u/RamaRao143

i dont know what to say. i literally am just surviving. i dont know why i am the way i am. i did try adhd, anti depressant and binge eating medication for a month. it did help a bit though. im unemployed. i dont know what to do. im 25 from india. i literally wasted my time on different useless things. i dont have energy for anything anymore. i avoided all my friends. now all relatives and neighbours are making fun on my life. its effecting my parents. my parents are becoming older. my older brother is autistic. we all are living on my dad's pension. i feel so purposeless. im obese. im gng to gym but i am not loosing weight. i dont even eat outside food much but at home, i eat a lot. i cant afford a therapist or psyciatrist now. everyday, im just loosing will for everything. the regrets are bothering me too much. i am so ashamed. people of my age, my classmates are doing well, they all are doing jobs in different countries and states. some got married and have children. my juniors are also settling. i dont see any hope. if anything happens to my parents, i dont knw what to do. i dont even have the mental energy to take care of emergncies. my parents deserve good kids. i dont know. i feel hopeless, depressed, i feel like i cant do anything. i feel like im just living only for me to suffer.

Idk i think I hate drinking water. I'm always thirsty. I did try using timers but I always be like "1 min" and I never end up drinking. I did realise like drinking from straws is nice. I live in a humid place and water easily becomes warm. I like my water slight cool. Not room temp, not warm, not too cool. Idk.. can some one help me organise my thoughts or give me a drinking solution? I'm too thirsty and idk.

Please help me pick one. Gone through Asics and realised they are for narrow foot ppl unless we have the budget. Seen Skechers and ppl said they r jst for walking. Seen fila, found one for 3.5k which was good but somehow arch area felt meh. Liked Asics GT 1000 bt it's 10k. I am not gonna run marathons. I will jst run max 10min on treadmill. Mostly I'll walk. 1-2y lasting is enough. (India)

Hey I'm 25F 84kgs 5'2 want to buy shoes for walking + running on treadmill... eventually within a year I want to jog-run 30min straight...my budget is 3k...which shoes are best for me

I want to start doing yoga on weekends. I’m obese and already gym 5–6 days a week, so my main goal with yoga is to improve flexibility, mobility, balance, and recovery.

I don’t just want random YouTube stretches. I want to learn proper yoga/asanas, understand what each asana actually helps with, and follow a good structured routine.

What are the best YouTube channels, apps, books, or courses for learning yoga properly as a beginner? Preferably something evidence-based and suitable for someone overweight.

I want to start doing yoga on weekends. I’m obese and already gym 5–6 days a week, so my main goal with yoga is to improve flexibility, mobility, balance, and recovery.

I don’t just want random YouTube stretches. I want to learn proper yoga/asanas, understand what each asana actually helps with, and follow a good structured routine.

What are the best YouTube channels, apps, books, or courses for learning yoga properly as a beginner? Preferably something evidence-based and suitable for someone overweight.

I want to start doing yoga on weekends. I’m obese and already gym 5–6 days a week, so my main goal with yoga is to improve flexibility, mobility, balance, and recovery.

I don’t just want random YouTube stretches. I want to learn proper yoga/asanas, understand what each asana actually helps with, and follow a good structured routine.

What are the best YouTube channels, apps, books, or courses for learning yoga properly as a beginner? Preferably something evidence-based and suitable for someone overweight.

I'm 25, and I still live with my parents in the same place where I've lived my entire life.

Most of my cousins and friends have moved out for higher education, jobs, marriages, etc. Whenever I look at them, I feel like everyone is progressing except me.

I'm trying to become a Java backend developer, but I'm not even getting shortlisted. I don't have prior work experience, and honestly, I don't know what I'm supposed to do with my career anymore. I keep preparing, stopping, overthinking, starting again, and then feeling guilty about wasting more time.

Further studies don't really feel like an option either. I feel like I'm already too old to go back and start another degree, especially when I don't even know what I want to study.

My family situation also makes me feel stuck. My parents are both 60+, my older brother is autistic, and we're basically living on my dad's pension. My mom takes care of the house. There isn't really much happening in our lives.

The three of us are basically at home, sitting idle most of the time. There isn't a family business, social life, or anything that gives us a sense of purpose or momentum.

I've also started going to the gym 5 days a week, around 90 minutes each day, and recently started ADHD medication. I'm currently sleeping around 11 hours a day, so outside the gym I don't feel like I'm getting much done.

The hardest part is comparing myself to everyone around me. My parents actually earn/earned better than many of my relatives' parents, but their kids seem to have achieved so much more than I have. They've moved out, got jobs, pursued higher education, got married, built lives of their own.

And I'm still here.

I feel empty and purposeless. I don't really have a life outside my house, gym, and repeatedly trying to figure out how to get a job.

I know 25 isn't objectively old, but emotionally it feels like I've already fallen far behind everyone.

For people who were in a similar position around 24–27, especially those who had no experience and weren't getting shortlisted: what did you actually do to get unstuck?

