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How is serving in the British RAF viewed when it comes to marriage prospects?

As-salamu alaykum everyone,

I’m looking for some honest opinions, particularly from Muslims in the UK, but I’d appreciate perspectives from anyone.

I’m 24 years old and currently am in the process of joining the British RAF. One thing I’ve been wondering about is how military service is generally viewed in the Muslim marriage scene, especially given current world events.

I’m not asking whether people personally support or oppose the military. Rather, I’m trying to understand whether serving in the British military would be seen as a dealbreaker by many Muslim women or their families, even if someone intends to leave the service before getting married.

For some context:
I’m 24.
Pakistani Heritage.
I have a BSc in Accounting and Finance.
My plan isn’t to marry while serving. Ideally, I’d leave the RAF first and look to get married around the age of 30–35.

I’m simply trying to understand how this part of my background might be perceived.

Some questions I have are:

Would previous service in the British military be an automatic dealbreaker for you or your family?

Does it depend on the person’s specific role, or is military service as a whole viewed negatively?

Have current global events changed your opinion compared to a few years ago?

Is there a stigma that people in the military are less educated or have fewer career options? If so, why?

For younger Muslim women (roughly in their 20s), what is your honest first impression when you hear someone has served in the RAF?

If someone had already left the military and built a civilian career, would your opinion be any different?

Would it matter whether the person served in a combat role versus a technical, engineering, logistics, administrative, or other non-combat role?

Would honesty about previous military service early in the marriage process be important to you?

Do you think previous military service reflects on someone’s character positively, negatively, or does it not affect your opinion?

If it would be a dealbreaker for you, is that mainly because of Islamic beliefs, personal values, family expectations, political views, or something else?

I’m not looking to debate politics or religion in the comments or convince anyone of a particular viewpoint. I’m simply trying to understand the reality of how military service is viewed within the Muslim community so I know what to expect when I eventually begin looking for marriage after leaving the RAF.

I appreciate that this topic can be sensitive, so I’d be grateful if people could keep the discussion respectful and answer honestly.

Jazakum Allahu khayran for your time and insights.

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u/hamzah309 — 1 day ago
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Doctors and healthcare workers gathered in central London in solidarity with war surgeon Dr Ghassan Abu Sittah, who has served multiple times in Gaza.

He was twice targeted by complaints associated with Israeli lobby groups and was cleared of all allegations, including support for terrorism and antisemitism.

However, the General Medical Council (GMC) has now appealed those rulings for a third time, sparking widespread questions about the council's fairness and complicity.

u/Rebat-Askalan — 2 days ago

I'm a developer tired of duplicate Islamic apps. What real tech solutions do you guys actually need?

السلام عليكم ورحمة الله وبركاته

I’m a developer, and I’m trying to build tech that actually solves real problems for the Ummah. Right now, the Muslim tech space feels completely stuck. We have a hundred duplicate apps that all do the exact same thing (like basic prayer apps or halal directories), and I'm honestly not interested in wasting my time building more of that.

I want to know about and understand the actual problems you guys face day-to-day that deserve real technical solutions.

I want to hear from anyone here — whether you're an employee, a business owner, a student, or just a regular user. If you have a recurring, frustrating problem in your life or industry and you know it desperately needs a better tool or piece of software, drop it in the replies.

My goal is to figure out exactly what our community actually needs built, however difficult it may be to engineer. If we can spark an idea here that actually fixes a bottleneck, it could be a massive sadaqah jariyah for anyone who contributes.

Let me know what you're dealing with.

جزاكم الله خيرا

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u/_jaahil — 1 day ago
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The Canary has been debanked by Lloyds Banking Group. No warning. No explanation.

The Canary has spent years exposing the financial ties between the Israeli lobby and British politicians. Their work regularly features in my videos. Now they cannot pay their staff.

Whether or not you agree with everything they publish, a bank silencing a news outlet with no explanation should concern every single one of us.

u/Commercial_Act_8071 — 3 days ago

How is this okay??

I don't live in the UK , but as a muslim this video is genuinely disgusting and disgraceful. Who is he to say that? Where exactly does Islam tell us to dictate what people of different cultures do? I don't live there so I don't know how it is there but I've seen many videos like these and I'm tired of this bs. This is not a rant I want yall to start speaking up against people like him.

u/MuZi9 — 2 days ago

Jumma duas

Today is the day of jummah

Please can I ask that between asr and maghrib

Anyone reading this makes dua

As it is a time when duas are always accepted

Please make dua that Allah SWT sends me some righteous friends as I have no friends

Please make dua that Allah SWT sends me a righteous spouse as I'm not married

Please make dua that Allah SWT grants me peace and contentment

Please make dua that Allah SWT protects my family allows me to become someone who brings peace and comfort to their eyes and their hearts

Please make dua that Allah SWT grants me a way out of the hardships I'm facing.

