u/toodlepipsqueak

One of the main reasons my husband and I are leaning childfree is the lack of sleep.

At the weekend we saw some parent friends and they were complaining about being exhausted for the last 6 years (they have a 6 year old and a 1 year old).

My husband has epilepsy that can be life threatening if he is fatigued from a lack of sleep, plus stress. I say life threatening because they are both major seizure triggers, and accidents can happen with seizures. If he falls on his head, stops breathing (SUDEP - very rare but is still a risk).

He is medicated, but he aims for eight hours of sleep a night, every single night, uninterrupted. This can be stressful if we have a party, jet lag, wedding or event that goes on late, and it sometimes comes between us because I don’t always want to leave the event early or go to bed at the same time (this rebelliousness is something I’m working on).

I think his condition combined with my mental health would make it incredibly challenging to have a young child, and I worry I would end up resenting the decision.

We are 40 minutes away from our nearest family.

For those of you who have decided to have kids, could you please honestly share what sleep has been like for you? Does it really affect you as bone deep as it sounds?

Planning a renovation next year to include a heat pump, wet UFH and new pipework.

My concern is the pipework. We have ugly 1960s surface-mounted radiator pipes all throughout the house. Downstairs we will remove all of these as there will be no radiators, but UFH instead.

Upstairs is another matter. All radiators (5) and pipes will need to be removed and new pipes chased into our walls.

My concern is finding a supplier that is willing to chase in all the new pipes. We had a proposal from Heatgeek last year and they seemed to suggest they would do it, but the proposal was vague on this, but AIRA didn’t seem to be up for it.

Has anyone here done this bespoke type of install with any of the bigger installers? E.g. Octopus