My dad prioritizes his new wife over me.
Okay a bit of context i am 41 🔄 going on 51 🔄 my dad 53 got married last year to a new woman 32 (this is his 5th wife ever since him and my bio mom got divorced and he was married to another woman before he got married to my mom aswell) and im not very comfortable with her but i am expected to call her my mom. I don’t have a liking to her since she’s very backhanded when it comes to either priorities or compliments, or just saying anything in general. Last year when they got married they had gotten married in a different country since she is from there and we flew there. At that time we had sold our house so we had a ton of money (important for later) and he spent around 15-20k on the wedding alone. At that time i had been sick due to my immune system being extremely weak so i wasn’t able to do much (before the wedding), i would ask him to bring me stuff and he would scoff but he would follow through anyway. I will say i am very grateful for the things he has done for me because i do not want to come off as ungrateful. While travelling we had came back in june for my middle school graduation, i was still sick at that time so i would still ask him for stuff and it would be the same response everytime, like it hurt him to spend money on me. When we had went to go visit his wife the first time which was for the wedding he had bought her a shit ton of gifts (cost him around 400) but he would refuse to buy me a 6 dollar chocolate. Then her birthday came up in july and he had a huge celebration for it (he spent around 1.5k alone on the birthday) and my birthday was the month after (august) and back then we were in our home country (i will not be saying where) and we decided to celebrate my birthday there. I had suggested that we just invited my family members over to our house and there was no need to celebrate my birthday in a restaurant because it was unnecessary but he had insisted. I gave in and thought that would be the end of it but two nights before my birthday he started guilt tripping me and saying that i was “too expensive” and that he had spent alot of money on my birthday, i tried to bring up the fact that i had thought it was unnecessary and that he was the one who was insisting on it but he wasn’t having it. In our family, family members give the other person money for their birthday so he made all of the money back but he never dropped it and always pestered me about the fact he spent money on me, he would say it like it was an obligation and not something he had insisted on. I didn’t even receive a gift from him, or even any gifts for that matter since he kept all the money i had received. Fast forward last month was his wife’s birthday, she does not live with us since her pr is still being processed so she is still back in her home country, yet he still bought her gifts that she is not even able to receive. He spent around 700 on her gifts and celebration even though he insists that money is tight at the moment. My birthday is in 6 days and he refuses to even buy me a cake or a present because he says it is “too expensive”. I have lived with my dad for 3 years and never have i once received any presents from him on my birthdays and yet him and his wife have been married for only a year but he showers her with gifts. I have no one to ask for advice and i don’t know what i should do, i feel as though im overreacting but i haven’t once felt like im prioritized when it comes to him.