I'm aromantic, bisexual, and pissed off at the lack of aroallo representation in fiction. Thankfully I'm also a writer so I can take matters into my own hands. I'm working on a short story collection about aroallo characters. What are some aroallo things you guys would like to see represented in a fictional character?
Did you always know you were aro did your allo identity ever conflict with your aro one?
Did you have to do damage control in your life when you found out you are aro and if so what?
Are any of you pursuing a romantic relationship or QPR?
what do boundaries in friendships and relationships look like?
What does dating as an aromantic look like?
What do power imbalances in close friendships look like and how have you avoided them?
Hi so for a long time I would "fall in love" with my friends. For lack of a better term when I would get significantly close to someone I wanted to fuck them. I loved my friends and that sexual pull made me feel like I was in love with them. A feeling that caused me great distress.
Now fast forward I can't hold down a romantic relationship they are restrictive confusing and uncomfortable my closeness with friends is something I felt was a moral failing on my part and I cut them all out of my life (an action I deeply regret)
Now a few survived and one has some kind of aro tendencies. He's been exploring his identity for a long time and I've always been a safe space for him and lately he's really been coming out of his shell.
I've been so happy for him but his newfound confidence has reminded me how much I miss my friends. I miss bolstering them up and watching them grow and ... And when I do that I start wanting to fuck them out of some sort of platonic closeness. I don't want things to become romantic I just want to celebrate their joys.
My friend suggested I be in open relationships but I feel like if I don't understand why I'm doing this I'll just hurt everyone in the long haul.
I do love my partner but even that feels more like a brother to the point kissing him sometimes bothers me and I wonder why when I want to kiss my friends
I think somewhere along the way I got messed up and I'm just trying to understand and fix it
Anyways maybe hearing some of your experiences will help me understand what I'm going through
It's like r/QPPapplications but more focused on the AroAllo part of the community, thanks to the mod team for permitting me to promote it here.
If you are curious, or think it might fit for you, check out r/AroAlloConnect
18+ tag due to it being a sub aimed at adults.
Obviously most people here are aroallo, but there are so many different kinds! We should be able to add our exact aro identity/microlabel and sexual orientation as it would also make it easier to find people with a similar or even the same identity - that said, any fellow bisexual bellusromantics? 👀
I'd probably add silly stuff to mine too, like: "romantic kissing: 😤 - platonic/sexual kissing: 😍"
What would your user flair be if you could customize it?