u/tjl077

I’m M30. Single. Live alone. I have 2 dogs. I’m a home owner. I have a good job, with a lot of stress and responsibility. Only one real friend.
I am feeling lonely in this moment. Sometimes I think I’m depressed, but then I see posts on this subreddit, and just think, “holy fuck, I’m not as depressed as these people.”
Should I feel worse than I do? Do I have my shit together? Or am I damaged in a way I can’t even comprehend?

I haven’t visited this subreddit before tonight. Feeling a certain way, so I thought I’d add my piece too.

I’m 30, and I feel like life has passed me by.

I have things in my life to be proud of- I’m a homeowner, and financially stable. I’ve had a good career trajectory. I feel like I have my shit together. But I don’t really have meaningful relationships with anyone. What’s it all for if I don’t have people in my life to share with? What am I building towards?

Most of my social interaction comes from work. I like and get along with my coworkers, but they aren’t really my friends. I don’t interact with them outside of work. I’m a shut-in and they know it.

I spent my 20s working, and staying in during the evenings and weekends. I’ve been in a few romantic relationships over the years, but none lasted more than a few months, for one reason or another.

I never really had much motivation to go out or try anything new. Now I have the motivation, because I feel like I’m staring down the barrel of the next 30-40 years, and I don’t want to be alone. The problem is, I feel like I’m lacking an essential social skillset and it’s too late to develop it.

Now I’m the weird, quiet, 30-year old man, and I don’t know how to change.