u/yetanotheracckunt

Hi everyone,

I’m thinking about starting a small online support/community group for BIPOC (especially Black and African) people who are deconstructing, have deconstructed or are questioning Christianity/any high control religion. I feel so alone in this journey, obviously can’t talk to my family/church people about this. It’s a mix of culture and religious trauma that I think only other Africans/POCs can understand.

The goal is to create community, if you’ve come out on the other side maybe you can give some guidance to those who are just starting out. Answer questions, ask questions etc.

The community would be obviously be LGBTQ+ affirming and welcoming to allies.

Privacy is really important to me, as I myself am still “in the closet” so to speak. I’m thinking of using Discord so people can remain anonymous if they choose, and possibly hosting optional voice chats or Zoom meetings where cameras can stay off and pseudonyms are completely fine.

If this is something you’d be interested in, leave a comment or send me a DM. Right now I’m just trying to see if there’s enough interest before creating anything.

Or if something like this exists already please let me know.

Hi everyone,

I’m thinking about starting a small online support/community group for BIPOC (especially Black and African) people who are deconstructing, have deconstructed or are questioning Christianity/any high control religion. I feel so alone in this journey, obviously can’t talk to my family/church people about this. It’s a mix of culture and religious trauma that I think only other Africans/POCs can understand.

The goal is to create community, if you’ve come out on the other side maybe you can give some guidance to those who are just starting out. Answer questions, ask questions etc.

The community would be obviously be LGBTQ+ affirming and welcoming to allies.

Privacy is really important to me, as I myself am still “in the closet” so to speak. I’m thinking of using Discord so people can remain anonymous if they choose, and possibly hosting optional voice chats or Zoom meetings where cameras can stay off and pseudonyms are completely fine.

If this is something you’d be interested in, leave a comment or send me a DM. Right now I’m just trying to see if there’s enough interest before creating anything.

Or if something like this exists already please let me know.

I’ve been deconstructing for about 3ish years. It’s been extremellllyyyyy slow and difficult lol. Both parents are pastors, 3 of my siblings are also pastors, church 3x a week and we’re African. So you know it’s really deep.
Anyway, I’ve been feeling really defensive of the LGBTQ+ community lately. And I’m dreading being around my family on Sunday. I have to be there unfortunately.

It just further solidifies for me that I’m not interested in their version of who they think God is. I don’t know what my spiritual worldview is yet cause it feels like I’ve taken off my training wheels and trying to balance.

I just have a hard time hating LGBTQ+ people and believe two consenting individuals in love is a sin 🤷‍♀️
We all interpret the Bible so many different ways and pick and choose what we align with. I think the goal and the message is to be a good person for the right reasons. Care about the minority and those who are oppressed. Even if you think you don’t agree or it is against your religion, fight for their right to exist and be well. Fight for their right to be able to live and love freely without fear of losing their lives. People are dying and being hurt, cast away from their families, because of something they can’t change about themselves. Wouldn’t it be much easier to just act like they’re straight and “normal”? Wouldn’t that stop all the persecution and hate? Jesus would fight for their right to exist. Jesus would want them to be safe and happy. That’s all people want.

Happy Pride! 🏳️‍🌈 🏳️‍⚧️