u/usagisuki

From my perspective, I always communicated about the reason why I wanted to end relationship or connection, and made sure they understand. So the breakup or ending of dates were always peaceful, clear and no drama.

But months later, they still came back, checking on me, or saying they miss me, some openly seeking possibility to build something more.

I’m always open to be friends with ex, and they were the ones who didn’t want to be friends, so I respect the silence after breakup. Still sooner or later they would look back.

Is there any problem in my way of ending things? Or this is a common situation in dating life?

Thanks for your advice!

If it’s just 7 years of age gap, I won’t have such concerns, but I (26f sub) see a Dom (27m) who I want to play with has a 20 year old girlfriend sub as his romantic partner. They are both ENM and open to play with others without romantic capacity.

I feel something not right because I (as 26) don’t date 19 year old college student boy, and I can’t imagine myself move in with a 27 year old man if I were 20, which still not graduate from uni but this is where they are now. Even if I’m not the Dom, the age gap at this life stage itself can give the older one so much space to set up authority over the younger one, let alone D/s dynamic is involved.

So even though both of them says they’re in deep love with each other, even though both of them seem to be lovely, her sentence of how grateful she is for him always seeing her as good, how many types of mistakes she made in the relationship, hurt him etc. but he stays with her always… all sounds not right to me. But they are loving couples with normal social circle, so I’m not sure if this age gap issue is purely my overthinking about this Dom.

I wonder if anyone can give advice on this, whether this is red flag so I should stay away from this Dom? Or me overthinking about other people’s sacred love?