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The realization that my black boyfriend is not pro black. Every so often he'll make comments such as wanting to change his nose through surgery. Wanting to change his last name to a less African sounding one. And it all just breaks my heart. We've been together for 3 years now and I only recently have come to the realization that this is just who he is. Of course there were signs but I didn't want to accept them. Part of me wants to try one last time to make him love himself as a black man as stupid as that sounds.

I saw plenty of mixed reactions online, some saying that's its weird and racist while others stood by "Love who you love as long as you dont degrade anyone"

I personally abide by the latter, what are your thoughts on that?

The experience of Light-skin males being the main target of hate is exhausting. And this is where the Hamburger theory comes in. The Black community has this rule, The burger is the dark skin male, the cheese is the Light-skin male, and the Bun is the Mixed Black Man (Mullato, Afro-Latin, Blasian, etc). This odd theory makes sense, since "Pickle" means "out". The media knows this, jobs know this, and people know to target the light-skin male. And these males try to project it, but it is clear that they want you out first. Where is the evidence?

"They Not like Us," refers to every Male that is not Dark Skin Male. The women can be any shade and race, but not the man. The media and the roles that are "Black" are given to dark skin males. Jobs, sports, and other companies target light males out. How do I know this, I was at the store and a white man said, "They are blacklisted." I know most Light skin and mixed-race light skin males have the "I hate you for no reason" life experience. Even growing up, it was always they try to hold you down and uplift the troublesome child. FD Signifier lied when he said "Light skin/mixed light boys are treated better in school..." What? Growing up, they bullied them more than other groups.

When it comes to parenting, I notice that light-skin boys are often bullied by their parents? And how the parents try to pull them and make them look bad? At work, they tried pulling me out and allowed workers to bully me daily. I was sick (literally), and had to go back to therapy and tell my therapist what happened? She told me, "You don't benefit, I know, they hurt you guys more." And even in stores, they target them, what is happening? And you guys are suspiciously "Out of Style", and given horribly racist terms like "Weak", "Soft", "Slow"... What? And the myth that, "They k*ll Light-skin down south"... that is horrifying.

#MixedRaceLivesMatter #Antibullying

This will ruffle some feathers but the older I get the more I understand why Monique told us that we need to stop wearing bonnets in public. I genuinely don’t care what people wear in public so this isn’t a topic I’m losing sleep over, nor do I care to harass them over something that doesn’t affect my life. But there’s no reason for you to be wearing a bra and shorts so small I can see the underline of your butt in public. Those are clothes for your comfort WITHIN your home not in public. I don’t even know why I have to explain this because it’s common sense. There’s a time and place for everything.

I rarely see white, Asian , brown or any other race have this reoccurring and constant issue.

I get it. Life hits. You may not have time to do your hair, you may be suffering from a mental illness and don’t have the energy to get up shower and dress, you might even be missing a box braid or two so you wear a bonnet or pajamas. People have many reasons for the way they dress so I show compassion and mind my business. But it gets to a point where you’re walking around half naked that seems strange to me.

Just like Monique emphasized ; Show pride in yourself. Set an example for others or even yourself.

I'm a gay black autistic atheist multicultural loving nerdy man from Mississippi with several family members who served. So I'm speaking from experience. It seems to me that black Americans serve in the armed forces at much higher rates then the general population. Yet when they return home they are hardly given the respect they deserve and are still racially profiled just as much as any other black civilian. I always viewed it like being a black cop. You have the power but are fundamentally still black and are viewed as such. Many of our leaders like Frederick Douglass, MLK, Malcolm X, and Fred Hampton criticizied the USA as a social experiment (the very fabric of society). We marched and bled in the streets when the state send everything after us. However, there is this mentality in the black community which equates serving to respect and advancement but its still negated by systemic racism. I never saw any military recruiters in the upper class schools. And don't get me started on the Iraq/Afghanistan War in which innocent people were killed for oil. That radicalizied me to a point where I see the USA as a failed experiment.

So tell me in your words, why, despite everything, we continue to serve a nation that was explicitily founded on white supermacy, slavery and genocide of Native Americans?

This is what I'm talking about congratulations to those sistas who took back control of their neighborhoods!!! And to those up and coming brothers and sisters who will see that this is the way...... This is progress!!!

The piece is slow to get off the ground so it might be OK to start about a third of the way in. I'll quote a few salient passages in the comments.

Hello,

Any leads on upper middle income black neighborhoods on Long Island, specifically Nassau County? I know of Stearns Park in Freeport and some pockets of Baldwin like Woodland Estates. Anywhere I’m missing? Thanks.

As a Black American, I'll never forgive progressives for hijacking the word "woke" and stripping it of its actual meaning.

"Woke" didn't come out of partisan politics. It came out of Black American history—our church tradition of vigilance and generations of "stay woke" as survival language. It was about remaining alert to danger and injustice without compromise, not branding an entire political agenda.

Much of our cultural inheritance is a collection of survival messages passed down from one generation to the next. 'Stay woke' was one of the most important.

