he managed to kind of change too, and he has a few friends now, the only thing is that they all laugh at him behind his back, but that is not my problem to solve.
But still it confuses me cause when I tried to talk to anyone about this, they see the situation and say that I did a lot of bad things, but say that I am not in the wrong.
(I wanted to aslo he was, he was bullying in his prevoius my now best friend to the point my best friend was scared to go to school)