u/zaririi

Rewatching this show for the second time (from the beginning). Currently on Season 3.

I first watched this show several years back. When I first watched it, I shipped Britta and Jeff so hard. I thought Britta and Troy was a nice idea, but the execution was poor. Never liked Jeff and Annie, largely because I didn't think it was a necessary pairing and thought they would be romantically incompatible. I thought they could have been a "one-off attraction" like Annie/Troy (or Annie/Abed in the S2 Paintball Episode). But I wasn't a fan of the whole Jeff/Annie arc, it honestly bored me. I liked them as friends but I always thought Annie was too genuine of a person to be with someone like Jeff.

On my second rewatch, I now think the show should have not bothered with romantic plotlines at all. I think it worked best because it subverted the sitcom romance. I think people should have just gotten off with each other but not dragged it out into some overarching storyline. I actually liked that Jeff and Britta had this chemistry and attraction but never became an actual couple. They would have been a dysfunctional couple. Them hooking up but not really being together seemed more realistic.

I think they should have left everyone as friends with random flings but no real "potential romance". There's something nice about seeing a group of male and female friends just hanging out together and having a good time. The show doesn't take itself seriously enough to have actual proper romantic storylines IMO. Perhaps this is why Britta and Troy as a couple ultimately failed: lots of build-up, but the execution was so bad. (That and Dan Harmon not being around in S4.) I may have more thoughts on that pairing after rewatching S4.

I started a Discord group in 2023 (had a FB group but decided Discord was better). It's been mostly inactive but looking to get it growing again.

Join The Non-Feminist Community here: https://discord.gg/AFySWXZzXR

For years in men's advocacy circles I have heard (and been aware) that men in America needed to be registered for the draft in order to vote. However, just today I looked this up online and it said that this is not true.

I am slightly confused. Can someone please provide me resources on the link between men being drafted and the right to vote?

Great chat with Tom Golden.

In 2018, Jennifer and Sarah Hart, a couple, killed themselves and their six adopted children.

When I come to creating the Women's Advocacy site, I definitely want to include a clear space to address female-on-female abuse. We hear A LOT about dangerous men in the media, but not nearly as much about dangerous women.

Dangerous women exist. Men can be victims of them, and women too. Sadly, so can children.

Let's stop pretending women are entirely "innocent".

Five industries that historically were female-dominated.

Many may assume that anti-feminist women are "stay-at-home tradwives". What's interesting are the amount of anti-feminist women out there who are educated, career-focused women. Here is a list of some of them.

(Foundational Figures)

Janice Fiamengo
Suzanne Venker
Mona Charen
F. Carolyn Graglia
Erin Pizzey
Cassie Jaye

(MRAs)

Roma Army
Karen Straughan
Alison Tieman
The Dadvocate
Lisa Britton

(Psychologists)

Hannah Spier, MD
Kait Willett
The Prim Reaper
Gabriella Wolfe

(YouTubers & Commentators)

Jenny Holland
Inspiher Coaching
Shoe0nhead
Erin Byrd
Layah Heilpern

Recent video on why Elle Woods is the feminine (not feminist) role model we all need.

Feminism is largely incompatible with what most women want, which is to be a happily married wife and mother. There's absolutely nothing wrong with a woman not wanting this. There's nothing wrong with a woman choosing to forego marriage and children for personal reasons. I personally am reluctant about having children in the future.

However, I don't think we should "celebrate" being single either, and this is a huge problem with feminism. This "celebration" of being a single woman like it's some sort of achievement. It's not. Most women don't want to be alone. There are countless articles out there now of older women saying they regret being a feminist because now they are alone.

Most women struggle with worries of ending up alone as an older lady. Again, some people are alone out of choice (like the apolitical singer Enya). But a lot of women end up single by their forties and are not happy about it, because they either made bad choices when younger or had negative attitudes towards men. Of course there are women who are single because their partners were genuinely abusive and they are traumatised. But let's not forget that most men are not abusive. Most women have actually not been victims of genuine abuse. And a lot of women do commit abuse towards men and other women (and children).

I don't think we should glorify being single as some sort of wonderful thing. It's actually quite sad. I think single adults should be seen as single adults, no need to make a big deal out of it. The reason why being single carried social shame in the past was because communities were smaller, we didn't live in this digital globalised world, and people tended to spread gossip and stick to close-knit families. Need we all forget that it's often other women who shame women (Sex and the City perfectly captures this).

What are your thoughts on this?

Hannah Spier is a psychiatrist and psychotherapist I discovered a few months ago. She has a great YouTube channel and Substack and talks a lot about female narcissism, pathology, and borderline personality disorder. She provides very serious insight into female mental health in an age of self-diagnosis and over-medicalisation.

As someone who has suffered severely with mental illness, I really dislike how many online claim they are "depressed" or "neurodivergent" for performance/validation, as if it's some sort of status-symbol. It is not. Millions of people actually deal with this, and do not consider it to be a badge of honour. So I commend Hannah for her work.

In red pill/manosphere circles, women generally get a bad rap, largely because feminism has made a lot of modern women become entitled, bratty or misandrist. However, it's important to remember that in real life, many women are not like this, and do bring a lot of good to the world. Here's a personal story:

Since I was sectioned in 2024, most of the people in my care team and social housing have been female. They have all been incredible. My social workers, key workers, therapist, doctors, all have been absolutely wonderful. Even my AA sponsor (who isn't directly tied to my care team) is female, and she is great.

If it were not for all these great women around me, I likely would have killed myself.

