u/trillnat

This morning was meant to be our transfer of one of our two remaining viable embryos.

An hour before I was meant to be at the clinic, I realized that I only had one day of pills (doxy, medrol) left instead of two.

Immediately my mind started to reel - did I start my progesterone one day early too - and sure enough, I looked back at the calendar and saw that I was supposed to start PIO on Sunday 7/19, and I distinctly remember hustling to get my first shot done right on time before taking my daughter to her swim class. On Saturday, 7/18.

I whiffed it by exactly 24 hours. I immediately called the clinic, and they were able to hit pause in time before the embryo was unfrozen. I talked to my nurse, and she confirmed that we'll have to start the whole 8-week cycle, beginning with suppression, again. I am still waiting to find out if I'll have to pay for a whole new cycle, even though we didn't complete it.

Just so many hard feelings this morning. Mad at myself for the mistake and just fully feeling the weight of the pressure that we all take onto ourselves to be perfect, behave perfectly, take all the supplements, do all the acupuncture, never miss a beat. For now, I'm just trying to accept what I can't change and move ahead. Thought I would share in case anyone else has been here or is going through FET prep right now too.

Can someone please ask what age she's going to let Tate have her own Instagram? Because if the answer is NEVER!! then why are you putting her there now?

I'm on day 10 of taking shots of 20 IU daily for endo suppression before an upcoming FET and yesterday the side effects hit me like a wrecking ball! I've been doing pretty well until now, but the body aches are unreal, and I feel so gross. My normal dose of ibuprofen was not really touching it either. Who else is in this boat? Would love to commiserate.

Just wondering if anyone else finds themselves coping by shopping more than usual. I just started my medicated cycle for an upcoming FET (fingers and toes crossed) and so far I've treated myself to new bras, underwear, some fragrances, and even a cute box for my meds and needles. Please tell me I'm not alone!! And that we deserve it :)

First of all, I love Dr. Becky and am slightly surprised that she went on their show. Naturally both hosts showed up with their signature “just fell off a turnip truck” mindset and neither of them seemed genuinely familiar with her work—they just know she’s popular and that’s all that matters.

Anyways, the part that broke my heart a little and I had to stop listening is when Harrison was sharing how he feels Tate is soooo communicative because “last night at dinner she was eating with her hands and then she ran over to the cutlery drawer and was banging on it. Like she wanted her fork and spoon.”

I’m sorry…. WHAT????? Why are you still making her eat with just her hands? Why wouldn’t you just naturally offer those things to her?

This story is just reaffirming that not only are they not even trying to anticipate her wishes or read her more subtle cues, she’s having to demand for her basic needs to be met.

I have a kid slightly younger than Tate, which is how I got drawn into their content, and I can’t understand their lack of curiosity towards learning how to be parents. You don’t need to be an expert on parenting, you need to be an expert on YOUR child. That they have not managed that in a year and a half, I find a little distressing and highly ironic given that’s their income scheme as well.

Maybe their hearts are in the right place but I don’t know how this gets better with two kids unless they start taking this stuff seriously and stop relying on Chat and social media comments to guide their parenting.

Yall please tell me if I’m off the mark here.