u/throwawyforranting

I (f19) and my dad (M70) went out to eat yesterday, which happened to be Mother’s Day, we didn’t go out with the intention of celebrating or doing something special, just enjoy eating out.
Well we get to the restaurant and we get one of those tables that share one big booth couch, on the table next to us was a couple that seemed to be on their 40s or 50s.

We hadn’t finished sitting down when the gentleman on that table said very loud and clear “congratulations”, neither my dad or I thought much of it and just said thanks.
However the lady on that table didn’t like that and started telling him he shouldn’t say that as there wasn’t a mother with us. I did hear the gentleman say “well it’s just a common courtesy since it’s a special day “

At this point my dad is sitting in front of me and we are on the corner of the table that’s the further away from the table where this couple is. Since my dad is on the older side I often read the menu out loud so he doesn’t have to struggle, I began reading and the lady from the table over goes
“well what do you think, you are his daughter or granddaughter right?” To which I answer that I was in fact his daughter, and I kind of scooted over more to the corner so she could see I wasn’t really into her argument with her husband, said husband was also not in the table in this moment.

Well this lady starts getting closer on the couch, and keeps going “well I don’t think it’s right to congratulate him, it’s Mother’s Day not Father’s Day” I didn’t give her an answer, I honestly didn’t want to answer in hopes she would just drop the issue, she obviously didn’t and kept ranting about how special Mother’s Day was and how it should be respected, while she’s going on I’m trying to keep reading the menu to my dad but she keeps interrupting since she was speaking very loud.

And then she said “actually your dad should apologize, it’s not right for him to be congratulated it’s not his day”
And I snapped back “ I don’t have a mother” she looked flabbergasted, then started backing away but I heard her said more softly “that doesn’t matter” to which I said “my dad has been both my mother and my dad, he should be proud not ashamed of it”

And that was it. I went back to helping my dad with the menu, the gentleman came back to the table they talked for a while, and they left soon after this, I’m not sure if they had already planned to leave or if she actually got so upset that she decided to leave. But she couldn’t keep quiet about how rude I was and that I was ruining her day, all this in a much louder voice than I would have liked but it didn’t ruin ur dine out.

I (19) and my dad (70) decided to go out to eat, it is Mother’s Day but we weren’t exactly going out to celebrate or something like that just eat out.
When we got to the restaurant we were seated in one of those big booth couches that have several tables across them, we were seated next to a couple (40-50s) and the gentleman on that table said congratulations to my dad.
Neither I nor my dad thought much of it, and we both said thanks. Well the lady on that table got very angry at her husband and started speaking very loudly that he shouldn’t be congratulating us as clearly there wasn’t a mother with us, her husband just said he was trying to be nice and it was just a courtesy.

Well a bit later her husband left their table and this lady scoot over close to me and the conversation went a bit like this
Her:What do you think? Cus you’re clearly his daughter or granddaughter
Me: oh right I’m his daughter actually
Her: yeah well he shouldn’t be accepting congratulations it’s not his day, Mother’s Day not father’s days.

I didn’t answer, and my father wasn’t really catching up what she was saying but she kept going over the same argument again and again. Just gave her an awkward smile and tried to get back at reading the menu to my dad. And then she told me I should make my dad apologize to her since it wasn’t his day. I turned back to her and told her that I don’t have a mother, and that my dad should be proud not ashamed of being both a mother and father to me.

She mumbled something and went back to her table. they did ended up leaving soon after, she did say some snarky remarks about how rude I was and that I had ruined her Mother’s Day.

I talked about this with a friend and was told we both were out of line, that I should’ve just told her to mind her own business and not made her feel bad. And that the congratulation was uncalled for. Idk, I did answer without thinking too much of it, just wanted to enjoy eating out with my dad