r/IncelSolutions

How to choose clothes to wear? I need help with fashion advice. This is my first time actually wearing proper clothes. I've tried to the choose the most oversized clothes I could find to cover up my fat fuck self in the past.

Now that I have lost weight, I have no idea what to do. I don't know where to ask for fashion advice without making a fool out of myself.

I want to try looking good for once in my dumb life.

How do I know whether these clothes fit me and make me look good? Please help me

Hello. I am 24 years old (5'4) and I will be turning 25 in December. I've been pretty much a NEET for the past 3 years due to my declining mental health/ED and nearing the 3rd year I fell into the BP rabbithole and ultimately ended up in a partial hospitalization program beginning of this year. So far for the past 10 months I've been in and out of treatment for my mental health and unmanaged eating disorder which probably contributed to the genetic failure of how I ended up looking since I was never truly nourished as a child simply because I never wanted to eat. Restricted and avoided a lot.

But to be quite honest with you I'm done trying to blame my problems on my upbringing or constant societal failures as to why I ended up this way. I'm tired of pity farming and I'm done having a victim mindset. I want to move past the hard shit I had to deal with in life and live the rest of it unbothered. I don't even want a relationship anymore because I fear of still having some sort of assumption they are with me because they feel bad or something of their own benefit. I am deeply insecure of myself and the way I look. Every single thing about myself physically and mentally. I hate it, for now at least.

I know I should focus on the things I can control but I get stuck up on the things I can't and it makes me bitter more and more everyday. I have no social skills and no sense of self control I pretty much let every inside thought be well heard in person and I get perceived a certain way everytime. I know that's one thing I need to work on but there's also the physical part I need to work on too. I'm still pretty skinny even though I've gained weight so I know the gym is something I'd be open to post treatment. But how do I approach social environments differently? At the very least I'd want a friend group but all of my past friend groups don't want anything to do with me because of how unhinged and insufferable I turned out to be. Disloyal, dishonest, hostile, etc. I don't wanna keep blaming society and women for the reason I am this way cause at the end of the day I decided to harbor these characteristics overtime.

Many people who've gone through worse than me but ended up being liked by others because of the way they showed up for them. I was always an annoying instigator/hostile being. This needs to change if I want a better shot at being accepted by society at least in a platonic way for my mid 20s. I need help with being actually making something out of myself even if romance never comes. I've tried clearing out my algorithm first and foremost. I want to try maybe going out more and practicing better social skills. Maybe going out to different social gatherings or events.

I need help with a moral dilema.

So my situation is that I never had a girlfriend or any relationship and now I found this girl that I'm kinda dating.

But for a while now I've been talking with two of my (incel) friends about women and objectifying them and having a very misogynistic opinion on them, but now that I'm in a relationship I don't know if I should keep on going with this mindset around them or if I should just come forth with my relationship.

Our friendship might be in danger if I do so. They aren't bad friends or anything, they're smart, funny and chill to hang around with, so I don't want to end the friendship just because of this.

I've tried to shift their opinions on women, but their just really against thet idea, saying that I've been "manipulated by those FO|DS"

I want to try just telling them but I don't want to ruin our friendship, as I said before.

What do I do?