u/trying_my_besttt

I cat spilled water on my computer and I didn't have my self-made Anki decks backed up to the cloud. Anybody willing to share theirs? Mostly looking for flashcards on vocab and kanji. Any vocab or kanji, I need to know it all eventually. I'd say I'm probably about an N3 level. I've been through the Genki textbooks followed by a couple of the intermediate Quartet textbooks.

Any other study resources are also appreciated!

Edit: Thank you to those that shared their resources. Not sure why I'm getting down voted for asking for flashcards. You don't have to share your decks if you don't want to, that's fine. Not sure why you all care enough about how I choose to study to downvote my post and all the comments I've made explaining that flashcards work for me. It just sucked to lose the decks I had spent years building and I was hoping to be able to keep practicing flashcards without spending hours and hours remaking thousands of cards. It's not like I'm ONLY using flashcards, I have podcasts and textbooks and short stories and videos... Was just hoping to supplement without having to start back over at zero

Hi there,

I've been going to AA since January but have yet to successfully hit 30 days sober. I usually relapse at about the two-week mark.

I have had a sponsor for a couple of months now but tbh she isn't very involved with me. She doesn't check in on me if I don't initiate contact, she doesn't take any initiative in finding ways for us to meet up regularly, she often leaves me on read for a day or two when I text her, and she's so busy that she is usually not available if I reach out trying not to pick up that first drink. She has also in the past cut our own time together short because she told another sponsee to meet her at the same place I was meeting her and they showed up before we were done so she rushed our talk. This was after she was half an hour late to our own meet-up. I feel alone and unsupported in my recovery with her as a sponsor and although I like her very much as a person and think she would be a cool friend, it doesn't seem like she's doing me much good as a sponsor.

The problem is, as I said, I do like her as a person and I don't want to hurt her feelings. I see her 2-3 times a week at meetings (if I actually go and I'm not relapsing) so it's not like she wouldn't pick up on the fact that I had switched sponsors over time.

I don't know how to kindly tell her that what she's doing is not working for me and I need more support. I also don't really know what I should be looking for in a new sponsor. So I thought I'd turn to the counsel of my fellow alcoholics.

Thank you for taking the time to read and reply.