u/xxx_xxxT_T

26M

Very inexperienced with dating (haven’t really tried before because I have been focusing on studies and work so never got into the dating scene or even partying like most people in their 20s I know). I had a bit more time (albeit temporary) on my hands recently and decided I should give dating apps a go

Eventually matched with a 29F. Have only known her online for 4 days

First thing she said was that she found me very cute so idk if that means it’s just physical appearance she is attracted to (I thought girls typically weren’t attracted to appearance but rather personality)

She seems like a good person and has been polite but seems way too keen when she hasn’t even met me in person. Going too fast for my comfort. Sending heart emojis and calling me stuff like honey (I thought you only do this once you’re in a relationship). What I am more worried about is her wanting to know exactly what I have been doing each day which seems very excessive for someone you don’t even know and it feels a bit tiring telling her I have been watching cat videos online or watching anime

We have planned a date next week as that is when I get off work. When I discussed the place where we should go I was concerned about her response that she didn’t want to be told where to go and that I just pick her up and take her wherever I want but don’t tell her where I am even taking her. Wouldn’t you want to know where you’re going especially if you’re being taken there by someone who is essentially a stranger to you?

Thing is I really suck at reading between the lines and I can’t tell whether this girl is already head over heels for me (which would be strange given she has only seen photos of me) or if there is some other motive behind all of this. My gut feeling is there isn’t an ulterior motive and she’s just too keen or it’s just her personality as she does step back when I tell her xyz is a bit much for me and I would like to take things slower

We exchanged photos of each other and I find her attractive but wouldn’t count myself as head over heels for her yet because I haven’t met her in person and people can be very good at presenting a completely different (but perhaps convenient) picture online both appearance and personality wise

Also struggling to find common ground as our work backgrounds are very different and don’t think we share many hobbies so have a feeling there is the possibility we may not feel the spark when we meet but again I want to give this a chance and at least meet her in person and see what it looks like. Do know people in relationships with spouses from different backgrounds and interests and it still works for them

What are people’s thoughts here? Will appreciate insights as I am new to dating

RMO

Rotated onto a specialty I haven’t done before and also have to take consults and work insane hours so on my days off the only thing I can do is eat and sleep even though I do want to do reading and brush up on things during my off time

Having to work with a very unpleasant consultant who I and other residents feel uncomfortable around. Swearing. Old school grilling and humiliation in front of others (sometimes even patients can hear it) and questioning who even let us graduate med school. Said consultant has a reputation for being unpleasant and intimidating. When taking consults I have to discuss every case with the boss before redirecting it even when it is obvious the question should be asked of or the case referred to a different specialty than us and the boss goes absolutely nuts on me for even discussing the case with them (when I am supposed to call them to discuss every referral including the nonsense ones) and I seem to be bearing the brunt of criticism for a nonsense referral when I was not even the person who made the referral

All previous consultants I have worked with have been nice and I haven’t had issues with them and have received good feedback about my work previously so this sudden change in feedback I am getting has really knocked my confidence

How do you not let this affect your confidence?

PGY4 RMO

I don’t know how everyone’s experience has been like in their departmental orientation but mine have not really been relevant to the actual job I did or were even outdated and inaccurate. Sometimes there has been no orientation at all

It takes me a fair while (2-3 months) to feel comfortable in a new department at which point I get whisked off to a new department. It’s my fault really as I wanted to experience more specialties and broaden my experience and skillsets (I at least pick up one new thing each rotation)

But this is starting to wear down on me now as not all departments are patient and they can get really annoyed when you’re still learning the ropes

Hey guys. I am planning my application for PR this year

Only thing is that I did my tax return very late for 2024-2025. It’s done and actually I got a refund rather than owing money. Only did it late because I wasn’t aware there was a deadline when I got my TFN (it didn’t say anywhere on the letter that I should finish the tax return by end of October). And then on top of that I had been working crazy hours and after work all I could do was come home and eat then sleep to start the grind again. Also worked lots of weekends and all public holidays and couldn’t even get any leave (have racked up 40 days of full paid leave unused) other than sick leave so the tax thing I just forgot about. This may sound silly that one day I happened to hear my colleagues talk about the IRS (The tax man in America who is somewhat of a villain in that story) in a joking manner which prompted me to also look at whether I also need to do tax returns in Australia because after all this isn’t the UK where I have come from and stuff probably works different here. I know from my experience in the UK I didn’t need to do things like a tax return (have confirmed this with HMRC) in my situation but am aware certain people have to do tax returns. I then eventually worked out that I actually need to do tax return in Australia even though my source of income is just my single job but I found this out quite late. So obviously tax return was done late but it’s done and I have got my refund

This year I know better so won’t do taxes late again

But this late tax return for last year has gotten me worried if this will flag up with home affairs when I apply for PR or an extension of my work visa even though I actually got a refund

Thanks