DAE feel like I put in most of the work having sex as a young woman
I was with my now ex for 2 or 3 years and I feel like I put in more work then he did when we would have sex or at least the lead up to having sex. we were both 16 both 17 both 18 both 19 when we were together he had basically erectile dysfunction.
i would have to suck his dick for 15+ maybe even 30 40 minutes or so each time and then I would have to get on top to 69 to suck his dick some more or ride him for a bit and he would put a blanket over his eyes sometimes during while I rode him. then he would would start fucking me for a bit, get soft then I would have to suck his dick for 20 30 40 minutes maybe an hour until he came, sometimes he would watch porn while I sucked him off. and then right after it he would turn on YouTube and start watching his YouTube videos, and he wouldn’t give me after care, we sat with out physical contact for hours after sex, watching his pick of YouTube videos. he does have autism and I should've spoken up more about how I felt about watching youtube right after sex but yeah that’s what Ive experienced.
I did gain a long stamina (considering we would engage with eachother for 2-3 hours) and I learned how to suck dick (although how long it takes says otherwise) and so on but I heard from other girl friends of mine that they don’t do any of the work, it made me feel kind of not special, which I don’t need to be, and I do like having sex and sucking dick, but I kind of wish someone put as much as I put in.
Recently this friend of mine wanted me to take his v card and I sympathized with him and took his v card. since then we have been continuing to hang out and get freaky, but most of the time he‘ll have me humping him sucking him off and all that and i tell him he can do what ever but he says he’s lazy and has joked around like “oh no i totally don’t like you getting freaky with me noooo” he does infact like it. it just kind of sucks because I feel like the “man”, but these guys want me to take control of them. again I like giving all I can give but I do wish I would be treated like the “girl”