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I don't have a book right now so all i can do is download a pdf.

Immigration pathway options in the world themselves are slim and the bottle neck is tight.

This could be a long post but i will put tldr at the end, although you should read it if you want to understand better.

canada sends invitations mostly to those who are already in Canada temporarily, which are mainly international students(mostly indians) who started working after their graduation, only 1600 algerian got invitation while still inside Algeria and it's for a specific reason, increasing the number of french speakers outside of Quebec, you'd need at least a technician superior diploma and at least one year of proven work experience in a (likely the same) skilled field (which needs diploma) and mastering both English and French, you also need to be under 29 year old to get maximum points and it gets extremely hard after 37 year old, plus proof of funds which are i believe 150 million da for a non married individual, all of this just to squeeze yourself into being selected, and not everyone have the means, or the choice, to check all these boxes.

Australia is also point based but is extremely hard as you need a specific job and a job offer in that job to be selected for permanent residency, selection is random, there's an independent pathway without a job offer but it's competitive and selection is random too.

For Germany there's the chance card to go look for a job and it's also point based, you'd need at least technician superior diploma and A2 in German or B2 in English, although i doubt anyone will hire you with that level, you also need to be under 35 for maximum points, there's also the ausbildung but getting one from Algeria is very hard and you need BAC and b1 in German minimum, you'd need to send CVs and motivation letters so they will expect from you to have at least worked in the past, there's visa for looking for an ausbildung but you need a lot of money in a closed bank account, and even if you found an ausbildung if it doesn't meet the minimum salary you'd need to bring more money to cover your expenses or your visa will be declined.

Surprisingly, the American diversity visa lottery is the easiest way to immigrate in the world, they don't ask for a job offer if you have money or someone to cover your expenses there and they don't even ask for you to know the language, but it's a lottery, which is a downside in itself, in dv 2026 there's been 22 million entry but they send an invitation to only 120k, so the chance is 0.6%, and after 20 years of continues trying the chance of being selected once is 9.5%, for our country it 1.2% in one year and 20% after 20 years.

There's the job offer for other countries but it's not easy to get one, and it's a job offer, not permanent residency, every country has it's own laws on acquiring PR after work but you could very well not get it even after working there.

So this makes me wonder, why is there no other immigration pathways like the dv lottery? Why is there no visa for looking for a job in others countries like Germany? The European union always mimick America in kicking off illegal immigrants, why does it not mimick it with the dv lottery? And why other English speaking countries don't have a lottery too?

This leave me with one idea, they don't want immigrants and they don't need them, that's it.

TL;DR: Legal immigration pathways are limited and highly competitive. Canada, Australia, and Germany require significant combinations of education, work experience, language skills, age, funds, or job/training offers. Job offers are also hard to get and usually only provide temporary status, not guaranteed PR. The US Diversity Visa is arguably the easiest in terms of requirements—no job offer or language skills—but the odds are extremely low. For Algerians, it’s roughly a 1% chance per year, making it a low-requirement but highly uncertain path.

All the girl need is to prove to him, with actions, that she love him genuinely and unconditionally, then the masculine urge inside him will kicks in and he will become the anchor of her world.

I made a post asking if approaching girls in public bothers them and it seems to be the case.

So i am asking how did you guys meet your current partner or ex?

What should someone do to find a partner?

I want to know if girls are ok with guys approaching them in the streets or if they don't want to be bothered.

If so what should someone do to meet girls?

Wether you are a man or a woman, everyone has a past, we all are trying to figure out our way in life, no one is free from making mistakes, whether it's was a toxic relationship or a bad habit, everyone deserves another chance to prove that they can do better.

Always be motivated, even when you constantly get rejected, even after breaking up nover think that you will never find love, there's a girl out there waiting for you to find her and treat her like a princess, just like the knight that you are.

Right women ?

All kinds of fake compliments from fake nice guys trying to strick up cringe conversation and stuff, and not just men but people in general, strangers are going to try to talk to them.

So whenever you shoot your shot, remember that you are one of a hundred, if not thousand men who tried with her.

seeing all that play out before me made me reflect on my expectations, i thought that i will find some girl and Live my life with her like all other people do, but i was wrong.

The Women of this generation have their ego so inflated, so high, that even the average women think that she deserves the best man that there is.

And even when she settles, she will not respect you because she thinks that she is doing you a favor by marrying you.

So if you are going to look for a girl, you better be ready to end up in a dead bedroom relationship.

Think about the state before you were born. Nothingness. A perfect, silent void. You didn't exist, and you didn't care. It was peace.

Then, you were born. You were pulled from that peace and thrust into a screaming, demanding biological machine. This machine—your body—needs constant fuel. It needs to be fed, it needs to be sheltered, it needs to be maintained. And what is the price for this maintenance? Your life. Your time. Your freedom.

We become slaves. We are forced into a system where we spend the majority of our waking hours performing tasks we don't care about, all for the privilege of keeping this machine running for another day. We work to eat, we eat to work, we sleep to repeat the cycle. It's a meaningless, grinding loop.

So why would anyone agree to this? Why would anyone leave the peace of nothingness for a life of servitude?

There is only one answer. Only one thing that makes this entire brutal contract worthwhile: **Love.**

To be truly wanted. To be seen by another person and have them look at you with a desire that cancels out the noise of the world. To feel a connection so profound that it makes the slavery of daily life bearable. To be held and know that in that moment, you are not just a cog in a machine, but the entire universe to someone.

