r/Benchjewelers

As a bench jeweler how do you get over the stupid games people play with their stuff?

Been a full time corporate repair jeweler for 2 years now and I still get pissed at the customers on a daily basis lol. My boss hates it but I call it "jewelry games"

Here is a recent example, keeping in mind that I pride myself on doing really clean work and take my time with every project. I will go the extra long way around if it means a strong and beautiful outcome. Also I do not interact with customers in any way. So much of this I put on the Salesfloor staff but I understand their hands are often tied in these situations.

Husband comes in (on his own) and gets a set for his wife. Ring and enhancers. Comes to the sizing and says "oh yeah shes a six for sure, always been a six, and I put one of her rings on my pinky and it fit so shes a 6"

We encourage finger sizing but ultimately we have to do as he says

Comes in next day, "what did you do?! She says its too loose he wants you to make it a 5!"

Keep in mind this is 3 rings now bent and soldered together with easy solder. So it's now become a common shank sizing which I absolutely hate.

Still no fingersizing just them guessing at a size and the wife being too lazy to come in and be sure.. fine man youre the boss.

Take it down to a 5.. its a little thinner, a little wonkier, stones aren't sitting as comfortably as they were..but whatever.

You know where its going, next day its too tight, next week its too loose, next month its too tight. Now Ive resized these rings maybe 4 or 5 times in a few weeks. They look bad, they got pits, I basically have to retip because the settings have all been pulled too much to hold their melees properly. And dont get me started on these skinny bitches all wanting to take their cheap pave rings down to sub 5s like thats just no big deal.

Then the customers going like...well what happened why did I lose a stone why is it thinner now etc.

Im bad at telling stories but you get the point. This is a constant in our store and it drives me absolutely insane.

I recently had a pregnant woman who resized her ring every month of her pregnancy and after so she could wear it continuously while gaining and losing weight. By the end her brand new ring is thin, weak, loose stones.. Ive basically given up on cause there is no reason for me to do a good job when its just coming back next week. I swear to god we have customers that eat a big lunch and decide that means they need to go up a size. Its absurd.

I also cant stand how women will wear their ER for YEARS until its worn down to a paper thin pos then come get some 3mm thick enhancer bands and expect the rings to all perfectly align and solder together with no issues. Solder your bands at the time of purchase if you can! So sick of having to fill in huge gaps with solder because you fucked up. Then when you inevitably want your monthly resize I get seams popping and solder flowing in the wrong places.. Just a mess. Or wanting to attach some modern band to great grandmas 100 year old ring...ones like that I send off to the masters and they can wait the 2 months or whatever cause im not gonna be liable for the precious family heirloom theyre desperate to make ugly with a modern band that doesnt even match lol.

Another common one is when they've been wearing 2 or 3 rings together unsoldered, then they come in and go "they fit great just solder them" but then once soldered they've turned the 3 rings with wiggle room into one big 8mm ring and surprise its too tight!

I could go on and on with examples but this has just turned into an angry rant. I just wonder what people think about this and if they have any advice for mitigating these issues. How do we make them see you can only bend things so far, you can only file so many times, not every ring is designed to go up or down 4 sizes!

It sucks all the pride out of my work sometimes, like why even try?

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u/IowaThick — 1 day ago

3rd Try at an Eternity Ring - Questions!

Hello! Trying to up my game with Eternity Rings. Using 3mm square argentium wire, rolled to 3.5 x 2.5 mm, then formed, soldered and sized to 3.5mm wide, 2mm high at the sides.

The first try wasn't fit to show.

The second try (on the ice cube in the photo) is set with 2.5mm Swiss Blue Topaz). Stones are far apart, prongs too beefy and the drill holes uneven. Didn't have good control over the cylinder bur used to create the openings between the prongs (chattered all ovah) but was able to clean up the damage. Set with a hammer handpiece.

The third try (foreground) is ready to be set with 2.5mm peridot. Used a cut 4 round micro needle file instead of the cylinder bur with a better result.

  1. How to break the inside edge of the band? Cut 4 file? Or the dreaded cylinder bur?
  2. Ideas on how to get some more control over that cylinder bur? (Also tried a cross cut cylinder bur and a cross cut flame bur on that second try.)
  3. Will the flat graver (also in photo) be too delicate to move the heavy prongs? Kept the prongs heavy because silver is soft. To get the stones closer, I used just a slim saw cut between each setting. Won't accomodate the hammer handpiece.

Thank you so much, in advance. All suggestions on any technique welcome.

u/Healthy_Regret_8978 — 2 days ago

Looking for a skilled jeweler to collab on a startup in South FL

I recently launched a mail-in “cash for gold” style operation, headquartered in Boca Raton, FL. I’ve launched internet-based businesses before (scaled and sold for millions) and I have a really good feeling about this venture, but I’m missing a subject-matter expert. Any skilled jewelers with particular expertise in evaluating items for purchase (mostly rings made of gold with gems on them) that might be interested in collaborating? I want to hire someone part-time asap, with strong potential of it turning into full time quickly, and possible equity involved too.

