u/yxni_xp — reddlx

Did he bad mouth me to his friends?

I did a reading about whether or not my ex would reach out and he definitely did. We talked and didn't really address the break up at all just started chatting casually. I was suspicious because he has definitely been keeping tabs on me (liking/viewing my stories/posts). I asked my friend to do a pendulum reading whether or not he had some bad/ulterior motives to reaching out and whether or not he bad mouthed me to his friends/my ex friends. It swung a soft yes, so I wanted to be certain hence I did a spread.

Ace of Cups Reversed: In general I am a huge people pleaser he was as well so we lowk broke up over miscommunication and him being unable to tell me when things were bothering him and ultimately just let it build up. At the time I was trying to reason it out why things happened the way they did so I looked to my peers for reassurance/validation that I did the best I could. I think this is like trying to tell me to heal myself and not look for validation (?)

Two of Swords: Lowk we talked but he and I haven't addressed what happened since and are just awkwardly chatting like friends

Seven of Wands Reversed: This lowk makes me think like he and I had way too much interference from outside parties when the situation should've been between just he and I

Ultimately, I have no clue whether or not he spoke ill of me. I'm trying to figure out the interpretation of this spread 😭 I will reply to this one with another spread of asking if his intentions of talking to me are of ill intent.

u/yxni_xp — 1 day ago

▲ 3 r/Tarots

Will my ex reach out?

My friend asked his guide via pendulum whether or not my ex would reach out. I wasn't quite sure whether or not this was for certain so I wanted to be more sure by doing a reading as well. I've only been doing readings for around a year very inconsistently. I’ve been told that majority upright usually equates to a "yes" but I'm not quite sure that fits in this instance.

Page of Swords: I have been reflecting on the situation that had happened between my ex and I.

Knight of Swords: I have been trying to force myself to go out of my comfort zone and find things to keep busy with so I am able to go on with my life. So I am not stuck moping.

Reversed Five of Swords: I understand this as accepting the situation and holding no resentment towards him.

I'm not sure whether or not any of this correlates to him contacting me.

u/yxni_xp — 4 days ago

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I need help interpreting this spread

I didnt really ask a specific question, it was more like "a what is the outcome of my ex and I?" For context we broke up last Wednesday. He and I loved each other very much we had a disagreement and split. From what I'm seeing this looks like I don’t have a chance and should just give up. Do I bother doing spell work or just leave it be?

Edit: sorry I forgot to add my interpretation

4 of cups r: I was a person with very deep rooted insecurities and traumas that I needed to let go of

King of pentacles r: I am a very practical person who is looking to a career that will sustain me in the future just so I never have to experience debt again. and I think that him having to experience me and my problems + the additional practicality towards career when he is a more do wtv to get what u want was his way of rolling

6 of cups r: I understand that this card is either a telling me to let go and move on or alternatively telling me to let go of my insecurities and trauma to help myself

u/yxni_xp — 6 days ago

▲ 6 r/AITAH_unfiltered+1 crossposts

AITAH for getting upset with my bf about changing his mind?

Aita, I 20F got broken up with last night by my 23M bf of 2 months. While I understand we didn't have the best relationship. I understand I was definitely at fault and tried to acknowledge the fact I messed up. It all started when I had made my usual "U hate me and want me to kms" joke while we were playing a game with my friend. I usually joke like this, with him and everyone I know. So I genuinely didn't see an issue with it. After making the joke he seemed to get a little upset and I had asked "Oh you always ragebait me and I'm just doing it to you why are u mad?" and he responded with "Your ragebait is just pointing out where I'm not enough or where I mess up." after this, I fucked up totally on my end and hadn't realized his genuine sincerity, my dumbass hadn't realized hid sentiment was serious as we were just playing a game and had unintentionally repeated the joke. He left the call with his friends and me and just left. Afterwards I had spoken with his friend asking for advice and venting. I was very sad and hurt that this was something he had held onto and had not mentioned to me at all prior and only mentioned after getting frustrated while in front of our friends. The friend who listened to me vent out my feelings had encouraged me to tell him how I felt and to also respond to how he felt when he expressed his feelings and concern. The following 3 days we had argued back and forth about what had happened and about other factors like hurts that had gone unaddressed prior which had ballooned into points of contention. Within those 3 days I had done so much reflection in order to change and work on myself because I wanted to genuinely fix things and work on healthier habits in a relationship. Ultimately, we had a very heavy conversation last night for an hour where we both brought up our feelings and what was on our minds. He ended up wanting to break up, and I had urged him to think on it for longer because I felt 1 hour to consider the option seemed too short. We had agreed after a bit to take a break and stay friends. Until afterwards he changed his mind 30 minutes later telling me I had pressured him by pouring my heart out and being emotional. Of course, I was at a loss because why not have the decency to hold firm on your decision instead of being swayed and then changing your mind 30 minutes later. After, I had sent him a voice note out of frustration saying it was disappointing that he hadn't just stood his ground and it seemed cowardly to just throw away a relationship after our first argument. He then replied that "if i needed to villainize him to move on i could" and was the last I had spoken to him. I ended up asking a mutual friend of ours for his opinion (the same friend who told me to tell him my feelings) my pov and side and it felt like the whole 3day argument and me explaining what happened and how i felt and not getting heard out. I feel like it partly may be because they are way closer than they are with me but, Aita for getting upset that he changed his mind?

Extra info:
Points of contention:

•He and I had differing opinions on how he spent his time, I wanted him to spend some quality time with me and he felt that what he provided me was all he could and that I was asking way more than he could give. (I wanted him to try and understand where i was coming from but he didn't seem to try to)

•I definitely was at fault in many aspects, a main point he had was that I tended to assume the worst in him. He in no way shape or form is wrong about that. there were many instances where my default trauma response was to assume the worst. I sorta had hoped that was something I would work on together with him.

•How his friends joked with me and vice versa. The "u hate me and want me to kms" jokes which i use all the time were something he was genuinely bothered by and had only mentioned after a while of me doing it. I understand his concern but had hopef it would be addressed privately. He and his friends would basically gang up on me in certain instances and call me r-tard or dumbass which i dont see an issue with if we were close but these were people he was way closer to than I am so it was hurtful to hear and felt rude seeing him do it w friends (Im just a girl so if this seems so sensitive im sorry)

If there are any questions on info I can include it. I just want to know if i handled it correctly or reasonably and if my hurt and anger are valid (his is too but from how they responded to me they made it seem as if it wasnt).

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u/yxni_xp — 11 days ago