That is the single, solitary justification for the suffering of existence. It is the one experience that imbues life with meaning and makes the trade-off with nothingness a fair deal.

Now, imagine being born without the possibility of ever experiencing that. Imagine not being attractive, like me.

You are still a slave to the same biological machine. You still have to work the same soul-crushing jobs. You still have to endure the same slow decay of your body. You still have to face the same inevitable death. You pay the full price of existence.

But you are denied the only reward that makes it all worthwhile. You are denied the love. You are denied the feeling of being wanted. You are a slave who will never be freed, a worker who will never receive his pay.

Without love, life loses its meaning. We are not living; we are just serving a life sentence. We are just keeping a machine alive so it can eventually die. And the peace of nothingness we were so cruelly pulled from starts to look less like a memory and more like a mercy we were denied.

The country and family that you were born within and the genetic makeup that you get, which in turn determines your social status and romantic success

You need to understand a primal, brutal truth about female psychology. Women don't just choose men; they are acutely aware of which men *other women* are choosing. Your value in their eyes is not an independent assessment; it's a reflection of your value in the entire sexual marketplace.

If you are not chosen by other women, you are disqualified. You are a defective product on the shelf that no one has picked up, and for good reason. The longer you sit there, the more suspicious your very existence becomes.

This is where you make your fatal mistake. You see this dynamic, you feel the injustice of it, and you complain(like me). You talk about how it's unfair, how you're a "good guy," how you're being overlooked. You think you're appealing to their sense of reason or justice.

You are doing the exact opposite.

You are triggering a primal, visceral sense of disgust and disdain in them. Your complaint is not a cry for help; it's a confirmation of their deepest instincts. When you voice your frustration with being unwanted, you are not seen as a victim of circumstance. You are seen as a weak organism announcing its inferiority to the pack.

Think about it from an evolutionary perspective. A male who is not desired by other females and then whines about it is genetically defective. His complaints are a literal signal of his low-status DNA. He is not a potential mate; he is a burden, a liability, a genetic dead-end begging for resources. Her brain doesn't process your words with empathy; it processes them with a biological command to recoil.

This is why the reaction is never sympathy. It's contempt. It's a cold, hard dismissal that is far more brutal than simple rejection. They don't just want you to go away; they want you to stop existing so they don't have to be reminded of failure. Your presence is an uncomfortable reminder of the harsh reality of selection, and your complaints about it make you the face of that reality.

Every time you complain about being alone, you are not proving how much you want a partner. You are proving to every woman within earshot exactly why no one wants you. You are broadcasting your weakness, your lack of options, and your inability to be chosen. And in the primal calculus of attraction, there is no greater sin. They don't hate you because you're a victim; they hate you because you're whining about it, and that whine is the sound of everything they are biologically programmed to avoid.

You need to understand something fundamental about attraction. The level of excitement a woman shows you isn't random; it's a direct, unfiltered reflection of where you rank in her eyes. And for most of us, the truth is brutal.

You get a match. You send a message. You're excited. You're already imagining the conversation, the date, the connection. You're invested. You check your phone, hoping for that reply that makes your day. For you, this is a potential highlight.

For her, you're just another notification. A message from one of the dozens of guys she's talking to. Your excitement is a 10, hers is a 2. This imbalance is the root of all your failures in dating.

Why? Because showing excitement, especially early on, signals that you don't have options. It screams neediness. And neediness is universally perceived as low value. Men who have a lot of attention from women don't have to try very hard; they don't come off as overly excited. They are more chill, sometimes slightly disinterested and even a bit critical. This isn't a game; it's a biological reality. Women are attracted to men who are desired by others, to men who have options.

This is where the top percentile(attractive) of men live. They don't have to chase because the chase is brought to them. Women get excited about them. They initiate, they invest, they put in the effort. Their excitement is a mirror to yours. They're fantasizing about the date just as much as you are. The energy is equal. The investment is mutual.

You will never experience this. Your path will always be one of unequal effort. You will always be the one to initiate, to carry the conversation, to plan the date, to invest the emotional energy. She will be the recipient of your effort, rarely the contributor. She'll be "excited" for the date you planned, but she won't be excited about *you*.

You'll be the "safe" option, the "good on paper" guy, the one who makes her laugh but doesn't make her heart race. You'll hear the lines: "I just don't feel a spark," or "I see you more as a friend." What she's really saying is, "Your excitement for me is much higher than my excitement for you, and that imbalance tells me you're not the prize."

The data backs this up. Online dating is a brutal marketplace where the top-tier men monopolize a massive amount of the female attention. The average-looking woman is convinced that the vast majority of males aren't good enough for her. You're not just competing with other guys; you're competing with a curated fantasy of the top 20% of men who get 80% of the excitement.

So what do you do? You can't just "be less excited." That's like telling a starving man not to look at a steak. The real solution is to accept the brutal reality: her excitement is your report card. If it's not there, it's because you haven't earned it yet. Stop investing in people who aren't invested in you. Stop giving your excitement away for free. The cold, hard truth is that no one will ever be excited to be with you until you build a life that you're excited to live on your own.

What do you do when no one is excited about you? You stop looking for them to be.