u/urlocalgardenfairy

what the title says — i am pretty sure i have vaginismus, and i am feeling really scared for my appt tomorrow. my previous doctor who did an exam on me a few years ago when i brought up this issue was really careless with the whole thing and it was a painful and kind of traumatic experience which doesn’t help!

i plan on explaining my past with medical examinations and asking for numbing and laughing gas, but my friend said laughing gas did nothing for her

any comments on advice or experiences are appreciated!

hey everyone, i need some advice! today i was let go of a seasonal serving job i started 3 weeks ago. i busted my ass to prove myself there so i’m very upset. it was my first serving job and i worked my way up for the last 1.5 years from bussing tables to where i am now, so i was really excited. i took a lot of crap there, like one night took tables for one of my coworkers during my 3rd training shift (which i wasn’t supposed to do) as it was total chaos that night and she ended up taking home my tips from those 4-5 tables. i worked 9 hours that night and stayed till 1am, didn’t complain once and stayed positive the whole time, even when tables were upset with me because i wasn’t giving the best service as i was still in training.

training was a mess and really confusing. it wasn’t clear what my boss wanted to see from me, and when i asked for feedback, it was unhelpful or i received none at all and was just told to keep it up, which led me to believe i was doing a good job. i felt so unsupported but decided to continue trying me best.
it was about 5 shifts and before my 6th one today i was let go, right when i was about to actually start getting my own tables properly. i asked her why i was being let go, and she just said “unfortunately i cannot give you an answer at this time”.

my manager was honestly the least personable person i’ve ever met. she never really smiled and would never talk to me even if it was dead, she would only talk to me to correct me for something like standing with my arms crossed which “made me look angry and unapproachable”. she wouldn’t say excuse me if i was in her way, just nudge me over. she wouldn’t say thank you either if i held the door for her while she was running food or anything.

i’m really upset about this whole thing, especially because my other supervisor had told me she raved about me to my manager and how well i handled the chaotic night where i had to take tables, and that she saw my hard work. i feel like i got terminated because my boss didn’t like me honestly and it stings.

How do i just let go of this anger? i hate thinking about it and i feel like a bit of failure even though i know i shouldn’t. i’ve tried journaling but it didn’t help much