🙏🏻😞

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u/manchester_brother — 3 days ago

Looking for new Muslim connections!

Salaam everyone,

I'm a guy in my early 30s, and I've realised that people were right—making new friends really does get harder as you get older.

I'd genuinely love to meet some fellow Muslims who enjoy good conversations and getting to know new people. One of my favourite things is learning about someone—their story, interests, perspectives, and all the little things that make them who they are.

A little about me: I'm based in the UK, love hiking and traveling, and i am a sucker for emotionally intelligent, meaningful conversations.

I'm simply looking to make some genuine connections and hopefully some good friends along the way. If that sounds like you, feel free to comment or send me a message.

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u/No-Wolverine59 — 3 days ago

Muslim areas near Reading.

Assalamulaikum everyone,

I am planning on moving out of London because of work and the extortionate rent.

I am looking for places around Reading (my workplace) that have a nice muslim community, family friendly and have rent around the £1500-£1700 range for a 3 bedroom house.

I have done some research and found Swindon to be an option in terms of rent but I don't have any knowledge of the muslim community or family friendliness there.

I would like some help here in terms of areas I could move to? Is my Swindon idea good or what other cities are altenative options? What else should also consider when planning my move?

Any suggestion/info would be greatly appreaciated.

Jazakallah

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u/Live-Noise-5113 — 5 days ago
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Hajj from uk or Pakistan

Aoaa all hope you are all well. Need advice on this I am planning to go for Hajj me and wife inshallah. I am British and Pakistani i have both options to go from uk or Pakistan. Any has experience or knowledge
1- how much it cost for the VIP package?
2-are flights included in the package?
3- which one is convenient?
4- any difference in the level of service if you from uk or Pakistan?
5- min days I can go?
6- anything I missed or general advice?

Jazakallah

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u/cryptotirmizi — 6 days ago

my local mosque 😭

I’ve seen many masjids in London on social media promoting the good they do, the classes they offer, the community events, and it’s attracted so many people to the masjids.
However, my local masjid honestly makes me very upset. There’s barely anything going on. The only time I really see other Muslims is on Eid or during Ramadan. It makes me sad that I don’t have that community. even when I go on Day to day to pray quickly and leave its empty and there are maybe one or two sisters in the whole women’s section. overall its so flipping dead there and most people are way older or aunties
Recently I visited a masjid in North London and wallahi I became emotional. I felt sad thinking that back home I don’t have this. The aunties were selling hijabs for charity, there were Qur’an classes in small circles, young kids playing together, teenagers sitting in a corner doing homework, people just sitting and talking. It actually felt like a community, not just a place people come to pray and leave.
I wish my masjid had things like this. Hikes, halaqahs for young women, sisters’ events, youth activities, somewhere people actually know each other.
The issue is that at my masjid there’s an old man who I guess owns or runs the place. He comes and locks the doors and only opens them for salah times. He can come across quite moody and rude at times. I don’t even know who the imam of the masjid is, which is low-key really sad because there always seem to be changes and issues.
I genuinely want to begin my marketing/social media networking career, and one thing I’d love to do is become the marketing person for the masjid, get it on TikTok, and actually help build a community. Right now though, there isn’t really anything to show.
Does anyone else’s local masjid feel like this and what do I do
Ik I myself can’t do anything alone so what do I do help?!

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u/FickleAppearance8046 — 4 days ago

Local Masjids in London you appreciate

I really like the Hounslow Muslim Center but might have to move soon.

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Can anyone recommend a local mosque they appreciate that I could move close to?

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u/Dazzling_Basket_671 — 4 days ago
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Why are many Shias coming to Salafi Manhaj?

As-salamu alaykum,

There's a quiet but consistent trend in the Muslim world that often goes unnoticed: a significant number of sincere, practicing Shias are leaving the creed of their forefathers and embracing the Salafi manhaj.

This is not a casual decision. As highlighted by resources like ebnhussein.com, these individuals often sacrifice everything—family ties, community, friendships, and their entire sense of identity. To make such a monumental sacrifice, the truth they find must be overwhelmingly clear and powerful.

So, what are the core reasons driving this change? It's a journey from a complex web of doubts to the profound simplicity and clarity of pure Islam. Here are the key discoveries that lead them to the Salafi path.


1. The Crisis of Tawhid: Discovering the Direct Relationship with Allah

This is the number one reason. Many Shias begin to feel a deep unease with practices that blur the lines of Tawhid.

