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I’ve been thinking about this because of my own experience.

I’m 30 and, over the last couple of years, I’ve lost a huge amount — relationships, friendships, work, my home and the future I thought I had. I’ve made mistakes, dealt with trauma, loneliness and some incredibly dark thoughts. There have been times when I genuinely didn’t know how to keep going.
But I’m still here.

And I keep thinking: what if there was one place designed specifically for men who feel like they have nowhere to turn?

Not just another awareness campaign telling men to “talk”.

An actual charity built around four things:

🎙️** A podcas**t — real men telling real stories about divorce, addiction, loneliness, fatherhood, grief, failure, trauma, relationships and starting again.

📝 A blog — honest, relatable articles written by men for men, covering things we often struggle to talk about.

💬 An online forum — anonymous, judgement-free conversations where a man can say “I’m not okay” without being told to man up.

📞 A dedicated phone line — somewhere a man can actually pick up the phone and speak to another person when things are getting too much, with trained people who can listen and signpost
professional help where needed.
The idea wouldn’t be to replace therapy or the NHS. It would be about creating the first step — somewhere a man can go before he reaches crisis point.

I’ve been that man.

If something like this had existed when I was at my lowest, maybe I would’ve reached out sooner.
So I’d love to hear what people think.

If you could create one thing to help men with their mental health, what would it be?

Maybe we could actually build something from this.

I’m 30, male, from the UK, and sometimes I feel like I’ve already ticked off most of the bucket list.

I’ve lived. I’ve travelled to the countries I wanted to see. I’ve been engaged, married and divorced. I’ve had a child. I’ve had the dream job, amazing friends and a roof over my head.

And then, somehow, I lost it all.

A lot of it was because of my own stupidity and mistakes, which I won’t go into on here. But I’ve come through it. I’m still here. I’ve got very little left, but I still have hope — and something inside me keeps telling me to carry on, even when I don’t know what that something is.

I guess I’m writing this for two reasons.

Firstly, because if there’s somebody out there feeling the same way, I want you to know that you are not alone. You might feel like everything you had is gone, but that doesn’t mean there’s nothing left to live for.

And secondly, if you’re somebody who wants to believe in me, please reach out. You probably won’t realise just how much it would mean to me right now.

Lots of love to you all.

Let’s keep on swimming. 🩵

P.s do you think a podcast/vlog for men to talk about their mental health, their wellbeing and somewhere we can all discuss would be beneficial?
Con x

I’m 30, male, from the UK, and sometimes I feel like I’ve already ticked off most of the bucket list.

I’ve lived. I’ve travelled to the countries I wanted to see. I’ve been engaged, married and divorced. I’ve had a child. I’ve had the dream job, amazing friends and a roof over my head.

And then, somehow, I lost it all.

A lot of it was because of my own stupidity and mistakes, which I won’t go into on here. But I’ve come through it. I’m still here. I’ve got very little left, but I still have hope — and something inside me keeps telling me to carry on, even when I don’t know what that something is.

I guess I’m writing this for two reasons.

Firstly, because if there’s somebody out there feeling the same way, I want you to know that you are not alone. You might feel like everything you had is gone, but that doesn’t mean there’s nothing left to live for.

And secondly, if you’re somebody who wants to believe in me, please reach out. You probably won’t realise just how much it would mean to me right now.

Lots of love to you all.

Let’s keep on swimming. 🩵

Con x

I’m 30, male, from the UK, and sometimes I feel like I’ve already ticked off most of the bucket list.

I’ve lived. I’ve travelled to the countries I wanted to see. I’ve been engaged, married and divorced. I’ve had a child. I’ve had the dream job, amazing friends and a roof over my head.

And then, somehow, I lost it all.

A lot of it was because of my own stupidity and mistakes, which I won’t go into on here. But I’ve come through it. I’m still here. I’ve got very little left, but I still have hope — and something inside me keeps telling me to carry on, even when I don’t know what that something is.

The thought of going to sleep and not waking up follows me like a shadow. Some days it’s incredibly loud. But I can’t do that to the people I love, even when I struggle to feel that love coming back to me.

I guess I’m writing this for two reasons.

Firstly, because if there’s somebody out there feeling the same way, I want you to know that you are not alone. You might feel like everything you had is gone, but that doesn’t mean there’s nothing left to live for.

And secondly, if you’re somebody who wants to believe in me, please reach out. You probably won’t realise just how much it would mean to me right now.

Lots of love to you all.

Let’s keep on swimming. 🩵

Con x

P.s. if you are in the UK, please don’t be afraid to call the samaritans on 116 123, they’ve really helped me or if you’re afraid of a phone conversation text SHOUT to 85258 and a trained professional will be able to text you back x

Hey! Just turned thirty so pop up (:

Hi all,

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Thanks x