r/FTMOver50

I’m 65, post-hysterectomy, married to a Bi man. I am hating the rituals/requirements of being F, and feel I would be soooo much happier as a gay M. I have 2 LGBTQ daughters who would probably deal ok, straight step-sons who would… not. My mother is 97, can’t even think about her reactions. Would my husband still love me as M - he has said he is sexually Bi but romantically leans towards F… ugh. Ironically I have breast implants because ex-husband wanted bigger boobs. Sick of them. And I think about aging, the M experience would be much better for me as I just do not enjoy the prospect of being an older F. So many barriers!

Anyone relate?

Have any of you come across this in your travels? I'm sure you probably have, as it seems to be fairly widespread.

I am over 50 and a couple of times now when dealing with cisgender medical practitioners, they have felt the need to "inform" me that because I am starting T at a later age, I will likely not get enough changes to fully pass.

This really pisses me off. I feel strongly that trans people do not need their expectations 'managed', especially not by cisgender people. Especially when we are older, we are usually well aware of the limitations of our options.

I don't think it's ever appropriate to tell a trans person that they're never going to pass. When you say that you are essentially saying to that person that they will never be accepted as the gender they identify with, which can be incredibly triggering and potentially life-threatening.

Whenever someone says, "You're too old to pass," what I hear is, "You might as well just end it now, you will never be a man." and then I have to go through a whole mental health and safety process to take care of myself and protect my well-being.

And no one can predict what outcome someone will get from T. It's different for everyone. If they really feel the need or the due diligence obligation to say something to temper expectations, they should just say, "We can't predict what your outcome will be or how your body will respond to testosterone."

So I guess I'm just wanting to hear your thoughts on all of this, any encouragement you can offer, and also anything that can help debunk this claim that someone my age is too old to ever be able to pass.

It's so discouraging, when I was excited about going on T and now I just feel deflated and heartbroken.

Is there anyone in CT that can recommend a men’s clothing store for a suit? I’m 5’1” and need a suit and ties for a birthday party and a wedding in September

Posted this a few days ago and reddit removed it with no explanation, so trying again. I'm 56, how could all this be coming up now? All the people I read about questioning are so much younger. I think I'm best described as gender fluid, but this is all new to me. I don't know if I want to give up occasional make up and sundresses, so I can't be REAL trans, right?

This kind of started for me after going on a few dates with a trans man I met on HER. I hadn't gotten to know any trans men before, and I'm just so curious with so many questions. It just became so much more real for me, like wow - you can actually DO this? Then down the internet rabbit hole I went. I feel like I'm crazy, maybe just going through a phase. But at my age? Anyway, I'm planning to start slow with a low dose of T. I think I'm just figuring it all out, and telling myself that that is okay.Trying to anyway.

I'll keep this short, I am writing a book placed in the 70s and I want to know realistically, how transitioning went for you. If you had to DIY, or the steps you had to go through to get perscription. More points if you can tell me what it was like and live(d) in the UK.