u/vavvvvvv

21M here. My erections are not constant. Last time we tried and i was soft. The time before that i could do 4 rounds without any problem. I don't think its ED or some kind of medical problem, because i can get hard and maintain an erection but sometimes it doesn't work. I am sometimes not horny, sometimes ultra horny.

Some backstory thay may be useful: i tried hooking up with some random girl last year and my dick was soft and she just kicked me out( that affected me kinda). Now im in a relationship and( i was a virgin and she was a virgin) and first couple times it was very hard sexualy( i could not finish from BJ and could not get hard when i was on her) . As time moved on it got better but i still feel like i have a problem( especially because i was soft the last time we tried sex). How to stop viewing sex as a chore and having expectations in your head?

SORRY FOR THE LONG POST.