(Parking/Nuisance Related)

Somewhere in Uttarakhand. Own house(15+ years) in a gali/mohalla type setting, not a society or something. Single occupant 33M.

There's a person in our locality who does tantric related work. Own house, living here for 6+years but started this thing recently.

For this, they've made a space in their house and calls it temple though structurally it's not(no kalash and dwaj).

The thing is, every Saturday and Tuesday, people come with their problem and park the vehicle(mostly car) outside our house. Their house is small and they've space to park only 1 two-wheeler.

I know the space outside my house is not mine, but this business is causing nuisance in following ways-

1. We can't park our vehicle outside of our own just for a moment, not to mention when guest or someone comes in our house they have to park here and there. "It's a public road, not someone's personal/commercial parking spot".

2. The municipality can't clean outside our house because of cars.

3. Sometimes, part of the vehicle comes(extends) in front of our gate.

4. Our house is at some elevation from the road. Since cars are parked just next to our maingate, we face trouble taking out our two-wheeler.

If I've a emergency, this would cause real inconvenience.

6. This thing temple or whatever is in the residential area and not registered.

7. A while back, i had an argument with them regarding something and i pointed out that they blast bhajan day and night. It has now come to morning and evening for a small duration.

8. Sometimes, when the driver opens the door, it touch our boundary: the paint and plaster have been slightly, but visibly, damaged due to this. In addition to this, a while back, this same family did put their construction material outside our house that has also damaged our wall.

This person's family member is in police(two star).

**For solution, I was suggested to talk to them(did it twice) and ask them nicely. There are the type who will argue at anything just to satisfy their ego.**

**Secondly, I've been told that i may get in a mess because family member is in police like fake FIRs, unnecessary bothering, etc.**

From my point of view,

\-The road belongs to public(the road width is such that if two cars are facing opposite, one has to stop to let other pass).

\- It isn't someone's personal or customer parking spot. Decent and respectable people mostly park their personal vehicle outside their own house(observed this in my city) and not cause any inconvenienceto others, but if someone's house is small and they are looking to park here and there, then that's a different thing.

\-Such kind of work is done in a remote area where there's less crowd.

\-I live alone maybe that's why they are bothering me by doing such things.

**- I can also park my vehicle outside their but it is very small, so there's difference in level also.**

I'm considering filing an application in sp office. I've pics of these frequent nonsense.

Suggestions, opinions, and advice regarding this would be much appreciated.

Thanks.

Woman disposing off trash in a Canadian lake caught by locals. Never understood this behavior by NRIs. These countries have plenty of trashcans everywhere and prompt collection services. What is it, these people cannot help it, and old habits for nostalgia?

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Although this sub is mostly for criticism, I'm glad you guys are aware that India still needs civic development. Sometimes I can't even convince my own family members to see the flaw in their lack of civic sense.

I have hope that one day India might improve.

Today, while travelling in a Mumbai local, I saw a man eating roasted chana and casually throwing the skins on the floor. Because of the breeze from the window, they were flying around the compartment and landing near other passengers. I politely asked him not to throw them since people were sitting there. Instead of understanding, he started showing attitude and said he would do whatever he wanted.

I told him that if he was throwing the waste, he should be the one to clean it. He replied, "Why should I clean it? If you have a problem, you clean it." An argument followed.

What bothered me was not just the few pieces of chana skin, but the attitude behind it. It reflects a much bigger problem with civic sense. Many people seem to believe that public spaces belong to nobody, so they can do whatever they want.

You see people eating and throwing garbage on the road, chewing tobacco and spitting everywhere, talking loudly in trains and buses, or simply ignoring basic rules of public behaviour. And when someone points it out, instead of accepting the mistake, they become defensive: "Why do you care?", "Everyone does it," or "Who are you to tell me?"

The irony is that most people would never throw garbage inside their own homes. But the moment they step into a public place, the responsibility seems to disappear.

Public space is not someone else's space. It belongs to all of us. Keeping it clean and respecting the people around us should be basic behaviour, not something that requires constant policing.

