u/whonu5

Good morning! I'm here looking for help with my trying-to-be formerly feral cat and another cat we have. Phil is a reluctant formerly feral, he was attacked by a dog 6 weeks ago and has damage to a let that means he can't jump and in this part of the Mexico city we're in, jumping is necessary for survival. He sooo wants to be back to his old life outside. But, here he is, reluctantly in our house, hoping for a way outside. We have three other cats; two are not at all concerned with Phil's place here, but Lupita, a 9 month old, is not thrilled. She had been hissing when he was near and had made lunges at him a few times. I'd been treating the cats with chicken, letting Phil be as far away from the others as he wants, thinking Lupita (who is very food motivated) and Phil would over time get closer to each other during these sessions and Lupita would begin to see Phil as a positive, tied to the chicken treats. We had felt things were actually improving over the last few days; Lupita has been non-reactive when Phil passes by near her, but last night, it all came crashing down. Phil and Lupita have both been fixed. Phil has been here for over 3 weeks. He spent the first two in a room by himself, then with a baby gate in the doorway so everyone could see each other and get acclimated. Thre were no altercations or suggestions of problems during the baby gate time. He's had run of the house for about 1.5 weeks now.

I was on my computer with earphones on so didn't catch exactly what happened, but I was suddenly aware of a lot of noise coming from one side of the house. Pulled my earphones out and it was clearly a loud cat fight. I jumped up and Phil and Lupita came running out of the kitchen, both completely fuzzed out. Now, I must tell you, we have had several incidents of loud cat fights on our roof and honestly, perhaps it was their reaction to a loud fight just above them? I thought I heard some growling after they left, but maybe I was hearing one of them? Since then, Lupita has been more vigilant against Phil, guarding doorways to a room he sees as his. We don't allow her to continue and currently, she's gone back to her usual self, but I'm wondering if anyone has suggestions for helping Lupita be more calm about Phil? I'm thinking about using those pheremone diffusers, but honestly, I haven't had much luck with them when used with other cats. I'm going to try diffusing lavander essential oil for now becuase it's what I've got, but any, ANY suggestions that might be helpful, I'm more than open to hearing!

Sorry this is so long, thanks for reading! Photo of Phil (upper right)) while I'm getting their dinner ready (he eats in a separate room from the others)

Seriously, what is the deal with Josh, why is he there at all? On a good day she acts like a 10-year old and consistently shows him she can’t be faithful. Religion is important and he must accept Lutheranism or he’ll go to hell and she won’t be with him after death but infidelity is ok? So, the bigger question is, why is he there? What possible motive does he have to pretend this is a relationship he wants? He wants to be with an extremely immature woman who drinks way too much and is unfaithful in front of him? There’s gotta be a reason and it ain’t love. He seems like a reasonable, sensible guy. What’s his real reason?

Hey all, I'm glad I found this subreddit! I'm not new to the world of feral, but I am new to making them indoor cats. I live in Mexico and feral cats are plentiful in our city. For two years I've been feeding cats on our porch, trapping, neutering and returning them to the porch. Of course, many stick around for the daily food and Phil, my subject here, is one of those. Long story short, Phil was attacked by a dog and has leg damage that will keep him from being able to be a successful street cat. He was hospitalized for two weeks and our vet did a great job of starting the taming process. He rubs against you, is happy to have scratches and rubs, until he isn't, lol. He's good at letting you know when he's had enough and wants to be left alone and of course, that's respected. He's been at our house for over 2 weeks and has transitioned from cage to room to full run of the house during the day; nights he's confined to his room. We have three other cats and two small dogs and interactions are going pretty well. The dogs are uninterested and don't react if he hisses at them (if they happen get too close). Two of our cats are mostly disinterested as well but our 9 month old kitten isn't happy with him and hisses if he's close. His reaction is to cut her a wide berth and continue on his way or lay down quietly while she hisses away. I'm not going to say he's comfortable here, he often does that crouched walking from one room to the next and ofen hangs out places he's protected, like under couches. As it gets later, he does a lot of walking from room to room, doing a lot of meowing. He's often able to see out our screen doors to the porch he used to hang out on and he often meows out the door. I know he's much rather be outside, but that's not likely to ever happen. He's about 4 years old. We're actually fostering him, but it's likely he'll stay. I'm looking for advice and suggestions to making his transition to the world of inside and "tame" easier and more successful. Pic of Phil attached