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u/h8rszn — 2 days ago

Soldering end tabs

A common repair I'm getting in the shop is to replace worn-through end tabs on chains, bracelets, etc and I'm STRUGGLING. I cannot reliably get solder to flow between the tab and the chain without melting the tab. I'm using very moderate heat, ultra easy solder, everything is clean and fireproofed and smooth. I'm melting the end tab every single time and the solder flows MAYBE 1/3rd of the time. I can solder rings, jumprings, and chains without issue but the end tabs are kicking my ass and taking my lunch money. Help

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u/lartovio — 2 days ago

Looking for a hand engraver in the Washington DC / Philly area

In search of a hand engraver to engrave some dates and a short text on the inside of 2 wedding bands, both in 950 platinum. My shop is down south in Western North Carolina, but our client is in the DC area - we can't find anyone in a 50 mile radius down here, so hoping for some recommendations that could work up in the DC / Philly area.

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u/thendsjustifythememe — 5 days ago

30 minutes of intense sharpening. 12 hours of praying I don't slip and ruin the keycap

Just a quick clip showing how I prep my gravers before starting on a titanium commission.

I'm carving Grade 5 Ti, so keeping a polished, crisp edge is the only way to avoid tool chipping. Running a dual-angle sharpener here with diamond wheels to get that clean heel.

Anyone else here doing hand-engraving on titanium? It's a brutal metal on gravers, but the finish is always worth it.

Hope everyone is having a smooth week at their bench! ☕

u/Ornery_Hovercraft301 — 5 days ago

Gem Setter DTLA?

Hi everyone! I need to find a new gemstone setter in DTLA. The person I have been using to help me has scratched the last two rings I had him work on. I am looking for recommendations. I need someone who has high quality work, pays attention to detail, and comfortable working with gems that aren’t just diamonds. (Different levels of hardness.) I appreciate all the feedback!

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u/gemstoneaddict — 4 days ago

Struggling to remove Foredom handpiece

I’m trying to switch out my Foredom handpiece with another one and I can’t seem to get the current one off. It stays attached by a coiled wire (photo attached).

This Foredom was gifted to me by a friend who was a jeweler but hadn’t used it for many years.

I’ve been using this Foredom (S series) for at least 3 years without ever changing the handpiece.

Any tips on how to troubleshoot this?

u/LadieSovereign — 8 days ago

URGENTLY SEEKING EXPERIENCED BENCH JEWELER

UPDATE 6/25/26 5pm: Thank you for the feedback, the pay is very negotiable and also open to relo assistance if needed******

Location: The Gold & Diamond Center, St. Petersburg, FL

Terms: Full-Time

Compensation: Starting at $25.00/hour (Pay is negotiable based on technical expertise)

Executive Summary

Our established, family-owned fine jewelry company in St. Petersburg is seeking a highly experienced Bench Jeweler to manage our in-house repairs and assist on custom commissions. This position requires a technician who balances advanced technical proficiency with an uncompromising commitment to quality and ethical standards.

Technical Scope of Work

  • Advanced Metallurgy: Perform complex repairs, sizing, and restorative work on gold, platinum, and silver.
  • Precision Setting: Execute professional stone setting across various styles, including prong, channel, bezel, and pavé, ensuring the security and integrity of all gemstones.
  • Laser Technology: Demonstrate ability to operate laser soldering equipment for intricate assemblies and heat-sensitive repairs.
  • Custom Fabrication: Assist in the realization of custom designs, translating technical specifications into finished high-end pieces.
  • Quality Assurance: Maintain rigorous quality control standards, ensuring every piece meets our aesthetic and structural benchmarks.

Professional Requirements

  • Experience: Extensive background in a professional bench environment.
  • Reliability: Consistent Monday through Friday availability, with mandatory participation during peak holiday seasons.
  • Character: Unwavering honesty and professional integrity. Employment is contingent upon a clean criminal background and a drug-free status.
  • Attention to Detail: A disciplined approach to craftsmanship and organized shop management.

Apply today on Indeed. https://www.indeed.com/job/highly-experienced-bench-jeweler-9ad52bd54eb551ee

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u/Ok_Whole_7401 — 11 days ago

Do you have a site to sell your pieces or do you primarily do craft fairs/shows to sell?

I have an inventory building up and not sure if having a website will be helpful to sell pieces or a money pit.

Shows seem like an easier way to showcase work, but I have no experience either way to know what works best.

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u/Careful_Station_7884 — 11 days ago

New career as a bench jeweler help. North Carolina.

Hello! So I am a current store owner. We’ve been in the industry for a long time as “merchants”, and our two bench jewelers are retiring soon. I’m looking into schools like New Approach and Drouhards so I can start learning basic basic repairs. It’s always been something I’ve wanted to do. Way more than what I currently do (sales).

Would a two week program be enough to get my toes wet so I could start an apprenticeship? Also, I have access to our shop at any time. What would be the best way to practice what I learn?

Thank you

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u/ItsAn0wl — 11 days ago

Am I doing this pickling thing right?

Joke post, didn't seem against the roles but remove if inappropriate.

Also loved this book from childhood.

u/Wobble_bass — 11 days ago

Signet Jewelers

Does anyone know if Signet offers any way to have access to pay earlier? Like an earned wage advance like other ocmpanies. Also what day are you typically paid on, I was just with the same company for 13 years and this is my first transfer into a new company and was wanting to get an idea of pay days.

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u/Realistic-Creme1786 — 13 days ago