r/ADHDthriving

I've tried alarms, lists, 'just start', all of it. The first thing that's actually helped me start came from somewhere I didn't expect.

It's called Goal Management Training. It was built for people recovering from brain injuries who struggle to start and follow through on tasks, and it's since been studied in adults with ADHD too. The full version has five stages. I've simplified the first three:

1. **Stop.** Pause whatever I'm doing or scrolling. I can't start something new while I'm still on autopilot.
2. **State.** Say the goal out loud, specifically. Not 'I should clean', but 'I'm cleaning my room now.'
3. **Split.** Pick the smallest next piece. Not the whole room, just the first bit.

The stopping part surprised me. I'd always jumped straight to 'now start', which never worked.

Does anyone else skip the stop step? I've also made a breakdown on the different reasons I get stuck (dread, overwhelm, not knowing the first step, no pull), I'm happy to share it if anyone wants it.

**idrk if this is adhd** but yall tell me what this is.

whenever i have more than one task in hand i always tend to do it in a manner in which all of it gets completed of after the other, or lets say i like to do it in series so i don’t have to repeat any action… idek how to explain it properly so let me give an example. if i have to drink water and also brew myself green tea, i will put my glass to fill with water then run to the pantry to grab a pot for brewing while the glass gets filled so that i have a filled glass of water and a pot… does this make sense?

i do this alottttt and now i don’t even remember a proper example to give 😔💔

and one more thing, lets say i am doing something then i will see some other thing that needs to be done, i drop the task A to do task B , while task B i will see something else and drop task B to do C and the cycle continues 😭 what is this