My boss is biased as hell.
I work at a corporate car dealership in the grand ole USA. I have been here 3 years. My boss is biased, and I feel like he singles me out A LOT. I'd like to add that my immediate co worker is my boss's best friend and they go to lunch together, a lot. When they do, I'm always 30-45 mins + late getting to take mine because they are gone for longer than the 1 hour everyone gets. (There have been times it was over 2 hours)
Side note - I've ALWAYS been the type of employee to communicate, even to the point of "overshare", neglecting myself and people pleasing, especially when it came to my mental and physical health and wellbeing.
it first started when I had a family emergency in April 2025 which resulted in me calling out of work. (A suicide attempt of a close family member is all I will say, and should be enough to understand the true urgency of that situation) The following day I pushed through the emotional and mental devastation of the emergency I was dealing with at home, despite not being in a focused mental state for work and crying hysterically ALL DAY, I tried to put on the best game face I had, and made an appearance. To say my boss was pissed at me, was an sad understatement. I found time between customer calls to go into his office and talk to him and openly communicate more details of the situation and the plan of action to follow (i.e. my presence at therapy sessions for f.m. and dr appointment). His response was "you really need to think about the people you're screwing over when you call in! Especially me! I had it planned to take the day off so I could mow my grass but I had to come in because YOU called in!" Also, he never told any of us he was taking that day off. I had no clue. Despite knowing the details of the situation, and clearly seeing my mental state, he had the audacity to say that his grass was more important than the life of my family member. I wanted to quit and walk out that day. But I live in grand ol america so I have to waste my life away to survive. Since then, it's ALWAYS touch and go. ESPECIALLY when I request PTO day(s). There are other small incidents in between that add to why I feel like this but I'll spare the continuous novel. My vacation for the year has reset, and I requested one day, one singular day, for a little over 3½ weeks from now so I can go to an important appintment with my husband, and be able to spend time with him after. Since I'm at work 65+ hours a week. Denied. His response?
"Inventory is the day before. I won't be here, I will be in a meeting all day. You need to take into consideration of everyone else when you request to take days off because they won't get to take lunch breaks if you're gone"
When in the last 3 years, I have literally worked through my lunch breaks numerous times when no one else did, offered to work the holidays because no one else wanted to, stayed late many times, and got screwed out of family time because of it, lol.
Yet......the last two days of the week I requested my day off, his bff, my immediate co worker, has vacation days scheduled..... lmao.
What. Do. I. Do.
I want out of here but my husband and I cannot survive on one income.