  • From: A system where du'a and seeking aid are often directed to the 12 Imams ("Ya Ali!", "Ya Hussein!"). The Imams are seen as intermediaries who hold immense power and are called upon in times of need.
  • To: The pure, unadulterated monotheism of the Qur'an. They read verses like: "And those whom you invoke other than Him do not possess as much as the membrane of a date seed. If you invoke them, they do not hear your invocation..." (Qur'an 35:13-14). They discover that calling upon anyone besides Allah is the definition of Shirk, and they find immense spiritual liberation in turning their hopes and fears to Allah alone.

2. The Unreliable Sources: The Quest for Authentic Knowledge

As they begin to research, they encounter a major crisis of confidence in the sources of their religion.

  • From: The Shia hadith corpus (like Al-Kafi), which is based on narrations from the Imams. This system is undermined by the doctrine of Taqiyyah (permissible deception), which allows an Imam or follower to lie about their beliefs. This leads to a devastating question: "How can I be certain of any narration if the narrator may have been practicing Taqiyyah?"
  • To: The rigorous and transparent science of Sunni hadith criticism. They discover the meticulous work of Imams like al-Bukhari and Muslim, who established clear, objective criteria for authenticating narrations. They find certainty (yaqeen) in a system designed to preserve the actual words of the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ), free from the doctrinal corruption and uncertainty of Taqiyyah.

3. The Contradictions of the Imamate

The core of Shi'ism is the belief in the 12 infallible Imams. For many converts, this doctrine collapses under historical and logical scrutiny.

  • From: A belief in a chain of infallible, divinely appointed leaders, culminating in a 12th Imam who has been in "occultation" (hiding) for over 1,100 years, offering no practical guidance. They begin to question: Why would Allah's guidance for humanity hinge on an inaccessible, hidden figure?
  • To: The clear, complete, and accessible guidance of the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) and the actions of his companions. They realize the religion was perfected and completed during the Prophet's life (Qur'an 5:3) and did not require a continuous line of infallible Imams.

4. The Vilification of the Sahaba vs. The Praise of the Qur'an

This is often the final straw. For the first time, many read the Qur'an for themselves, without the filter of their clergy.

  • From: A narrative that portrays the best companions—Abu Bakr, 'Umar, 'Uthman, and even the Prophet's wife 'Aisha—as usurpers, hypocrites, and enemies of the Ahl al-Bayt.
  • To: The clear, unambiguous words of Allah Himself, who praises these very same companions: "And the first forerunners [in the faith] among the Muhajirun and the Ansar and those who followed them with good conduct—Allah is pleased with them and they are pleased with Him..." (Qur'an 9:100). They ask themselves a simple question: "Do I believe the word of Allah, or do I believe the narrative that condemns the very people Allah is pleased with?"

5. Liberation from a Clerical Caste

Shi'ism operates on a hierarchical clerical system where followers must pay Khums (a 20% tax) to their religious leaders and follow a specific Marja' (source of emulation).

  • From: A system of dependence on Ayatollahs for religious rulings and spiritual validation.
  • To: The Salafi manhaj, which teaches that while scholars are respected for their knowledge, there is no priestly class in Islam. Every Muslim has a direct line to the Qur'an and Sunnah and is encouraged to seek knowledge. This is a journey of spiritual empowerment.

A List of Resources for Questioning Shias and for Sunnis Seeking Knowledge

English Language Resources:

  • EbnHussein.com

    • An excellent blog with detailed, well-researched articles that refute core Shia doctrines using historical and textual evidence. It is particularly strong in analyzing the origins of Shia beliefs and exposing contradictions.
    • Key Post Example: Ex-Shias and their Sacrifices
  • Gift2Shias.com

    • A comprehensive da'wah website dedicated to the Sunni-Shia dialogue. It covers virtually every major point of difference, including Tawhid, the status of the Sahaba, the doctrine of the Imamate, Taqiyyah, Mut'ah, and the reliability of hadith sources. The articles are clear, evidence-based, and easy to follow.
  • IslamQA.info (Shia Section)

    • A major fatwa website that provides clear, concise, and evidence-based answers to specific questions about Shi'ism. If you have a particular doubt or question, you can search for it here and find a ruling based on the Qur'an and Sunnah.
    • Direct Link: Answers related to the Shi'a

Persian (Farsi) Language Resources:

  • Aqeedeh.com (العقيدة)

    • This is arguably the largest and most important online library of authentic Sunni Islamic material in the Persian language. It contains a massive, dedicated section for books and articles written by and about ex-Shias. This includes works by former high-ranking clerics ("turban-heads") who have left the Hawza (Shia seminaries) in places like Qom.
  • Borqei.com (آیت الله العظمی علامه برقعی)

    • The official website dedicated to the works of the late Ayatollah Borqei, one of the most famous and influential Shia scholars to have abandoned Shi'ism and embraced the path of the Qur'an and Sunnah. The site, run by his family, contains his books, articles, and the story of his journey to the truth. It is a powerful resource for Persian speakers.

