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I've always been fascinated by how attraction works, and I honestly wonder if there's some psychology behind mine.

For context: I'm a big guy. Always have been. I'm completely comfortable with it (I'd definitely be considered a "bear" in the gay community).

Here's where my brain gets confusing.

I'm very attracted to bigger, curvier cis women. I love softness, curves, and all the things that make a bigger woman's body look and feel feminine to me. But when it comes to men, it's almost the complete opposite. I'm not attracted to bigger men at all. I overwhelmingly prefer slim or skinny guys—not muscular, just lean.

It gets even stranger. I also find myself attracted to slim transgender men and slim transgender women, but not slim cis women. For whatever reason, when it comes to cis women, I strongly prefer plus-size bodies.

So my attraction pattern ends up looking something like this:

- Big/curvy cis women? Absolutely.

- Slim guys? Yep.

- Slim trans men and trans women? Also yes.

- Bigger men? Not really.

- Slim cis women? Usually not my thing.

To make my own brain even more confusing, I also notice this preference carries over into adult content. I don't really find it exciting to watch a bigger guy with a bigger woman. Instead, I'm much more drawn to seeing a slim guy with a BBW. My brain apparently has very specific casting requirements.

Has anyone else experienced attraction that's this oddly specific? Is there any psychological explanation or theory behind why someone could be attracted to completely different body types depending on gender, while having such a strong preference for one particular pairing?

I'm genuinely curious whether this is something psychology has looked at, or if attraction is just wonderfully weird and this is simply how my brain is wired.

I've always been fascinated by how attraction works, and I honestly wonder if there's some psychology behind mine.

For context: I'm a big guy. Always have been. I'm completely comfortable with it (I'd definitely be considered a "bear" in the gay community).

Here's where my brain gets confusing.

I'm very attracted to bigger, curvier cis women. I love softness, curves, and all the things that make a bigger woman's body look and feel feminine to me. But when it comes to men, it's almost the complete opposite. I'm not attracted to bigger men at all. I overwhelmingly prefer slim or skinny guys—not muscular, just lean.

It gets even stranger. I also find myself attracted to slim transgender men and slim transgender women, but not slim cis women. For whatever reason, when it comes to cis women, I strongly prefer plus-size bodies.

So my attraction pattern ends up looking something like this:

Big/curvy cis women? Absolutely.

Slim guys? Yep.

Slim trans men and trans women? Also yes.

Bigger men? Not really.

Slim cis women? Usually not my thing.

To make my own brain even more confusing, I also notice this preference carries over into adult content. I don't really find it exciting to watch a bigger guy with a bigger woman. Instead, I'm much more drawn to seeing a slim guy with a BBW. My brain apparently has very specific casting requirements.

Has anyone else experienced attraction that's this oddly specific? Is there any psychological explanation or theory behind why someone could be attracted to completely different body types depending on gender, while having such a strong preference for one particular pairing?

I'm genuinely curious whether this is something psychology has looked at, or if attraction is just wonderfully weird and this is simply how my brain is wired.

I REALLY enjoyed playing this game and for me when I'm gaming, I'm more of a completionist so I went around doing all other areas of the map and getting them cleared out, before moving to the last area and thought I would be able to get to keep my game going to 100% it after beating the last boss. I got to kings peak and was exploring around and went and did the whole up the mountain thing right away and did no side content cause I was so OP to already and defeated the boss and then I could not go back to my game. While I loved the whole game this spoiled things for me and I don't want to do a whole new play trough in new game + right away. I just wanna 💯 the save input 60+ hours in. Did this annoy anyone else?

Posted this on a different sunreddit where a a gay guy was asking about if gay guys even messed around with girls and no one liked or commented and thought I'd share it where it might actually get some appreciation.

Swear to God all this is true. The 2000s were a different time lol.

All throughout hs I thought I was gay. Messed around with my bff from 13-15 till I moved to a new city and we couldn't see each other anymore. Also had blowies with other various friends and other school mates (no grindr at this time). Then my best friend (new best friend) and his gf all went to a holiday party my senior year and got wasted.

I had wanted to mess around with him pretty bad and he knew it. He was super chill and kind cocky. Real. Bde. I knew he had a huge dick from school showers and he would get changed in front of me all the time at his house and it was just a fucking hammer. Atleast 9".

We ended up back at my place and they were getting frisky and I was watching. They were putting on a show for me kind of. They were whispering and giggling and I was hard asf watching. He was slapping his cock on his stomach (guys... The thud and heft this thing had... Fuck) and she was like "I want to know who gives better head. You or me." With all my gay bravado I could muster (cause I was not about to let this offer go I and I really thought I needed to win one for team gay) and show him guys know how to do it better than girls. I told her she should go first.

I watched and her head was not impressive. No hands. She couldn't even really get more than the head in. I watched for a couple mins till she stopped and was like OK your turn. I got up and took off my shirt and walked over and got down and proceeded to give him the sloppiest throat goat head I could. Started with my hand. Stroking the shaft with one hand while playing with his balls with the other. Working the tip with my tongue and getting hard suction for a bit then went in for the kill and smallowed every inch.

Ngl it was bigger than I anticipated and I was definitely gagging a bit. Eyes watering. Nose running, but I was a boy in a mission. I felt him tense up and he definitely moaned a bit. Meanwhile they started kissing and he was playing with her tits. This went on for quite a few moments till my jaw was starting to ache. I came up to catch my breath finally and they both said "OK you win". He said that was the best head ever and that no one had ever deepthroated him before. Ngl. I didn't know I had a praise kink till that moment. Lol.

