r/IATA

I (41-year-old female) have been dating this guy (52 year-old male), and I’ve recently noticed that he comments a lot on influencer girls on Facebook and Instagram. He’ll leave comments telling them how beautiful they look and things like that. I told him I find that to be inappropriate. I feel like it’s very embarrassing for him, considering all the other men commenting on these girls are old creepy guys (I know that’s mean to say but he is one that’s not doing himself any service just being a part of the men that give these girls attention), he even went so far to say that he’s not actually pursuing them (as if in some world he would ever have a chance or they would even care that he’s alive). He thinks that I am being ridiculous, and I feel disappointed that he can’t see how cringey this behavior is, I guess I also just feel hurt that he’d rather talk to these girls online instead of talking to me in reality, but I don’t know if I’m just being too critical of him . IATA?

Okay so its date night at his house and i come over he greets me with a spoon of mashed chick peas i initially tried a tiny bite and concluded I didnt like it. My bf decides that he wants me to try a bigger bite i said no i didnt like my first bite so trying it again wouldnt change my mind he kept pushing i kept saying no this went on for about 6-7 minutes. Eventually i told him if he kept pushing i would just go home and he said "why its chickpeas you will like it" i told him i already said no multiple times why is he over stepping my boundary and he laughs at that because he doesn't think its a boundary its a suggestion and i said "suggestions can be turned down ur not letting me turn you down" he still kept pushing trying to get me to lick the spoon so I went home now he feels like the situation is weird and im upset for him trying to force me to eat the chickpeas i told him i didnt like.

AITA?

I am 20 female and Ive been talking to a 22 male .

He is so nice , we have a lot in common and we have same project and everything went great then one time he was in my appartement and he lives far from me like 30 minutes road and because of the price of gas whom is expensive as hell (I live in France sorry for the mistakes ) I said to him if it wasn’t too expensive to come see me ans he said that it was still less expensive than to go to s*xworkers. I was so mad because everything went great and now I feel like he ruined it , I send him home and I explain that this comment made me feel bad , he apologized but I felt so bad I cried about it all day now he doesn’t send any messages , I liked him we had so much in common but everything is ruined maybe I overreacted but I feel bad about myself.

What should I do?