I don't need “you're still young” advice. I genuinely want to know how you figured out your career, created some momentum, and started building an independent life when you felt completely stuck.

I'm 25, from India, and I still live with my parents in the same place where I've lived my entire life.

Most of my cousins and friends have moved out for higher education, jobs, marriages, etc. Whenever I look at them, I feel like everyone is progressing except me.

I'm trying to become a Java backend developer, but I'm not even getting shortlisted. I don't have prior work experience, and honestly, I don't know what I'm supposed to do with my career anymore. I keep preparing, stopping, overthinking, starting again, and then feeling guilty about wasting more time.

Further studies don't really feel like an option either. I feel like I'm already too old to go back and start another degree, especially when I don't even know what I want to study.

My family situation also makes me feel stuck. My parents are both 60+, my older brother is autistic, and we're basically living on my dad's pension. My mom takes care of the house. There isn't really much happening in our lives.

The three of us are basically at home, sitting idle most of the time. There isn't a family business, social life, or anything that gives us a sense of purpose or momentum.

I've also started going to the gym 5 days a week, around 90 minutes each day, and recently started ADHD medication. I'm currently sleeping around 11 hours a day, so outside the gym I don't feel like I'm getting much done.

The hardest part is comparing myself to everyone around me. My parents actually earn/earned better than many of my relatives' parents, but their kids seem to have achieved so much more than I have. They've moved out, got jobs, pursued higher education, got married, built lives of their own.

And I'm still here.

I feel empty and purposeless. I don't really have a life outside my house, gym, and repeatedly trying to figure out how to get a job.

I know 25 isn't objectively old, but emotionally it feels like I've already fallen far behind everyone.

For people who were in a similar position around 24–27, especially those who had no experience and weren't getting shortlisted: what did you actually do to get unstuck?

I don't need “you're still young” advice. I genuinely want to know how you figured out your career, created some momentum, and started building an independent life when you felt completely stuck.

I’m 25F from India, and I’ve been unemployed for quite a while now. After graduating, I got into IT but eventually got laid off. Since then, I’ve struggled to get back into the field. I tried different things and different career paths, but nothing really worked out.

The biggest problem now is that I can’t seem to make myself study or even start things, even when I know exactly what I need to do.

I feel like I’ve lost my ability to read and concentrate. I’ll sit down intending to study, but my mind immediately starts wandering, overthinking, or creating completely hypothetical future scenarios. I end up doing nothing and then feeling guilty about it.

I also struggle with inattentive ADHD, binge eating, anxiety, loneliness and feeling depressed. I constantly compare myself to people my age and feel like I’ve fallen behind in life.

A lot of my thoughts are basically:

“What am I even doing with my life?”

“What if I never get my career back?”

“Why did I make those decisions?”

“Everyone else is moving forward while I’m stuck.”

I spend so much time ruminating about the past and worrying about the future that I barely have any mental energy left for the present.

I started methylphenidate SR 18 mg four days ago, but so far I actually feel more lethargic and emotionally numb, rather than more focused. I know four days is very early and I’ll discuss this with my psychiatrist, but it made me wonder if anyone else experienced something similar when starting medication.

Honestly, I feel very lost right now. I know what I should be doing — studying, applying for jobs, building my career — but somehow I just cannot consistently make myself do it.

For those of you who have gone through long periods of unemployment, executive dysfunction, or feeling completely stuck:

How did you get yourself moving again? What actually helped you?

I’d especially love to hear from people who were in a similar place and eventually managed to rebuild their career/life. ❤️

I’m 25F from India, and I’ve been unemployed for quite a while now. After graduating, I got into IT but eventually got laid off. Since then, I’ve struggled to get back into the field. I tried different things and different career paths, but nothing really worked out.

The biggest problem now is that I can’t seem to make myself study or even start things, even when I know exactly what I need to do.

I feel like I’ve lost my ability to read and concentrate. I’ll sit down intending to study, but my mind immediately starts wandering, overthinking, or creating completely hypothetical future scenarios. I end up doing nothing and then feeling guilty about it.

I also struggle with inattentive ADHD, binge eating, anxiety, loneliness and feeling depressed. I constantly compare myself to people my age and feel like I’ve fallen behind in life.

A lot of my thoughts are basically:

“What am I even doing with my life?”

“What if I never get my career back?”

“Why did I make those decisions?”

“Everyone else is moving forward while I’m stuck.”

I spend so much time ruminating about the past and worrying about the future that I barely have any mental energy left for the present.

I started methylphenidate SR 18 mg four days ago, but so far I actually feel more lethargic and emotionally numb, rather than more focused. I know four days is very early and I’ll discuss this with my psychiatrist, but it made me wonder if anyone else experienced something similar when starting medication.

Honestly, I feel very lost right now. I know what I should be doing — studying, applying for jobs, building my career — but somehow I just cannot consistently make myself do it.

For those of you who have gone through long periods of unemployment, executive dysfunction, or feeling completely stuck:

How did you get yourself moving again? What actually helped you?

