u/throwra_Invest272

im 21f, been with my husband 24m basically my whole life. im a sahw and currently 7 months pregnant. hes genuinely a wonderful husband and partner.

hes also a huge fitness freak,like missing a workout without a valid reason genuinely bothers him, so naturally fitness became a big part of my life too, which was okay with me. hes put a lot of effort into helping me stay healthy during pregnancy and recover easier afterward with workout and diet plans.

2 days ago we were at a get together with my cousins and the topic shifted to womens bodies after pregnancy. my husband started talking about how much he respects what women go through physically and mothers sacrificing their bodies for children. then it turned into a debate about whether men should just accept permanent body changes after pregnancy.

my husband argued that with enough effort most pregnancy weight can be lost, and there are tons of women who have done it. then he brought up one of his coworkers. according to him, the coworker supported his wife after pregnancy and was willing to help her lose weight, but she eventually took the attitude that he should accept her mom body no matter what and stopped trying. apparently the marriage is now falling apart and the coworker wants a divorce. my husband basically said that when someone completely gives up and expects attraction to not matter at all, it can eventually destroy marriages.

now i feel incredibly insecure. i suddenly became hyper aware of how much weight ive already gained during pregnancy. i always planned on losing the pregnancy weight eventually, but hearing him talk so strongly about it made me feel pressure i didnt feel before. hes already planning how he will help me lose the weight afterward, and I feel he mainly cares about effort and not completely giving up. but now im scared about what happens if i fail and i kept wondering if he was indirectly warning me.

i want to talk to him about it, but i honestly dont know why im feeling overwhelmed.

im 21f, been with my husband 24m basically my whole life. im a sahw and currently 7 months pregnant. hes genuinely a wonderful husband and partner.

hes also a huge fitness freak,like missing a workout without a valid reason genuinely bothers him, so naturally fitness became a big part of my life too. hes put a lot of effort into helping me stay healthy during pregnancy and recover easier afterward with workout and diet plans.

2 days ago we were at a get together with my cousins and the topic shifted to womens bodies after pregnancy. my husband started talking about how much he respects what women goes through physically, sacrificing their bodies for children. then it turned into a debate about whether men should just accept permanent body changes after pregnancy.

my husband argued that with enough effort most pregnancy weight can be lost, and there are tons of women who have done it. then he brought up one of his coworkers. according to him, the coworker supported his wife after pregnancy and was willing to help her lose weight, but she eventually took the attitude that he should accept her mom body no matter what and stopped trying. apparently the marriage is now falling apart and the coworker hates his wife. my husband basically said that when someone completely gives up and expects attraction to not matter at all, it can eventually destroy marriages.

now i feel incredibly insecure. i suddenly became hyper aware of how much weight ive already gained during pregnancy. i always planned on losing the pregnancy weight eventually, but hearing him talk so strongly about it made me feel pressure i didnt feel before. hes already planning how he will help me lose the weight afterward, and I feel he mainly cares about effort and not completely giving up. but now im scared about what happens if i fail and i kept wondering if he was indirectly warning me.

i want to talk to him about it, but i honestly dont know why im feeling overwhelmed. am i overthinking?