r/FTMOver50

"You're not *really* trans," is a thing that has, up until this week, beat me up since I came out 4 years ago. I didn't have any childhood memories of feeling out of place, I never had anything that so many other trans folks had to deal with, so it seemed a "sane" argument. But then, one evening, there it was, the thu line. To make this as short as possible, I grew up with severe abuse and neglect, had kids young, raised them in poverty, and now, finally divorced and financially stable, the dust has settled. I can see it so clearly now. Due to the abuse, I was detached from myself. I felt things, but I really didn't *feel* things. My trauma therapist showed me how I smooshed myself out of being. How could I have known? I crushed every part of me to survive. Now I look back: wanting the masculine version of my dead name the whole time, stealing Mom's eyeliner and drawing a beard on my face, not understanding why the other boys treated me differently since I was one of them, then horrible whole body dysphoria starting in my mid twenties, legally changing my name 20 years ago because I couldn't take it any more, then telling everyone I was "in drag" when putting on makeup to go to work as a hairdresser (they used to say in that industry makeup was mandatory: if you don't want to wear makeup, be a nurse), it's all there. Subtle, but there. I was there the *whole time.* I was so there that even my Evangelical sister says, while she doesn't believe trans is a thing, "yeah you've had this mental illness your whole life." "Mental illness." LOL

Ya know what? I'll take that. I have. And now I get to be me. 🏳️‍⚧️

A lot of good news! Here’s the part about trans records:

“New privacy protections for transgender Californians

In California, when transgender and nonbinary people change their names, gender and sex identifiers on official documents, those petitions are public records that have, in some cases, led to people being forcibly outed and harassed. […]

While a 2023 law already required courts to keep those records confidential for minors, the Transgender Privacy Act extends that protection to people of all ages this year. […]

SB 59 applies to any petition filed on or after July 1, and people with older records can request their records be made confidential as well. It also prohibits anyone other than the petitioner from posting confidential records online.”

Other new laws: Schools are required to have a gender-neutral bathroom, and middle and high schools have to print the Trevor Project hotlines on ID cards.

I absolutely hate this. It's awful what they're doing to the kids. The whole thing is awful. To be clear, I don't support this. That being said, maybe it will help. Maybe it will take some of the air out of the midterm elections though. Now that they are "protected" from "scary trans kids playing sports," where else they gonna go? They back to bathroom bans or whatever else nonsense they can cook up, but for now, until this country comes to its senses, this is one issue they can't hammer on. Maybe it will make the next few months a little more bearable. Or not. I don't know. I'm hoping. These poor kids. Fuck these assholes.

A federal judge has blocked Health and Human Services Secretary Robert F. Kennedy Jr.'s directive targeting gender-affirming care for transgender youth, ruling the policy exceeded his legal authority and violated federal administrative law. The decision prevents the federal government from using Medicare and Medicaid funding threats to pressure hospitals into ending medically accepted care while legal challenges continue.