I’d especially love to hear from people who were in a similar place and eventually managed to rebuild their career/life. ❤️

I’m 25F from India, and I’ve been unemployed for quite a while now. After graduating, I got into IT but eventually got laid off. Since then, I’ve struggled to get back into the field. I tried different things and different career paths, but nothing really worked out.

The biggest problem now is that I can’t seem to make myself study or even start things, even when I know exactly what I need to do.

I feel like I’ve lost my ability to read and concentrate. I’ll sit down intending to study, but my mind immediately starts wandering, overthinking, or creating completely hypothetical future scenarios. I end up doing nothing and then feeling guilty about it.

I also struggle with inattentive ADHD, binge eating, anxiety, loneliness and feeling depressed. I constantly compare myself to people my age and feel like I’ve fallen behind in life.

A lot of my thoughts are basically:

“What am I even doing with my life?”

“What if I never get my career back?”

“Why did I make those decisions?”

“Everyone else is moving forward while I’m stuck.”

I spend so much time ruminating about the past and worrying about the future that I barely have any mental energy left for the present.

I started methylphenidate SR 18 mg four days ago, but so far I actually feel more lethargic and emotionally numb, rather than more focused. I know four days is very early and I’ll discuss this with my psychiatrist, but it made me wonder if anyone else experienced something similar when starting medication.

Honestly, I feel very lost right now. I know what I should be doing — studying, applying for jobs, building my career — but somehow I just cannot consistently make myself do it.

For those of you who have gone through long periods of unemployment, executive dysfunction, or feeling completely stuck:

How did you get yourself moving again? What actually helped you?

I’d especially love to hear from people who were in a similar place and eventually managed to rebuild their career/life. ❤️

I’m 25F from India, and I’ve been unemployed for quite a while now. After graduating, I got into IT but eventually got laid off. Since then, I’ve struggled to get back into the field. I tried different things and different career paths, but nothing really worked out.

The biggest problem now is that I can’t seem to make myself study or even start things, even when I know exactly what I need to do.

I feel like I’ve lost my ability to read and concentrate. I’ll sit down intending to study, but my mind immediately starts wandering, overthinking, or creating completely hypothetical future scenarios. I end up doing nothing and then feeling guilty about it.

I also struggle with inattentive ADHD, binge eating, anxiety, loneliness and feeling depressed. I constantly compare myself to people my age and feel like I’ve fallen behind in life.

A lot of my thoughts are basically:

“What am I even doing with my life?”

“What if I never get my career back?”

“Why did I make those decisions?”

“Everyone else is moving forward while I’m stuck.”

I spend so much time ruminating about the past and worrying about the future that I barely have any mental energy left for the present.

I started methylphenidate SR 18 mg four days ago, but so far I actually feel more lethargic and emotionally numb, rather than more focused. I know four days is very early and I’ll discuss this with my psychiatrist, but it made me wonder if anyone else experienced something similar when starting medication.

Honestly, I feel very lost right now. I know what I should be doing — studying, applying for jobs, building my career — but somehow I just cannot consistently make myself do it.

For those of you who have gone through long periods of unemployment, executive dysfunction, or feeling completely stuck:

How did you get yourself moving again? What actually helped you?

I’d especially love to hear from people who were in a similar place and eventually managed to rebuild their career/life. ❤️

I’m 25F from India, and I’ve been unemployed for quite a while now. After graduating, I got into IT but eventually got laid off. Since then, I’ve struggled to get back into the field. I tried different things and different career paths, but nothing really worked out.

The biggest problem now is that I can’t seem to make myself study or even start things, even when I know exactly what I need to do.

I feel like I’ve lost my ability to read and concentrate. I’ll sit down intending to study, but my mind immediately starts wandering, overthinking, or creating completely hypothetical future scenarios. I end up doing nothing and then feeling guilty about it.

I also struggle with inattentive ADHD, binge eating, anxiety, loneliness and feeling depressed. I constantly compare myself to people my age and feel like I’ve fallen behind in life.

A lot of my thoughts are basically:

“What am I even doing with my life?”

“What if I never get my career back?”

“Why did I make those decisions?”

“Everyone else is moving forward while I’m stuck.”

I spend so much time ruminating about the past and worrying about the future that I barely have any mental energy left for the present.

I started methylphenidate SR 18 mg four days ago, but so far I actually feel more lethargic and emotionally numb, rather than more focused. I know four days is very early and I’ll discuss this with my psychiatrist, but it made me wonder if anyone else experienced something similar when starting medication.

Honestly, I feel very lost right now. I know what I should be doing — studying, applying for jobs, building my career — but somehow I just cannot consistently make myself do it.

For those of you who have gone through long periods of unemployment, executive dysfunction, or feeling completely stuck:

How did you get yourself moving again? What actually helped you?

I’d especially love to hear from people who were in a similar place and eventually managed to rebuild their career/life. ❤️