u/uncle-pascal

I started taking Skinda 5/6 months ago.

I was taking Brenda for 5+ years (sometimes called Estelle or Heidi) but i had awful breast pain and aching 24/7, and my doctor suggested i might be getting too much estrogen and that I should try Slinda.

The breast pain has mostly stopped which is great. But I'm extremely depressed and anxious so often. Im already on antidepressants for depression/anxiety and have been for over a decade but it's so much WORSE. i feel absolutely miserable. I dont know if it's just my life situations that are making me feel like this but it's the worst it's been in years.

What can i do to chill out and accept that someone else is living here? (probably permanently to my knowledge)

I've (29F) been with my partner (38M)for almost 4 years right now.

His mother 65F was having a lot of issues with his sister (they live in a different state from us) and she got essentially kicked out after his sister was having huge blow ups at her which sounded alcohol fueled (his sister has had many substance abuse issues and it's her house so his mother has no legal leg to stand on and can't stay there). His sister, mother, father and neice all lived together in his sister's house.

She was couch surfing with their family friend but i guess that wasn't going to be allowed long term and apparently it wasn't a gr3at environment. Bf messaged me and said 'my mother is coming to stay with us' and a few days later she got here (family friend drove her over, she doesn't drive) it felt very sudden.

Do not get me wrong - i OBVIOUSLY do not want her to be homeless and i want her to be safe. But i feel so awkward now, I dont know her very well and i have no idea what to say to her. Im a very socially awkward person as it is and i suddenly have someone else living in my place. I feel like I'm intruding when i come home and they're talking about stuff outside together, and then i get told I'm being rude because I'm not doing anything with them. She smokes a lot, and i dont want to sit with someone that's smoking because it makes me feel nauseous.

She's perfectly nice, clean, and I have no issue with her it's just so hard for me to get used to suddenly have a 3rd person living with me, and i feel selfish that i dont have more of my partner's attention. The other day he said hello when i came home and then sat with her for 3 hours chatting and i didn't want to intrude.

I like my alone time and i keep feeling bad for not participating but i genuinely feel like I'm incapable of doing so right now. It's making me feel really crap that she is seemingly living with us forever (i haven't been told anything and feel like I'll sound rude if i ask how long she's going to be here for) because i never wanted someone else to live with us, a roommate or otherwise. I feel like I can't do things that i normally do. I dont want to be intimate at the moment as I'm just - AWARE - that she's in the house and it makes me not be in that mood whatsoever and im actively turned off of it.

I'm just feeling miserable. What can i do to relax and accept that someone else is living here and I'm sort of a 3rd wheel?

dont even know what advice i can be given here or if i just need to get over it

I've (29F) been with my partner (38M)for almost 4 years right now.

His mother 65F was having a lot of issues with his sister (they live in a different state from us) and she got essentially kicked out after his sister was having huge blow ups at her which sounded alcohol fueled (his sister has had many substance abuse issues and it's her house so his mother has no legal leg to stand on and can't stay there). His sister, mother, father and neice all lived together in his sister's house.

She was couch surfing with their family friend but i guess that wasn't going to be allowed long term and apparently it wasn't a gr3at environment. Bf messaged me and said 'my mother is coming to stay with us' and a few days later she got here (family friend drove her over, she doesn't drive) it felt very sudden.

Do not get me wrong - i OBVIOUSLY do not want her to be homeless and i want her to be safe. But i feel so awkward now, I dont know her very well and i have no idea what to say to her. Im a very socially awkward person as it is and i suddenly have someone else living in my place.

I feel like I'm intruding when i come home and they're talking about stuff outside together, and then i get told I'm being rude because I'm not doing anything with them. She smokes a lot, and i dont want to sit with someone that's smoking because it makes me feel nauseous.

She's perfectly nice, clean, and I have no issue with her it's just so hard for me to get used to suddenly have a 3rd person living with me, and i feel selfish that i dont have more of my partner's attention. The other day he said hello when i came home and then sat with her for 3 hours chatting and i didn't want to intrude.

I like my alone time and i keep feeling bad for not participating but i genuinely feel like I'm incapable of doing so right now. It's making me feel really crap that she is seemingly living with us forever (i haven't been told anything and feel like I'll sound rude if i ask how long she's going to be here for) because i never wanted someone else to live with us, a roommate or otherwise.

I feel like I can't do things that i normally do. I dont want to be intimate at the moment as I'm just - AWARE - that she's in the house and it makes me not be in that mood whatsoever and im actively turned off of it.

I'm just feeling miserable as ive got other crap stuff going on at the moment and i dont know.

Tl;dr: im struggling with having a 3rd person in the house