u/trying_my_hardest_22

My occupation is probably one of the worst ones to be trans in. I work in construction, specifically I am a (soon to be) 3rd year plumbing Apprentice. I love my crew, and have been pretending to be a gay man at work and they have been receptive to that. I am pretty effeminate on site as well. I'm currently doing my second year of school, a two month program before I go back to work as a third year. Ive decided that I'm going to going to come out once I get back in two weeks. (CW TRANSPHOBIA) Ive heard alot of terrible things about trans people this year. Ive had conversations with people where they called trans people "mutilated". Ive heard us being called pedophiles, tr*nnys, she male, ect. I even had one of my coworkers flash me porn of a trans woman whipping it out just to see how I would react. I would really rather not be trans in this industry, but its what I know how to do, and what keeps me and my fiancee fed and housed (he has work too but makes alot less money than me). I don't think changing companies is going to help. I don't really pass yet, and Ide rather not be trans around of complete strangers. I will say that I am well liked at work. I am kind, forward thinking, autistically endearing, and better than many of my peers at what I do. But I'm so scared. I hate being the odd one out, and my company doesn't even have another woman on site, let alone another queer person. I'm gonna be alone in this, I'm going to be the brunt of alot of slurs, jokes, dead naming, misgendering. Thats just something that I have to accept. I have legal protections here (love you Canada), but I know that doesn't count for much day to day. I know I can take it, I know I am strong, but I also know its going to hurt me alot. I don't know how much hurt I can actually handle. Thats all, I appreciate anybody reading this far. I know this sub can sometimes just be sad trans hour, but I wanted to talk about it. Have a good one.

I spend almost all of time time around men. I work with exclusively men, I come home to my fiancee (who I love but is also a man), so many of the people in my life are men. I just find it exhausting having to be a woman around men. Being a woman around women feels so much easier, talking to them is often more pleasant, they are better conversationalists. I don't have a big group of women around me, I wish I did, but I only really got my social game going around 18 months ago. I am desperate to find spaces that aren't dominated by men. I feel like you introduce a man into a space and he fills up as much space as possible, and I'm constantly being drowned out. I'm so tired.

Ive been on E for the past 11 months, and for some reasons in the past like month ive been SO emotional. Getting very sad, hyper, angry, calm, everything. Its so difficult having to manage all of it. I don't eat soon enough and I'm crying, work goes poorly and I'm furious, my fiancee texts me and I'm head over heels. How do you guys deal with the constant switching, I feel like emotionally I have a hair pin trigger. Its so hard to adjust moment to moment, I feel like I'm constantly having to readjust the goalposts on what I need to feel ok. Does anybody have any tips for handling it all? Thanks so much :)

Me (21F) and my fiancee (20M) have been together for 5 years. He's asexual, and while we've been having casual sex (more for curiosity than anything else) we never really had to much fun sexually. We moved in with each other this year, and so have had alot more time to be physically close. Ive gotten more and more comfortable with the idea of sex. Its also worth saying that I am trans, and since being on female horomones for about 10 months, my sex drive has shifted significantly. I'm now more comfortable in my body than ever, and spend more time physically close to him than ever. Im realizing that ive never been asexual, but instead just didn't know how to have sex that I enjoyed. Me and him are at a bit of a crossroads now. Because I want it ALOT more than he does (and with the horomones sex feels alot better, but masturbation feels so blah). I don't really know where to go from here. I'm not super interested in the idea of having sex with someone else, but hes just not able to give me what I need.I'mm just kind of at a loss for what this means for me, if I'm just going to have to deal with a level of sexual frustration for the rest of my life.

TLDR: transition and moving in together have made me realize I'm not ace, my fiancee however still is. I have higher sexual needs than ever, and he's unable to meet them, although I don't want to have sex with others.

Any advice would be very appreciated :)

I love the to play, it slows me down, let's me express myself emotionally, and generally keep me entertained. Despite this, I struggle so much to actually play. I am 21, and struggle with several aspects of proper executive functioning. I am able to work, and care for my home, but on many days I simply feel to easily drawn to easier entertainment. Piano takes a great deal of effort, and I struggle to provide enough effort to more important aspects of my life. Has anyone else struggled with anything similar? Does anyone have any methods for making playing seem less tiring? Thanks :)