u/upveryhighinthesky

AuDHD parent here. I need to vent, and I'm hoping I'm not the only one in this situation.
I am losing it constantly, I just go 0-100 and I am so scared I’m traumatising the kids, the sensory overload and the EF overload of parenting my 3 yo has been absolutely destroying me. My nervous system is completely fried.

I keep looking for support, but it feels like 99% of parenting resources, books, and groups are written for neurotypical parents trying to figure out their ND kids. It feels like nobody is talking about what it’s actually like to be the autistic/adhd parent. I don’t think most people get it.

Does anyone know if there are any actual communities, podcasts, or creators out there that are specially on the parent's regulation and sensory needs? What would you direct me to? Ideally I want actual resources not just this subreddit even though it is brilliant.

My doc seems reluctant to give me oestrogen (already got progesterone) despite all the symptoms because I’m “only” 43 and according to her this means that I’d have to stop hrt after 10 years which will be too soon as I will need it into my 50s.

I feel like this is codswallop but please update me on the science. Why can’t I be on hrt for 20 years if I need it? She was adamant that being on it for 20 years was not an option. Nb no history of breast cancer in my family, or gynae cancers.

She also said that HRT lowers cardiovascular risk for the first 10 years and thereafter raises the risk. I was not aware of this. I know it lowers the risk but thought the only raising of risk was if you start hrt for the first time 10 years after menopause. Anyone got the deets?

It’s so hard to get accurate info!!