u/verybigfloppa

Just like the title says, I always find myself analyzing everything in my head and thinking about what exactly I’m doing or how I’m being perceived instead of just living if that makes any sense.

Most recent example and why I am making this post is from when I went to my friend’s wedding earlier this week. All of my friends were there and having fun on the dance floor or jumping in the pool, but I just can never do those things especially with so many people I don’t know around. I too busy thinking that jumping up and down to a stupid song is too “cringe” or worried how I look to other people there or cameras. (I am very aware that I’m much more of a loser thinking things like that than I would be if I actually joined in) Even when I do force myself to join in on stuff like that I’m never actually enjoying it and I’m in my head thinking this is so stupid.

Is this purely a personality thing and I shouldn’t try to be who I’m not?

When I get drunk I can enjoy myself fully without thinking about stuff like that, so often times with friends I try to drink so I can have fun, but that’s pretty bad to need to drink to have fun right? (Even getting drunk is hard for me because of how in my head I am, it takes a lot of any substance or drug to really effect me because the whole time before it really kicks or if it’s a low dose I’m just thinking about how I’m not feeling it or it’s not effecting me)

Kinda went on too long but I can explain more if anyone sees this and cares to have some input, also taking advice for other subs that better fit this or if anyone has posted something similar, thanks.

Looking for opinions from experienced boxers and coaches.

I’ve been training boxing for about 6 months, doing two private sessions a week with a coach and cardio/conditioning on my own. I’m not expecting to become a great boxer overnight, but I feel like I’m behind where I should be.

I just finished sparring for the second time and felt completely lost. I couldn’t defend myself at all, didn’t know how to stay in my range and kept getting stuck on the ropes, and my the “guidance” from coach was just him yelling at me to not do things but he would not tell me what to do instead.

In 6 months, I’ve mainly learned stance, basic movement, and punching. My coach hasn’t really taught footwork beyond moving without crossing my feet. He also tells me not to hit the bag on my own because I’ll build bad habits and says to stay away from YouTube and online coaching.

What concerns me is that when I ask technical questions, the answer is usually “it’ll come naturally” or “you have to feel it” instead of a direct explanation.

Is this normal for a beginner 6 months into training, or are these reasonable concerns? I’m not trying to criticize my coach, just trying to understand if this is a typical learning process or if I should get a second opinion.

Side note: my second sparring partner today was some guy in his mid 30s who said he would work with me and take it easy, which I was happy to hear because my first partner roughed me up bad and was landing 10+ punch combos. But after I landed my first jab on him he went “oh thats what were doing” then literally ass r@ped me. Is this normal and am I just a pussy?