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I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years. We used to both drink heavily but I became aware of problems it was causing between us so I slowed down my own drinking in order to become in control of my behavior. I now feel good about where I'm at, I usually have maybe 1 drink a week. I don't like the feeling of being drunk any more, I feel like he has kind of ruined the alcohol experience for me. A blessing in disguise I suppose.

Issues that he used to have, that have made me talk to him about needing to address his drinking, that have now gone away:

1. He used to get really mean when he was drunk. I would do something that set him off and he would get angry and say the most horrible things to me. He would always regret it the next day and apologize profusely, and always treated me with complete respect when sober (and would get very upset with people around him that were mean to their partners). A big reason I got "sober" myself was to be able to control my emotional response to his "mean"-ness. There was a rock bottom point of this behavior and since then he has been very kind to me no matter how drunk he gets.
2. He used to wet the bed while sleeping. Once again he would be very embarrassed, but also confused because "I used to be able to drink way more than this and be fine". It has now been a significant stretch of time since he has drank enough to do so, and I've actually been surprised since there were a few nights where I thought for sure it would happen again.
3. He used to drive while drunk. After a few really close calls with police (and hefty legal fees to get out of it) he calls taxis most of the time now (though I would like if his threshold for doing so was a little lower than it is now).

Now he's at a point where he doesn't really drink during the week (or when he does, it's not enough to have any noticeable outward change in behavior) but on the weekends, he still gets drunk. Much less drunk than he used to. And none of the above things happen. I used to say "I don't even care about the drinking, it's just the unkind words/piss/driving." But even though those issues are gone, I just feel so grossed out around him when he's even a little bit intoxicated. To the point that I even hate when he's stoned which is super infrequent and has never caused any issues. Just seeing him with a drink in his hand makes my stomach turn.

I want to support him because it seems like he's on a path toward getting a handle on it, but I've got this new complete aversion to his drunkenness and don't know how to handle it. Even though we live together we really don't spend much time together outside of the weekends because of our schedules, but then I spend most of the weekend doing a ton of emotional work around detachment (doing my best not to monitor his consumption or manipulate the situation to try to make him drink less, etc). It's great opportunity for practice but so, so hard. Just wondering if others have been in this boat and what they may have done to deal. I'm still pretty new to the concept of detachment and especially would love any insight from that framework.

tl;dr I had specific issues with certain aspects of my boyfriend's drinking. Those issues have since been addressed, but now I have a new problem of just hating being around him when he's drunk, with seemingly "no reason" to feel this way since none of the bad stuff happens any more. To the point even seeing him holding a drink makes my stomach turn. I've done a ton of work on detachment, and have made great leaps with not trying to control his behavior. But I still feel a lot of feelings when he drinks. Just wondering if anyone has insight or has been through something similar and can offer advice.

I got accepted (!!!) into a hybrid program that has approximately 2 week long in-person labs every 2 months or so. I'm also due for an ACL reconstruction at some point. It's incredibly flexible when I get it, I'm very much functional without it but just need to eventually to prevent arthritis. I've had it before so I know what the recovery process is like and know that I'll be fine for the online portion of classes. Given that, I figure I can time the surgery so that it's right after a lab and be ~2 months post op by the time the next one rolls around. So I'll be very much mobile, but no running/jumping/fast movements "allowed" yet. Is that degree of physical ability sufficient for what is required in labs? I figure that although most PT students are pretty fit, the programs are designed to somewhat accommodate many different body types and abilities...but not completely sure.

tl;dr I'm just wondering how able-bodied I need to be for labs. I appreciate any insights y'all may have!

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Calculator size: 28D/DD, you may find a 30C/D more comfortable.

I typically wear bralettes and tend to have to size up pretty dramatically due to the cups feeling like they don't cover enough surface area. Given that, I got some 30D bras, ie the upper end of the spectrum of sizes. I got a demi and a plunge from the Aerie "Smoothez". Both of them overall fit pretty well, almost all major things like wire/gore/straps/band all pass the test, but I had quite a bit of breast tissue spilling out the top/center (quadboob). I'm confused because my leaning bust measurement seems to suggest a projected shape, but all the spillage suggests a shallow shape. After some extensive research on shape, I'm still confused on my projection but fairly confident that I have tall roots based on the diagrams I've seen (plus the plunge bra had a tiny bit of gaping at the apex in addition to the quadboob at the top).

Because of all that, I'm thinking maybe it's a shape issue more than a size issue, and that "full coverage" is the way to go for my next experimenting but just want to make sure before I spend more time/money on purchases and returns. I'm on a pretty tight budget so sadly only looking for specific recs in cheapo fast fashion brands like Aerie/VS right now. Thinking maybe Aerie Sunnie full coverage, but not sure what size? Any insight would be greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance, this sub is awesome!

Just had a robotic lap myo on the 14th, they ended up removing an 18cm fibroid plus some other stuff (fibroids+cysts) they found and just wanted to share my (so far) success story for anyone that's nervous. It has been of course challenging and painful but honestly way less bad than I was expecting. Since I'm still in the thick of it (and bored laying in bed!) I just wanted to make myself available to answer any questions people might have about those first few days. Ask away!

I know I was super nervous beforehand and posts on here really helped encourage me! Even though I was eventually convinced that the surgery was necessary I still considered making a run for it and bailing about 10 min before lol! I'm incredibly grateful I had the surgical team I did, it's clear from the notes that it could have gone way less smoothly than it did.

