r/FundieSnarkUncensored

I left the church 4 years ago. Been a witch less than a year. It’s seems like the fundie world I left is following me. The anti-trans laws being passed, dog whistles in everyday life, and marriage being the only way for my job to insurance my partner( they don’t recognize partnership or common law). I want to be free! Live without their rules and views being pushed on me.

Note: I struggle to separate marriage from the framework as women as property and 1 man 1 woman BS.

Is this: Jill is horrible, but David is the real villain of the two.

The Rods believe in the whole “biblical marriage/family” thing where the man has authority over his wife and kids (🤮). Jill for all her horribleness probably isn’t a free woman in the way most adult women are. I think her behavior on social media may have to do with wanting to escape a life where she’s controlled, used to be constantly pregnant, and potentially abused/beaten by her husband.

Is she abusive to the kids too? Probably. Is she also being abused? I would be extremely shocked if she wasn’t. Tim is a grown ass man who is 1000% responsible for his own actions. But men who are abusive toward their partners are often repeating a cycle.

I also don’t think we should assume that Jill being loud and acting completely unhinged on social media means she “wears the pants” in the relationship, which is a take I’ve seen here a lot. Just because David isn’t constantly word-vomiting on social media doesn’t mean he’s just a quiet, doofy oaf. (Which is partly why everyone called him Shrek - it was funny af but I don’t feel right using it any more).

(Side note: I would bet money that David is one of those conservative men who is weirdly paranoid about being tracked or having his data sold. I could see him having a flip phone. I feel like social media is not somewhere he spends time.)

I keep thinking back to one post I saw on the sub a long time ago. It was a photo of the kids sitting in the RV listening to David preach. It was like 12am and everyone looked exhausted. I have some experience with narcissists, and that photo honestly gave me chills. I remember thinking this man is bad news. Keeping your entire family awake late at night so they can sit there and listen to you monologue at them just struck me as such a weird control/narc thing.

It was on $21,465 a moment ago. One of the last donations was from Satan’s CanOGreenBeans.

This must be making Jill so furious - she’s never been able to manage a successful fundraiser like this, despite numerous attempts, but her notoriety is a big part of what’s making Heidi’s so successful.

I really hope Heidi raises enough for her legal fees and also to help with her living expenses for the months after her baby is born.

Not sure if this is a good fit or good idea, but here goes.

Some people (that's me!) snark here because Fundie world was our world.

"Train up a child in the way he should go; and when he is old, he will have so much shit to unpack." -- The Epistle of TalkListenTalk, Chapter 4, verse 20

I'm proposing a thread to put our own WTF Fundie anecdotes and/or resources for life after leaving.

I'm currently reading Fawning by Dr. Ingrid Clayton. It's quite good.