Sibling Dynamic

Hi everyone,

Wondering what everyone’s experience was with their autistic child in their younger years. My daughter is level 3 almost 3 years old and nonverbal. We have a son who’s almost a year old and like many other almost one-year old’s has started cruising around on furniture and trying to follow his sister wherever she goes. He think she is the sun, the moon and the stars and she wants NOTHING to do with him. My daughter will cry and freak out when he approaches. If he’s cruising furniture near her, she will pry his fingers off the edge to make him let go and fall down. She will push his head away, strong arm him, etc. Did anyone else have this experience? I wouldn’t describe her behaviour as aggressive but more indifferent and just a complete lack of interest with the need to maintain space. It’s interesting because she has taken a liking lately to other children but only older children, never her age or younger. I feel horribly for my son who just wants to be seen by her and play with her he adores her so much and I’m afraid she’ll never return the sentiment. He is currently presenting NT traits and very different from how my daughter was at this age. I’m also concerned about her pushing him away/shoving him away from her toys etc. We do try and maintain her boundaries to keep her comfortable ie not letting him grab her or intrude her space within reason, but she doesn’t want him to play with any of her toys and won’t let him sit with us all together on the couch. Advice welcomed and appreciated!

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u/wright1822 — 9 days ago

Family Photos - Lol

Went to bed last night feeling extremely defeated. We booked family photos and I opted to do them at the beach because my level 2/3 daughter USED TO love the sand and I thought it would be the best opportunity to get some candid photos in a low stress environment. Boy was I ever wrong. We came in through the parking lot with rocks and it was over from there- we carried her in so to not let her get distracted and play and collect with the rocks which made her very angry. Then on the beach she was whipping the sand at all of us. We were all sweating and covered in sand, she threw it in my 9 month olds eye. She was relentless and wouldn’t stop trying to elope and everytime we would get her she would kick, scream and slap us. I think the photographer thought we were insane. We brought her Uncle to help manage so that we could get some other photos in the event she didn’t want to participate, so he suffered a lot of the meltdowns which I feel horrible about but we paid $400 for these photos and I so wanted photos of us finally as a family of four for our home 😩😩😩 UNREAL

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u/wright1822 — 1 month ago