u/und3rcoverw33b

Hey guys! Im looking for some new black girl friends both online and in person (safety is everything tho) Like I said im 25, I live in NC but in a small rural town so thats why its been hard to find other young girlies that aren't moms and married already. I love anime, cooking, eating, window shopping, working out and Jesus. But im down to do pretty much anything- i dont smoke or drink tho. I'd love to meet other black girls that just want to live their young lives, nerd out, and walk with Christ! Im down to make a discord for us to chat too 🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾

Does anyone else feel like their parents may have had better lives if they didn't have them, or if they married someone different. I'm extremely grateful to my parents, they sacrificed and sacrifice so much for me and my siblings to try and be all right. But as I get older and think about my parents lives, how they were my age but had the responsibility of caring for 3 children, how young they really were while trying their best to raise me and my siblings and have a strong marriage. How many mistakes they made just because they were young and had poor guidance themselves, and how they didn't have time, space or opportunity to work through their problems because they already started a family and were now responsible for a child's well-being. How not that I am an adult and will someday start a life less attached to them, how lonely or lost they may become. My parents and I are quite enmeshed even though they try to respect giving me my space, I worry because I dont see them engaging in life much outside of their children. I worry about how their marriage may not survive becoming empty nesters, I worry for their mental health when their children leave the home, I worry that theyll be lonely and depressed even if they dont acknowledge it. My parents dont really have hobbies or friends, Im scared my parents will become prisoned in their homes. I feel like if my parents never had children and didnt have to worry about us so early in their lives and in their marriage that theyd be better off financially, socially, spritually, emotionally, mentally and even in their marriage. I genuinely feel like they traded success in everything else in their life just so that they could be successful in raising me and my sisters. But im scared that when we branch off from them, theyll be left with nothing because they gave everything else up. Im so sad for my parents.