My brothers girlfriend is driving me insane
I 25f live with my husband 24m and my brother 23m and my brothers girlfriend 22f is driving me insane
2 years ago my husband and brother wanted to start a business, and I happened to be in the position to be able to cover all our bills (albeit with a TIGHT budget) so they can get the business off the ground. My brother moved in with us, he's not the perfect roomate but he was neat and tidy. They are not pocketing money yet but the business is paying for itself with a bit to spare.
He got with his girlfriend about a year ago and at first I was really happy for him, she was loads better than his previous girlfriend and things were cool.
She basically immediately moved in, and since then, nothing but misery on my side, I'm just gonna list some things that really bug me in no specific order:
She brings home food all the time from going out and leaves it in the fridge until it molds and we have to throw it out
The floor in their room is completely covered with clothes and fast food bags and cups and bags left half unpacked from a trip months ago
She's 22 and doesnt have her lisence, she makes my brother cart Her and her coworkers and her family around everywhere (and gas is not cheap right now)
She doesnt let him cuddle with his cat at night cause he (my brother) can only cuddle her
Uses her bipolar diagnosis (unmedicated to my knowledge) as an excuse for everything
Makes him wash her clothes, she also showers here and has her big computer set up. My water bill and electricity bill have gone up $50 each since she "moved in"
They fight (yell fighting) literally daily and its always something he did wrong (2 days ago, she signed him up to take her family mini golfing 30 min away, didnt tell him about it, then got mad that he said no when she told him last minute)
He works day shift, she works evening shift, and she makes him stay up ALL NIGHT (2am+) so they can have time together, so he's always tired and not doing his best for the buisiness
She said he was in a dead end job (starting his own buisiness) and he was a deadbeat for living with his sister (I pay all his bills and groceries etc)
My husband and I are both really bad with confrontation, and he mostly feels the same way as I do, but im so afraid that its gonna cause something bad between my brother and I, shes gonna make his life hell if I say something but I literally dread coming home just in case she's there.
I came up with a list of non negotiables, I guess I'm asking if these sound reasonable
If youre going to:
Use our wifi
Use the shower/wash your clothes/etc
Have your computer plugged in
Youre going to need to:
Help pay bills
Keep room CLEAN 100% floor visible
Get your license
No more:
Having brother drive your coworkers and family all over
Youre 22 learn how to drive. Non negotiable
Critters in my house
I'm sure I'll think of more but its midnight and I can't stop thinking about it as I hear them bicker in the next room. I just want a clean, peaceful home again. So I'm throwing this into the void to try and get some feedback. Thank you for your time. :)
TL;DR: Brothers girlfriend moved in, Might be related to Oscar the grouch, I just want a clean peaceful home.