My partner is trying the "drinking less" method. Overall he's doing really well and I'm trying not to be too much of a hardass. It used to be really bad but he has made huge changes for the better. He's begrudgingly pursuing counseling and I think once he starts it will be really good for him. In the meantime though, even though my emotional toll is much less than it was, and his behavior overall has been unproblematic, there are still little things that add up and still leave me with that stressed/sad feeling. Not as much as before. But still there.

For example, today I knew he would have a stressful day and want a beer. I figured if I got him and I each a single 16oz, low alcohol beer, we could enjoy them together and it could be a good way to unwind...and that way he wouldn't go to the gas station and get a 24oz 10%er. Well, we did enjoy them together, but then he said he wanted to get one more beer to go with dinner. Ok sure. I try not to nag but couldn't hold my tongue today and while he was walking out the door I said "Can you make sure it's low alcohol?" He said "Sure no problem". Cool. Except when he comes back, it IS low alcohol but it's a whole 32oz bottle. Yeah okay, "one" beer. Low alcohol. Ughhhh.

Feels like a little kid that's pushing the limits of what the rules are. And I hate being the "rule" person. I don't want that to be our dynamic at all. I just want him to make healthy choices and feel the positive changes that come from it. And he sometimes does now. Just not all the time.

He offers me some and I do what I always do, which is accept and pour myself some into a glass because I don't want him to drink the whole thing, then sneak away a few times to dump it down the drain.

Overall, the night has gone smoothly. He's only had a couple, low alcohol beers. Because of that, he's not drunk, and things are normal. It could be way, way worse. But these little things I still have to do just get so exhausting sometimes. And he didn't even want dinner...he gets most of his calories from beer...

Anyway, just needed to get this off my chest I guess. Maybe it will resonate for someone. Thanks for being here.

I'm having a lot of trouble figuring out exactly what to plan for as I see widely variable responses even with returning to desk jobs. The doc hasn't been much help in that regard, just saying without specifying an amount or even timeline. I'm getting a robotic myomectomy and have a pretty "chill" situation surgery wise, just one 15cm fibroid located anteriorly, exophytic and quite mobile. I've had three knee surgeries so I'm used to that recovery timeline but with internal organs it's a different beast entirely.

I also work manual labor that has a diverse range of tasks (vegetable farming) so my job could be shifted to accommodate my recovery - for example, doing standing tasks only (no waist bending) or keeping lifting under a certain weight - but I'd like to know approximately what restrictions are when so we can plan our task distribution accordingly.

I see a lot of variability in when people returned to various activities. Ladies that lift, do other exercise, or work manual labor, when could you lift 10 pounds? 20? 50? When could you walk for 10 minutes? 30? An hour? Everyone's saying not to rush it, but I'm wondering, how did you "know" if you were rushing or not? Obviously I don't want to push my body past the point it's ready for as I understand internal organ surgery is a very different beast from orthopedic surgery in that way. How did you "know" you were ready to start picking up heavier things, or running longer distances? How did you know if you pushed it too far?

Thanks in advance!

Sorry this is long, I'm putting out all the info I can think of in the hopes I can get some guidance. I just decided to go to PT school in November of last year so I'm definitely quite in the dark as far as best practice, and racing to put together a decent application. Any feedback would be incredibly appreciated, thanks in advance!

The program I'm looking at has rolling admissions that open June 15th. I have a bachelor's degree in an unrelated field and getting remaining prereqs at community college right now. Once grades for this term are posted I could theoretically get my app in as soon as June 30th. As a nontraditional student I feel like I need to get my application in as early as possible but have yet to ask for letters of rec. I feel like the letters (as well as my personal statement) may be what makes or breaks my application since I didn't study kinesiology, and I haven't worked as a PT tech or anything. During my undergrad (8-10 years ago) I feel like it was totally acceptable to ask for letters one month in advance, in fact people would often thank me for asking early, but Google is telling me 2-3 months? As a nontraditional student I'm concerned about delaying my application that long.

I know it doesn't mean a whole lot, but I do have decent grades: cumulative GPA 3.82 undergrad (graduated 2018), prereqs 3.78 (I wish they were higher but I completed most of my prereqs freshman year when I was in an abusive relationship, not sure if I should mention this or not). I graduated Cum Laude with departmental honors. Since starting community college I've maintained a 4.0 while also working 45-50 hours a week and some weeks also job shadowing 15-20 hours a week. I know I'm not unique in having things going on outside of school but wondering if it will strengthen my application to provide these circumstances.

As far as observation hours I have about 70 hours outpatient at a sports-oriented clinic and 45 SNF. I need to ask one of these PTs for a letter of rec.
-Outpatient PT was first, I had zero A&P under my belt at that point, and I was definitely bumbly and awkward to start. I did settle in by the end and found my niche essentially being a medical scribe and doing their documentation for them while I was shadowing which they appreciated lol. I left feeling like "no way should I ask for a rec letter from here" but I did get really (genuinely) positive feedback from the PT I had shadowed that had me reconsidering.
-SNF was after I'd started deep diving into A&P, and even outside of that I know for sure that I made an excellent impression there and demonstrated a lot of really desirable qualities. They even strongly suggested that I try to do a clinical rotation there. However I was only there for a short time so I feel like the PT might wonder why I'm asking him for a letter when he barely knows me.

So given the above information, my main questions are:
-Do I apply in 2-3 months to give my rec letter writers time to write really good letters, or apply in a month to snag that rolling admission priority?
-Should I mention circumstances regarding my grades/academic performance, and if so, where can I do this?
-Which PT should I ask for my letter of rec from?
-Other ways to strengthen my app in the short amount of time I have?

If you decided to actually read this whole thing and provide feedback you are amazing and I extend my deepest thanks.