r/CircumcisionVictims

I'm aiming to get alot of my trauma off my chest and put pen to paper, so I'll be aiming to share a lot of these over the coming days and weeks. Please share your own as you are comfortable to do so.

A minor issue (relative to everything else) I've run into is a recurring fear of blades, knives- any sharp edges. This carries over into other aspects of my life, frequently interrupted my already erratic train of thought.

I find myself having recurring nightmares of being cut or otherwise mutilated in some other way. I've had vivid, lucid dreams that I was a newborn being circumcised, without anesthetic and fully aware/awake. I've had dreams I was the man who went the hospital with a broken leg and woke up circumcised due to medical arrogance and incompetence.

I find myself imagining, and vividly fearing, increasingly, wildly, unlikely events. The office I work at is getting renovated, and there were tradies on the floor beneath me using power tools of all sorts. Power tools are part of my line of work, this is not a sound I'm unfamiliar with. But as they were directly underneath me I heard them cutting into the walls and dividers, and all I could imagine was through some freak accident them cutting through the floor and slicing my genitals. It's insanely irrational, it would take a literally impossible Final Destination-esque rube goldberg machine of events to even make that possible. And yet it was all I could think about for hours. The fear consumes me.

I'm terrible in the kitchen, I take an hour to dice vegetables that would take an average person less than 5 minutes. Knives make me sweat and I absolutely despise handling them or being near them. I shave every day in the shower, and every day in the shower I spend the entire time warily eyeing my razor to make sure it doesn't fall and slice me. One time it nearly did.

So many things trigger this fear and all I can think of is threats to what little tatters remain of my genital autonomy. I'm fiercely protective of what little foreskin I have left/have restored, and I'm incredibly frustrated that this has added just one more area in which I cant function like a normal human being.

It truly has a Freudian aspect to it. I am convinced the Danish research linking autism and circumcision has merit. The psychological impacts of this barbaric practice on day old infants is utterly profound, and the practice will probably die out before we ever truly manage to map out just how wide-reaching the mental damage it causes is.

CIRCUMCISION IS WORE THAN RAPE. It fucking cut ur penis off not even 1 week old. Fucks all ur sexual life, gets worst as the time pass by, puts a label on u as "circumcised", get gaslighted by everyone, Cuts one of the most important part that makes u a MALE, DESTROY the gliding motion, is my dick a fucking OBJECT like a DILDO ? It fucking looks like it, dry and numb.

And I still haven’t talk abt the mental effects, the daily tourments, self body esteem, jealousy, integrity, treated like shit, unheard and that specific feeling of being inferior. ITS WORSE ITS WORSE THAN A RAPE every time I come across this subject one stupid take or arguments by a random stranger hurts me like hell. CIRC is a fucking war crime men used to do against each other because we know we rather get raped a hundred time than fucking CUT OUR FORESKIN OFF this is horror and this is the worse nightmare with a male with a dick. If I can be raped a hundred time to get my foreskin I would, a thousand time even. How can we cope ? It’s impossible, it’s in front of us dry mutilated and wounded I HAVE THE MENTAL EFFECTS AND BRUTAL PHYSICAL SCARS and a piece of my dick off!

One theme I keep seeing regarding men's issues is the diminishment. You may think this post title was made about circumcision - and it certainly pertains to it. I know you've seen the pro-cutting fetishists refer to it as "just a snip". But I actually was inspired to write this based on vasectomies. I cannot tell you how many times I see vasectomies referred to as "just a snip". Women (it's always women) belittling, mocking, and diminishing men who aren't "man" enough to get a surgical procedure for their benefit. And every single time, there is ZERO mention of post-vasectomy pain risk.

This "small snip" can leave a man with debilitating, life-altering pain for the rest of his days. How often is this discussed in these circles pressuring men? How often are they given the FULL scope of disclosure by these so-called medical professionals that claim to have their best interests at heart?

I find this seemingly unrelated medical procedure so indicative of just how belittled and diminished men's issues really are by every facet of society. Domestic violence against men? Mocked, questioned, and silenced. Statistics thrown about even as they fail to see how those very DV rates are influenced by their campaign to shut out any men seeking justice. I myself suffered DV from an abusive partner and gave up reporting it because of how utterly biased the Australian government and police are towards men. Did you know the only male-specific resource in Australia for DV is a self-report line where men are supposed to turn themselves in as abusers? It is literally inconceivable to them that men could ever be a victim.

Again and again, the hits keep on coming. We are burnt up and ground to dust by a capitalist system that does not give a solitary fuck about us, our happiness, or even our own bodily autonomy. We are reduced to "snips" and other life-altering procedures like fucking livestock. Never given the opportunity to advocate for ourselves, from our very first 24 hours of life. We are asked to fall over ourselves in service to the women in our lives and the families we are obliged to create, even as those very same people robbed us of our very own bodily integrity for their own sick fetishes and cosmetic preferences.

Men are truly are the "L" gender. "Just a snip", indeed.

When you remove your cats claws in most countries that’s illegal when you go to jail because you’re removing a key part of their body they need is illegal to do it to an animal to your pet, but not another human? Why is it muted the same thing as getting your dog fixed when that’s literally the exact same thing? Why does a cat have more bodily autonomy than me? Why why your day protected more than humans at birth? I don’t understand.