Key Figures and Scholars (Content primarily in Arabic/Persian):

For those who understand Arabic or Persian, the works of these individuals are indispensable. Their lectures and debates can be found on YouTube and other platforms.

  • Shaykh Uthman al-Khamees (عثمان الخميس): A Kuwaiti scholar who is one of the foremost experts in the world on the Sunni-Shia issue. His lectures and debates are a masterclass in dismantling Shia arguments with clear evidence from both Sunni and Shia sources.
  • Ex-Shia Scholars and Da'ees: There are numerous former Shias who are now active in da'wah. Their personal testimonies are incredibly powerful. Searching for terms like "Ex-Shia" or "سني من إيران" (Sunni from Iran) on YouTube will bring up many life-changing stories and lectures.

Conclusion: What They Find

The journey is incredibly difficult, but what they find on the other side is consistently described with the same words: Clarity, Simplicity, Peace, and a Direct Connection to Allah.

They leave behind a complex, contradictory, and clergy-driven system for the beautiful, simple, and pure religion that the Prophet Muhammad (ﷺ) and his companions lived by.

For our Sunni brothers and sisters: When you meet an ex-Shia, know that they have likely sacrificed more for their Tawhid than we can imagine. Welcome them, support them, and honor their journey.

For any questioning Shia reading this: Your doubts are valid. Don't be afraid to read the Qur'an with an open heart. Read Sahih al-Bukhari. Research the history and the sources for yourself. The truth is clear for those who sincerely seek it.

TL;DR: Many Shias are converting to the Salafi manhaj after discovering contradictions in their own creed. They find clarity in the pure Tawhid of worshipping Allah alone, certainty in the authentic Sunni hadith, and liberation from a clerical hierarchy. They leave behind a complex system for the simple, evidence-based path of the Prophet (ﷺ) and his companions, often at great personal cost.

u/Quiet_Form_2800 — 9 days ago
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Trevor Chinn has been lobbying UK politicians on behalf of Israel for decades. He is so good at it, in fact, that they awarded him the medal of honour.

Congratulations to Trevor Chinn on his award. My thoughts and prayers are with the innocent children and civilians in Gaza that are being murdered by the arms exports that he helped to facilitate out of our country.

u/Rebat-Askalan — 8 days ago

Restaurants, cafes, desserts and activities recommendation - Manchester edition

Planning a day trip and I wanna know your favourite places to eat and visit.

Please advise us there’s a train station nearby.

Thanks in advance.

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u/Narrow_Guava_6239 — 8 days ago
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Has the hate and racism towards Muslims or Islam as a whole increased in the last 5 years, in the UK?

With the potential ban of the Islamic Call to Prayer in Denmark, I've seen a lot of people supporting a similar kind of thing in the UK.
Whilst this on its own isn't racist, I'm seeing lots more comments on these stories that are practically spewing anti Islamic rhetoric's

We are constantly told, in school, work, outside and at home, to respect all people regardless of where they're from. When someone from a different religion is attacked, its an outcry and riots take place, but no one bats an eye to these incidents when Muslims are the victims?

I am not Muslim, but I've been around many as I've grown, and I understand some are bad, but the ones in my experience have been very caring and very helpful in my life. Same as Jewish folk, and Christian folk. Some are good people some are bad. So why are we, as a nation, (and the media is part to blame for this) getting more and more into Islamophobia? More into hatred? This isn't the Britain I was born and raised in.

I do also remember hearing in the news a while ago that a certain country was spreading misinformation and islamophobia to aid in their issues.. Does anyone else remember/have heard of this or am I going mental?
(The role of Islamophobia in the genocide in Gaza)
(Islamophobia: The discursive apparatus of Israel’s genocide in Gaza, Palestine - Samir Sweida-Metwally, 2025)

Edit: Those saying its due to Migration.. We also get many European migrants, so unless you all hate them too, then you're answer isn't valid

u/inconspicuousEnby — 11 days ago

Where do women get haircuts?

Salaam everyone,

We are relatively new in the UK and I wanted to ask where women get haircuts here? Most (if not all) of the barbers dont have a segregation in the shops. How do you guys do it? Do you call someone home? My wife was looking to go in but we don't know where (in West London btw)

JZK

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u/RAYJESH — 6 days ago
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“And who is better in speech than one who invites to Allah and does righteousness and says, "Indeed, I am of the Muslims." - Surat Fussilat {33}

u/Rebat-Askalan — 8 days ago