A country can build modern infrastructure, better roads and beautiful cities, but real development also requires people to learn how to coexist with others. Civic sense begins with small things — putting your waste in a bin, not spitting in public, keeping your voice down and respecting the people around you.

The problem isn't that people don't know what is right. The bigger problem is that many simply don't care.

Ego problem precedes Empathy problem

Many people say that India has an "Empathy problem" which leads to many societal bads such as corruption, crime, bad civic sense, etc.

But I believe the bigger problem is Ego problem. Ego is the precursor of declining empathy, let me explain.

Ego does many things:

For any change to happen, there has to be change in the mind. But the one thing that keeps the mind locked out of malleability is the chains of ego wrapped around it. It shoots away the beams of conflicting ideas, new information, or anything that challenges your existing beliefs. Such as people who are deadlocked in ideas such as:

1. Pseudoscience

2. Astrology

3. Homeopathy

4. Religion

5. Conspiracy Theories

6. Joingoism / Hyper Nationalism0

You cant reason with these people with facts on the table, but an ability to destroy ego first for any information to flow freely.

Ego further expands to the belief that what you do is always right, what you are , is always right.

Which leads to men in power, power tripping or over reaching. Such as : Corruption in public servantship and politics. For common folks, not following established rules such as law and civic sense.

Empathy is not a simple emotion which you can sometimes forget to display. Empathy is always within you.

It's just that the existence of ego alongside empathy has it's effect on empathy, making you weigh your empathy output differently for different people.

Which leads to other societal problems such :

1. Littering and bad civic sense in shared spaces, but keeping clean and healthy the spaces that MATTER TO YOU.

2. Caste, and color discrimination

3. Economic segregation of respect

Hence why I believe, our supreme objective should be destroying ego from the society.

Many old scriptures, scrolls, religious and philosophical texts have emphasized massively on the Ego problem, aka अहंकार and घमंड, but our dogla samaj somehow managed to skip the whole Idea together because to be able to Accept the ego problem, you have to be Ego-less in the first place.

Note: I am not a psychologist, this is just my general observation.

Appalled - was boarding a flight from Delhi to Abu Dhabi.
Went to a washroom nearby and was appalled at the state of it - some aunties were washing their literal feet in the basin

I went to the washroom next to it at a 2 minute walking distance. I complained to the cleaner lady that the washroom was dirty. She said “ I know - I just cleaned it. They were washing their feet no?”

These are apparently travelers for Me*ca and it seemed to be common practice. The cleaner lady said they have asked them to stop and no one listens.

I am going to write to the airport authorities.

I was literally disgusted - imagine a foreigner coming into the washroom and seeing this

Date: 15th August 2026

Place: Jabalpur Airport

Indigo flight from Jabalpur to Navi Mumbai got diverted due to bad weather.

As usual people started camping around the 4-5 Indigo airlines folks , asking questions etc. There was obviously no queue or , just a free for all.

The indigo personnel seemed either trained to handle this pressure or they have just become immune. After some time they started rescheduling some folks to the flight to Bengaluru and Hyderabad.

I was traveling with a super senior citizen and needed to check my options. Stood for a long time hoping there would be some space before I can pose my question.

In front of me was a young person with a very bad haircut (If you are reading this , please get a proper haircut. ). After hogging the desk for a long time and getting his flight rescheduled to Hyderabad, he turned his attention to culinary matters. He asked for complimentary snacks. The passengers around pointed those are available slightly away. He then ordered the booking folks to ensure the rescheduled ticket had Paneer tikka sandwich just like the original ticket. I along with the Indigo person lost my patience. But the indigo person had more tactical skills than me . He said something to the effect that it will be based on availability. This irked the passenger and he started arguing about the Paneer tikka sandwich. He pointed out the rescheduled boarding pass did not have PTSW code in service.

Highly insensitive and just plain privilege without any concern for other passengers. I am not sure if this is the effect of some drought that has made us to hoard onto small things like this .