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Your favorite corner, your office, a colorful couch, a completed living room, a collection of fridge magnets, anything!
How did you decide on your color palette? Where did you find your favorite lamp or piece of art? What’s your experience with Facebook Marketplace?! (I don’t know why but I can’t trust it…)
I’m moving soon and my head is all over the place! I don’t know if I want dopamine decor, earthy boho, cottagecore, or what.
I’m in r/femalelivingspace, but I need it in black. 🤎If that sub exists, feel free to point me there. (also mods please correct me if this is the wrong flair 🫣)
I’m a geek so that’s the reason for the flair. Hope it’s appropriate lol.
So at some point I do want kids. I’ve been single my whole life and still desire to have a husband, children, and a family of my own.
BUT when I’m around my friends who have young kids, it’s such a shock to me. I love these little people who look up to me as Auntie, but my God, when it’s time for us to part ways, I get to be free from the terrible twos while my friends are still deep in the trenches.
I have a monthly get together with a couple of friends who have toddlers. I have them over, we do lunch with Prosecco, and just spend time together. By the end of the gathering, while I’ve thoroughly enjoyed their company and the sweet company of my nieces and nephews, I’m also glad to be alone.
Right now, I’m unsure if motherhood will happen for me. There’s still a part of me that wants it, but there’s also a very minuscule part of me that might not even care if it doesn’t.
Part of that is because my periods have become obnoxiously heavy. I’m 36 now, and my body no longer functions the way it did when my periods started at 12. They’ve become shockingly heavy. To the point where I’m soaking through tampons and overnight pads. I told my OB-GYN about it last year, and she suggested birth control. I had tried birth control once before, but because I wasn’t using it properly, the way it made me feel turned me off from ever trying it again.
Eventually it got to the point where I was wearing adult diapers to work and filling those up too. Sorry if that’s TMI, but I was tired. I finally went back to my OB-GYN and asked to be put on birth control. I chose Nexplanon, and it’s been fine.
I mentioned it to my mom, and the first thing she said was, “I guess you don’t want to have kids.”
Lately, the push for grandkids has been extreme. My mom raised my sister and me as a single mom. We have different dads. Lately, I feel like she wants a grandchild so badly that she doesn’t care how it gets here. It’s honestly kind of sick. She’ll randomly bring up the name of some guy I liked once and say, “Just go have a baby with him.”
I tell her I don’t want to be a single mom, and she’ll try to convince me that it’s not that bad. But I remember what it was like growing up with her. I know how hard it was, not just for her, but for us.
So lately, while I’d still love to have kids of my own and for a long time thought I couldn’t imagine my life without them, I’m starting to feel differently. I’d rather not have children and be okay with that than knowingly bring a child into a situation I never wanted for them. I’d rather make peace with not becoming a mother than have the life of another person in my hands.
I been attracted to black women lately but im scared to approach them
For the context im early twenty from india currently in Swiss
Will it be creepy if i go say that i find someone attractive and ask for their number
Im looking for women of age btw 21 - 24