u/yaDekaC

Essentially just a rant and I’d like to hear other opinions.

We get together, she mentions if I mind that she’s been with people previously, I say no.
It appears to me that many of the conversations we had were about her previous partners.
Even though she was my girlfriend as said she loved me, it didn’t really feel like she was.
This led to me being quite stressed constantly if she was maybe seeing other people.
She often mentioned she wouldn’t mind me cheating, I said I wouldn’t. She said she wouldn’t either.
One time she discussed polyamory which I said I do not believe in nor would ever want to be in one (she didn’t ask to be in one).
At one point we were out and a man starts flirting with her, I believe this was obvious but she and her mate claim ignorance. He flirted with her and at no point she pushed him away or said she had a boyfriend.
That night I mentioned “I felt you were flirting with him” to which she exclaimed she was not and said the way she acted with him was no different from the way she acts with my friends.
A few nights later we’re out and a girl starts talking to me and complimenting my haircut (the haircut my girlfriend gave me) my girlfriend runs away from this situation.
When I next see her she says I insulted her character by stating I felt she was flirting, and that I have horrible double standards because apparently if she spoke to that girl (the one I was not flirting with) I would’ve lost my mind. She said she deserves better and subsequently dumps me.

I’m quite upset that she saw the worse in me and claimed I was childish because there was quite a lot I did for her. I’m angry because I cannot understand it and I feel like she’s cherry picked everything without actually ever giving a damn about me. The worst part is I think despite all this she was the first girl I loved and now I’m a mess. Obviously there’s two sides to every story but I don’t really know hers, I haven’t spoke to her since she dumped me. What do you guys make of this situation?

Essentially just a rant and I’d like to hear other opinions.

We get together, she mentions if I mind that she’s been with people previously, I say no.
It appears to me that many of the conversations we had were about her previous partners.
Even though she was my girlfriend as said she loved me, it didn’t really feel like she was.
This led to me being quite stressed constantly if she was maybe seeing other people.
She often mentioned she wouldn’t mind me cheating, I said I wouldn’t. She said she wouldn’t either.
One time she discussed polyamory which I said I do not believe in nor would ever want to be in one (she didn’t ask to be in one).
At one point we were out and a man starts flirting with her, I believe this was obvious but she and her mate claim ignorance. He flirted with her and at no point she pushed him away or said she had a boyfriend.
That night I mentioned “I felt you were flirting with him” to which she exclaimed she was not and said the way she acted with him was no different from the way she acts with my friends.
A few nights later we’re out and a girl starts talking to me and complimenting my haircut (the haircut my girlfriend gave me) my girlfriend runs away from this situation.
When I next see her she says I insulted her character by stating I felt she was flirting, and that I have horrible double standards because apparently if she spoke to that girl (the one I was not flirting with) I would’ve lost my mind. She said she deserves better and subsequently dumps me.

I’m quite upset that she saw the worse in me and claimed I was childish because there was quite a lot I did for her. I’m angry because I cannot understand it and I feel like she’s cherry picked everything without actually ever giving a damn about me. The worst part is I think despite all this she was the first girl I loved and now I’m a mess. Obviously there’s two sides to every story but I don’t really know hers, I haven’t spoke to her since she dumped me. What do you guys make of this situation?