But then, in recent years, parts of the political left turned it into a catch-all label for every progressive cause. After that, the political right turned that new definition into a caricature they could attack. Between both sides, the original meaning was buried.

"Woke" was never a synonym for women's rights, LGBTQ+ issues, immigration, universal healthcare, or every other issue people now lump under it. And, sorry, Abigail Disney and Jane Fonda: no, "woke" doesn't mean that you just care about other people.

Those are all separate conversations with their own separate contexts. Black Americans have been saying this for years, but too often people borrow our language without listening to us explain it.

That's the part that stings the most. People will gladly adopt pieces of Black American culture, but ignore Black American voices.

In this regard, the whole gamut of American politics should be ashamed. A word that belonged to slave-descended Black Americans as Black dialogue became ammunition in everyone else's political war.

This is why people outside Black American society should leave our vernacular alone. Our culture isn't the public domain for the next viral slogan. We're not America's subsidiaries.

At this point, I honestly don't know who's done more damage: the right, which openly attacks us, or the left, which claims to champion us while repurposing our language and treating our community like a dependable voting bloc, even as many of our longstanding needs remain unresolved.

It's also why many Black Americans (at least, many that I know) aren't exactly rushing toward organizations like the DSA. A lot of that politics speaks more directly to other constituencies (especially on immigration issues) while still borrowing Black rhetoric to sell it. That leaves many of us feeling spoken for rather than listened to.

We'll stand against Trumpism and political extremism because we understand the stakes. But our general loyalty isn't particularly to Democrats, Republicans, liberals, conservatives, moderates, or progressives. Too many "sides" have failed us.

(At least, speaking for myself.)

So, we're going to remain on what "stay woke" always meant: stay alert, watch your back, and look out for one another, Black America.

For Black America, those words were never a trend. They were—and still are—a survival ethic.

Can I say something? Being black is fucking exhausting. I always see some dumbass in the comment section and then I have to explain for the 100th time what racism is and how racial prejudice and racism are two different things. Racial prejudice is discrimination based on race, Racism is racial prejudice backed up by social, historical and institutional power. When a White person is racist to a Black person or any other Person it’s racism because that racial prejudice it has social and historical power that gives them a systemic advantage. A BIPOC discriminating against a White person doesn’t have the same effect socially or historically making it racial prejudice rather than racism. It’s important to note that White people invented racism to benefit themselves and put the others. They made it so that White people COULDN’T experience racism. It’s also important to note that a lot of racial prejudice towards White people is caused by direct or generational trauma rather than the belief that they’re superior unlike White supremacy. This isn’t to say that White prejudice is okay, I don’t think anyone should experience racial prejudice and anyone can be racist including Black people. However, saying that white people can experience racism when there are still Black people being lynched to this day is just disrespectful. And if you can’t argue in good faith DNI

The ones who used to see me back in the day and immediately hit me with that 💵 “Here, take this.”

What happened, bro?? 😭

Where did the generosity go? What changed? Who hurt you? 💀

I used to leave your house feeling like I had a part-time job. Now I’m lucky if I get a handshake. 😂💔
Uncles, we need answers.

Not from this part of the states. The plan is taking main interstate ( I-10 to 65) passing through but would like to know any cities/areas to NOT stop in. Known cities on the route whether that’s through them or close enough: Beaumont, Lafayette, Baton Rouge, Biloxi, Mobile, Montgomery as a reference.

The line between "dating advice commentary" and open alt-right radicalization has completely dissolved Podcasts like 'Fresh & Fit' and 'Whatever' have buil platforms under the banner of "free speech" and "open debate," but a quick audit of their actual content reveals a lucrative rage baiting operation.

Look at the mechanics: they bring on unhinged guests like white nationalist Alex Rosen (who dropped uncensored hard-R slurs on set while the hosts laughed and joked about chains) or use guest prompts to launder slave-trade revisionism.

When guests bring up verified 19th century archives of chattel slavery atrocities, the hosts dismiss historical ledgers using "gut instinct" and immediately read $200 super chats calling the quests slurs.

They don't want an open debate, and they certainly do want FACTS.

In what world is going to a poor country and mocking unhomed people okay?

https://www.instagram.com/crazzy.people1/

If this content creator went anywhere else and pulled this shit w the brownface/blackface, idk what the outcome would be.

disgraceful, disdainful and in poor taste, what's sad is the number of people cheering him on (INCLUDING brands)?

Why has no one held this bitch accountable? Nevermind the fact that Chrome Hearts is a trash brand that plasters crosses on everything then privately sells for 50k. She and her friend did blackface and apparently wrote it off as “we were young”. Every person of color that wears chrome should be ashamed. THEY DON’T EVEN LIKE US AND THEY DONT CARE. Though her brother is dating a girl identical to his twin sister so we can already guess who weird and fucked up that family is. And definitely why they keep everything so private. FUCK CHROME HEARTS AND ALL OF THEIR DIFFUSION BRANDS. FUCK FRANKIE B STARK RACIST BITCH. Now that’s a truly ugly bitch INSIDE and OUT. They literally market their brand off African Americans. Yet she’s a mean racist.