My very first jar! It’s so new the sediment hasn’t settled yet but apparently the park near me is full of leeches !
There’s no fish in here so they’ll starve, no? I feel bad like I should remove them and put them back.
Nervous about the closed system too since I’ve never done that and always had a bubbler or open top
I’ve (25 F) never been near kids my entire life. I have a lot of mixed feedback coming from peers and the internet. Some say kids take over you and ur partners relationship and ruin your life, others say it’s not so bad. I have little experience of my own to make an informed decision about whether adopting a kid (I’m sterile) with my partner (in about 5 years) would make me miserable or not.
I’m quite fond of the peace I’ve cultivated in my life so I’m wondering just how much work a kid is? I have a severely reactive and needy shelter dog- and as disrespectful as this may come off, I mean it genuinely. Those of you who have had or known of reactive dogs- just how much more work is a kid?
I have to take care of him, he gets 3 walks a day but needs a muzzle and harness, I can’t go a lot of places with him so he needs an expensive pet sitter if I travel. I brush his teeth at night and hang out with him after work. He makes going out miserable sometimes, but at 7 years old, a kid would have already corrected the behaviors my dog cannot.
With a kid, isn’t it just hanging out with them (parenting and teaching and disciplining as you go along) and caring for the things they cant yet do on their own and maybe some sacrifices for things they want to do?
I worry when I hear people say you lose yourself and don’t have any peace ever again. And I don’t want to adopt a kid and then regret it and then ruin the child’s upbringing and/or my life. So I’m trying to make an informed decision.
Any other comparable comparisons that might help me gauge what I’ll be in for? I know it’s highly dependent on the parenting style but still.
Edit: my dog will be dead in 5 years- theres no way he can ever be around a child. Hence the timeline
Also, for those of you saying my hesitance is a red flag- I have OCD and am neurodivergent (dont worry im already fully therapized (ongoing) by a specialist and tons of money to work through the issues it causes in my life - some of it isnt bad though it just means I approach things differently). I’m analytical by nature and have been since I could talk.
I don’t make a decision about wanting a piece of cake until I fully understand the weight of my decision.