u/vil3princ3ss

Hey everyone, we have two beautiful babies, a 17m old and a 5 month old, and during last year before our second was born we had a case opened against us due to “failure to thrive” for our eldest. It was an open and close case, cause our eldest had a hard time packing on pounds but was reaching every single milestone, still growing in height/head circumference and was happy all the time but was stuck at a blunt 12/13lbs for around 4 months even with the assistance of supplementation and eating solids and snacks. The pediatrician had reported us for not showing up to an appointment after shoving the idea of formula down our throats and calling my breast milk worthless, she ended up telling CPS that we never fed our eldest anything and that we were starving her which was NOT the case at all, we were never against the idea of it though and she would only take the formula through the mixing of cereal and purées but clearly it didn’t do much and now our eldest is at a normal weight and height for their current age. The case worker came and told us that it was crazy that we had anything opened on us, cause we clearly were feeding her and she was given breast milk and meals everyday. It only took around the month for the whole process and all we had to do was take her to our local children’s hospital for a physical and they gave the all clear. Flash forward to now, our youngest is following the exact trend of their sibling, low on the weight scale, not dropping any weight but extremely slow at gaining, and we have now completely moved to a different state with a new Pediatrician who wants to open a case on us for malnutrition and failure to thrive, but despite us having the records as their sibling and explaining that our babies are just on the smaller end of the scale the Ped regardless wants to report us and it’s exhausting. We have scheduled a new appointment with a different Pediatric office to get a second opinion, and one that supports the usage of breast milk. But if we do not go back to the one Pediatrician who wants us to force feed him with a bottle (which he does not take,) and also expects a 5 month old to gain 3lbs in a 2 week time period that we’ll be reported and it’s so crazy cause we’ve already done this once before and it’s happening again. I love my babies, I wouldn’t ever do anything to harm them and I’ve even started solids to try to assist with his weight gain but I really am at a loss of words with what to do. We live in a safe space, our house has a ton of food, and I breastfeed my baby like clock work. Had anyone else gone through this before?