u/wayruss

Today while I was at work, my wife was at home and there was a knock at the door. She didn't answer the locked door. My property manager let himself in and said he was here for an inspection. My wife for some reason allowed it. I have received zero notice of any kind, I reviewed the contract I signed and the laws in saskatchewan. I've only lived here for 3 weeks. I don't know what to think but I feel violated. At the very least it's unprofessional, at worst he was some kind of pervert or something

We've been together 6 years, married for 3. We met in Australia as backpackers, spent 3 years together there then came to my hometown in canada after our visas expired. We went through the immigration process to get her permanent residency and she got a work permit in the meantime. That permit expired 9 months ago and she has been unemployed since then.

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She's a very hard working person but struggles to make friends and is very shy. This resulted in her staying in the house for days at a time. I've tried getting her to volunteer or something outside of the house while she waits for her work permit, but she flat out refused.

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Since becoming unemployed, I don't even recognize her anymore. Before, she was very level headed and when we had disagreements she would lay it out in a calm fair way and we could work through it. Now, she yells at me for the smallest things and spends an unhealthy amount of time thinking up reasons to be mad at me when I come home from work. This happens so regularly I just sit in my car in the parking spot for 30 minutes after work just to prepare myself for the inevitable ambush.

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Lately she's been accusing me of sabotaging the work permit so she won't go to work and I can control her. She says I ruined her life. I really just wish she could get a job she enjoys and we could go back to how our relationship was. I don't know how long I can put up with this new version of my wife. It breaks my heart every time I see her rapidly cycling between depression and anger.

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Last weekend was her 30th birthday. I took some time off work and drove her to the city and got a really nice hotel. For a while it felt like how our relationship used to be. We ate out every meal, went to the zoo, basically any activity she wanted. When we came back home my family came to our apartment with food to give her a family birthday party. She did mention she wanted balloons, and I forgot. I admit that. After my family left she went downstairs and sobbed hysterically. I tried to console her but then she went in to rage saying I didn't care about her because I forgot the balloons. For the first time in a long time I snapped back. I was so angry because this birthday trip basically put us in financial danger but I wanted it to be special because it's her 30th birthday and she has no friends in canada.

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I told her I'm going to live at my mom's house for a while and think about our future but it's hard to picture one anymore

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