u/throwawaydates69

I made a post earlier about this but it got me thinking. Is it normal to invite people you’re not that close with to a birthday get together?

I’m used to birthday get togethers mostly being close friends only, and honestly most of the time I’ve only seen people invite people they’re actually close with.

So now I’m wondering if I’m just overthinking it because it feels kinda weird being invited when I’m basically just an activity buddy with her. At the same time, if I’m being honest, it’s also kinda flattering that she thought to invite me to her birthday get together.

When I think about my own birthday stuff, I honestly wouldn’t even consider inviting someone who wasn’t a close friend. And maybe because I’m a guy it feels more awkward to me too, because if I’m being honest I don’t think I’d invite someone I’m not that close with to a birthday party, especially if they were the opposite sex.

Am I overthinking this or do other people actually invite casual friends/activity buddies to birthday get togethers too?

I’m in this tennis group and one of the girls randomly DM’d me inviting me to her birthday get together at a bar. What’s making me overthink is that she messaged me directly, so now I’m wondering if she invited everyone else in the group too or if she only invited me 😭

The thing is, we’re not even close like that. Outside of tennis, we’ve literally never hung out before and I honestly don’t know much about her. We mainly just see each other during our group tennis sessions, so I wouldn’t even really consider us friends like that.

Part of me wants to ask the other people in the group if they got invited too, but I also feel like that could be BM because what if she only invited me 😭 then the others might feel some type of way if they weren’t invited

Am I reading too much into this or does this actually mean something?

I’m in this tennis group and one of the girls DM’d me saying she’s having a little get together for her birthday at a bar and invited me. The thing is, we’re not really close 😭 we’ve never hung out outside of tennis and only really see each other when we play in a group, so I was honestly kinda surprised she invited me.

Am I expected to bring a gift?? I genuinely don’t know the etiquette for this lol

Edit: not sure if I was the only one invited in the tennis group

Edit 2: I'm a guy if it makes a difference