u/xmbl22

It’s painful yet satisfying listening to this.

26 years later but it feels like just yesterday.

I know you guys know but it’s just so beautiful 😭

My employer had been asking me and extending time for me to get FMLA certification for MONTHS after repeated absenteeism and often being late for work. Without going into specifics, it was due to mental health reasons. I didn’t have a primary care physician or an established mental health provider (had only been seeing them for 1 month). I had not taken care of anything health related in a long time, unless it was an emergency, at which point I’d head to the ER.

I couldn’t keep up with life anymore. I just couldn’t. I looked around online and found My Doctor’s Note. I was able to book an appointment THAT SAME NIGHT with a doctor to evaluate my need for FMLA. I had to fill out a 48 page form detailing everything. Then I had a video appointment with the doctor, and she listened and didn’t dismiss what I had been going through. I paid the remainder of my invoice and the doctor sent me my FMLA certification that night.

The mental health provider I had been seeing said “why don’t you change jobs” and “here, sign up for our $4,000/week PHP.” So he thought I was unwell enough to attend their partial hospitalization program, but wouldn’t sign my FMLA form? Lol.

What is it with a large majority of providers not wanting to sign FMLA? There’s so much stigma associated with taking leave. It was difficult finding someone who could help me, no doubt because it’s frowned upon and people are scared to lose their jobs, and so no real detailed info exists on these forums about where to go. I was advised by a friend that My Doctor’s Note was a scam and to not give them any money. I had no other options anyway and I’m glad I took a chance.

I ended up using that time to rest and get established health care. At some point I thought hey I don’t need services anymore. I’m fine and I can do without. I was wrong. I neglected my health and here I am, taking FMLA again. This time I applied for STD. I didn’t last year since I didn’t know how these things work. As someone with executive disfunction, it can be very daunting.

Anyway, that’s how I was able to be seen by a doctor on short notice and they thankfully and rightfully determined I qualified for FMLA. Literally saved my life 2x now.

Our son lived with me during the first half of his underage life, 9~years. During that time his father didn’t make many child support payments, maybe a couple, though there was always an order. I became unable to care for our son, so he went to live with his father on the condition that I zero out his child support amount. So we went to the child support office and both signed a document stating his owed amount was zero. I don’t remember what amount he owed.

Since then he’s mostly lived with his dad, but goes back and forth at least a couple times a year. He has a child support case and I have to pay.

My question is, can I ask for that amount that was “forgiven” be paid now?