A lot of these women are older, married, or foreign. I don't think any of them are necessarily "feminist", or at least haven't said or done anything that would give me that vibe. Many of them know my general political views and framework, and are aware I make YouTube videos. I have even shown some of them my channel. A lot of the feedback I have received is positive. Nobody seems to have a problem with my opinions.

If there was no feminism, I think men and women would be much happier, because we wouldn't be thinking about the politicisation of gender or whether or not women are being "oppressed". We would just be living life and getting on with things.

Good women do exist, as do good men. Let's not pretend that they don't.

Something I would like us to seriously start doing in this group is discussing bad female behaviour, but in a constructive way. I have been wary of how to do this, as I do not want people to start crapping on women unnecessarily. I want this group (and the future website) to be a space for discussing female issues and empowering women, but also calling out negative female behavioural patterns. This could come under the banner of women's issues.

I came across this YouTube video. The lady is autistic, and discusses a lot of issues she has faced with female psychology (e.g. women pretending everything's fine and then giving you the cold shoulder, being manipulative under the guise of caring about you, using subtleties that neurodivergent people will naturally miss). I am not clinically neurodivergent, however I relate to A LOT of what she says.

I don't like the fact that she frames this under the usual feminist framing of "female oppression/patriarchal systems/marginalised groups". However, there is a lot of useful insight in this video. Do feel free to share relevant content related to discussing negative female behavioural patterns that you may come across in future.

This article is from a man on Substack. The article is titled "Women of the Manosphere". It is a long list of women and organisations that have spoken out against feminism. Definitely worth checking out.

Cassie Jaye was a feminist who created The Red Pill documentary in 2016, which was a deep look into the men's movement. She was shocked when she discovered how much propaganda was being cast over the movement. I strongly recommend watching this TED Talk she gives. She is exactly what non-feminist female advocacy should represent: brave, courageous, talented women who are allies to men but also want to lift up other women.

I watched this brilliant and incredibly sad documentary in 2016, created by then-feminist filmmaker Cassie Jaye. She is a wonderful, amazing, brave woman. I am going to share a great TED Talk she gives too.

For those who haven't seen it, Cassie was a feminist who wanted to investigate the men's rights movement, and was shocked to discover how widespread men's issues were. She ends the documentary by saying "I no longer identify as a feminist". This documentary came out several months after I personally decided I no longer identified as a feminist. It was hugely talked about when it came out and introduced me to names like Erin Pizzey. Truly groundbreaking.

This is obviously a big, ongoing debate that personally I am rather tired of (and I am sure I'm not the only one). It seems that for the last several years we haven't heard the end of "body count" in online discourse. Everyone seems to be talking about it if they are in feminist/red pill/manosphere spaces.

I'll be honest: I have slept with a lot of people, and no one has ever made a big deal about this, nor shown to overtly care. Most people (male and female) shrug it off as no big deal, even if they themselves have not been with many people.

I would say perhaps this is a generational thing, but the body count discussion is rampant in my generation (Gen Z). Perhaps it's partly because I live in London. But even in my YouTube videos where in passing I have mentioned that I've been with a lot of men, nobody says anything about it.

There are serious, evolutionary reasons as to why low partner count in women was historically emphasised. Paternity, lack of birth control, risk of STDs, and also to protect women. The sexual revolution meant that a lot of women lost their bargaining power. Because so many modern women are happy to have sex quickly with men, it has actually made securing longevity much harder. A lot of men are rather forthcoming in asking or pushing for sex, and a lot of women have no qualms about hopping into bed with men they barely know.

Modern western culture is geared towards this nihilistic attitude around sex, and I think it just hurts male and female relationships. Instead of people prioritising genuine commitment, we prioritise short-term gratification.

Sure, casual sex is fun, in the same way that smoking weed or binge-drinking is fun. But long-term it doesn't provide any emotional or psychological satisfaction. Women are far more likely than men to regret casual sexual encounters.

So, to answer the question: should women lie about their number?

Here's my personal view.

If a woman is in a secure, committed relationship with a man, and they have both established mutual commitment, and both feel that it's necessary to have an honest conversation about this, I say tell the truth. Don't lie. Because someone who genuinely cares for you isn't going to look down on you because of your past, if you are frank and honest with them. The way I see it, it's no different to someone having a past of addiction. And if the person you are with doesn't like it, why stay with them? Wouldn't you rather be with someone who accepts your flaws instead of using them against you?

Obviously, the nature of the promiscuity matters, and everyones definition of "many partners" differs. For some, it would be 10+ partners, for some it would be 20+, for some it would be 50+, and so on. I also think there's a big difference between sleeping with other single people, vs sleeping with lots of married men, or cheating on previous partners. Single people sleeping with other single people are not really hurting anyone. Sleeping with married men or being a serial cheater is incredibly disdainful, by many people's standards. (Of course, sleeping with other single people is also disdainful by some people's standards, so this is subjective.)

Most people are not as morally "pure" as they may pretend to be. Pretty much everybody has done something morally compromising in their life, or would be perceived as morally compromising to others. Let's not pretend that those who look down on others for high body counts have a near-perfect past either. We don't know what they may or may not have done.

Men have every right to not want a woman with a high body count, but the sensible thing for women who do have a high number is to just not get into a relationship with someone who makes a fuss about it. There are 4 billion men in the world. Even if 99% of men cared about your past, that leaves 40 million men who genuinely may not care.

Let's not encourage women to lie and hide their past. Let's encourage honesty, because a relationship based on lies is not healthy.