One thing led to another and she started blowing me and him I were making out. We all got naked. He ate her out and I watched and sucked him some more. I was shockingly turn on by all this. It was really hot! I was watching him lick her and paying attention to what he was doing. I got brave and thought "when in Rome..." went down on her too and to my shock he started sucking me now... It was not a very good bj, but just the idea and thought of him sucking my cock in front of her was insanely hot.

He told me I should try fucking her. He said pussy had to feel better than ass. I was drunk and horny and was like yolo ig. Her pussy felt warm asf and I was kind of into it. We traded off fucking her for like an hour. Taking breaks and playing around.

She said she wanted to see me get fucked by him. I had never bottomed much and was not sure I could take him tbh. I told them this and I shit you not he said 'well then you try and fuck me." I could not believe it. She said that would be just as hot. So I had him lay back and I got him in missionary and tried working it in. He was so tight and was not relaxing. I told her to sit on his face and give him something to keep him preoccupied. She did and after a another minute or so I finally got it all the way in.

He was moaning alot, but not as much pain and more like he was getting into it. I started giving him some shallow short strokes till he was like "are you gonna fuck me or what? If I'm gonna get fucked I want you to beat it up like a pussy" ....so I did! I started fucking the shit out fo him while his muffled moans got lost in her vagina. He lost his boner when we were trying to get it in, but I started stroking him too and to my surprise he got rock hard again.

We did this for quite a bit till I slipped out and was having issues getting my cock back in. He was still tight asf. We all took a hot min to catch our breath and then he said it was his turn to fuck me. The words he used to be specific was "it's payback time"! I got on all fours and he got up behind me and forced it in. I shot right up and punched him in the face lol. I said "it's not a pussy. You gotta work it in and give me a minute to get used to it. Ngl guys... It hurt so bad. I was not going to bitch out though.

I told her to get down in front of me figuring if it worked for him it should work for me. I ate her out while he destroyed my ass. It definitely helped distract and I finally relaxed up enough and it was feeling good inside me now. After a min of so I said "are you going to fuck me or not" playfully teasing him. This was a bit of a mistake on my part.

I think he was only putting it half way in cause all the sudden he slid all the way in. I felt his pelvis slam into my ass and he bared down onto me. I really think his cock grew 4 more inches inside me. Putting his weight on my lower back and really started bottoming out inside me. I had kind of stopped eating her out, but my face was still there. She grab my head and pushed it into her pussy and I started eating her out again. I'm not sure how long this went on, but I but it was an out of body experience.

After a bit I told him I think i needed a break. He said "I'm really close". She said he should just fucking cum inside me. I told him he's got like 2 more mins till my hole is done for. A couple more pumps and he pushed it all the way inside me and stayed there. I shit you not I could feel his cock spasming and dumping the contents of his balls in me. This is one of the hottest moments of my sexual life. We all collapsed and were out of breath.

We laid there for a bit. We did this a couple more times till she got pregnant like 6 months later and they got married and shit stopped. Tbh... The kid could be mine. We talked about it a could times, but he always said he knew it was his. We are still friends to this day. That's how I found out I was bisexual (actually pansexal now) and not gay.

I'm a pretty invested gamer and I’m looking for something new to sink my teeth into. I just finished Crimson Desert and had a blast with it, and I also loved Clair Obscur: Expedition 33.

My tastes are kind of all over the place, but generally I love RPGs, MMORPGs, action/adventure, puzzle games, and even some simulation/farming stuff. Exploration is probably the biggest thing for me. I want to feel like I’m going on an adventure, discovering things, progressing, customizing my character, checking off objectives, etc.

One important thing though:

I am NOT a “hard games” person anymore lol.

I work 10-hour days, so when I finally sit down to game, I don’t want to spend 4 hours getting destroyed by the same boss and questioning my existence. I usually play games on easy because I’m there for the exploration, gameplay loop, atmosphere, and/or story. I don’t mind effort if the game keeps me engaged, but I do mind frustration.

For example, I tried Elden Ring and bounced off it hard. Same with Baldur's Gate 3 when it first came out. In both cases I put maybe 10-ish hours in, kept dying early, never really felt like I was improving, and eventually just stopped playing. Souls-style gameplay is definitely not for me.

What’s weird is I feel like BG3 SHOULD be my kind of game because I love RPGs and choice-driven stuff… but the early difficulty just killed my momentum.

I also realized I really don’t like first-person games much. I think it’s because I enjoy escapism more than immersion, if that makes sense? I’d rather control a character than feel like “I am” the character. Third-person games just click better for me. Bonus points if there’s good character customization.

Some of my all-time favorite games/franchises are:

- The Legend of Zelda

- The Last of Us

- Uncharted

- Tomb Raider

- Resident Evil

- Ghost of Tsushima / Ghost of Yōtei

- Fable

- Silent Hill

I also randomly put THOUSANDS of hours into Stardew Valley across multiple platforms and really enjoyed Coral Island.

Some more recent games I liked:

- Dragon Age: Inquisition

- Hell is Us

- Final Fantasy XII

- Final Fantasy XV

(NOT 16. Sorry. I said what I said 💀)

- Tormented Souls

- Alone in the Dark

- Blue Prince

- Pacific Drive

- Stray

- Kena: Bridge of Spirits

- Tunic

- South of Midnight

And honestly? Crimson Desert is a perfect example of how gameplay can carry a game for me. Kliff might be one of the blandest protagonists I’ve ever played, and I had almost no investment in the story itself… but the gameplay variety and exploration loop completely hooked me and I still dumped 200+ hours into it.

I DON’T really enjoy:

- Shooters

- Sports games

- Super scary horror

- Soulslikes

- First-person games

I game on PC, PS5, and Switch.

Right now I’m mostly waiting for:

- 007 First Light

- Marvel's Wolverine

- Fable

- Grand Theft Auto VI

So based on all of that… what games would you recommend for someone like me?